What are you finding tough in your life right now? Perhaps you're not able to do all the things you used to do? Maybe your study or work situation has changed? Or have you experienced challenges or changes in your circles of friends?
Whatever that is for you, if you'd like relief from the toughness ask yourself "What am I enjoying about this?"
For example, what new, interesting things have filled the space created by you not doing all the things you used to do? Have you been thrust into a different, more stimulating field of study or work? Maybe you've discovered a wonderful new bunch of people who see what you see? And perhaps the toughness has opened your eyes and mind to previously undreamt of possibilities and new realities?
There has to be something you're enjoying about your situation, if you'll only ask the question and look. Otherwise, you are choosing it for what reason?
Maybe you simply enjoy a challenge?
Is there something you're saving to buy or own? A car? A house? A piece of land? A yacht? A business? A special outfit? Some jewellery? New furniture? How much effort do you go into preparing to own it?
Or maybe you have already made the purchase, and are now busy looking after it? Car, house, land, yacht, business? How's the maintenance, insurance, and loan repayments going? Light and easy? Clothing, jewellery, furniture? Do you obsess or fret over their security or cleanliness? Perhaps you're already dissatisfied with your purchase and have started planning to upgrade?
Did you know that ownership is one of the biggest lies of this reality? It's a lie that can trap you in an endless cycle of enslavement.
Not sure? Think of something you 'own,' like your car or house, and ask yourself "Who owns this?" Do you really own it? Or does it own you, bleating for your constant feeding and attention?
The only thing you can ever own is you. Are you willing to own you? When you are, what if rather than focusing on 'owning' other things to look after, you simply invited them to show up, and come and play in your life? Would that be easier and more fun?
Have you ever been completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, only to find one day that everything you held to be true, was in fact not true?
Like your 'till death do I part' loving partner, falling in love with someone else and walking out? Like a highly esteemed charity exposed as having committed crimes against children for centuries? Like a trusted authority urging you to use something, praising it as good for you, when actually it's very, very bad, like asbestos, DDT, smoking, or thalidomide to name just a few examples?
What else have you experienced that shattered your reality?
If you'd prefer not to experience that stomach sickening wrench of cognitive dissonance again, next time you find yourself completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, ask yourself "Are my eyes wide shut?"
This question is a simple reminder that you may be looking, but not seeing something hiding in plain sight. And remember, what's light is right for you.
When you ask questions about change, how often is your question focused on changing someone, or something outside yourself?
For example, you don't enjoy working in your family business; you do it to keep the incoming money in the family. So maybe you ask questions, like "What will it take for more customers to spend their money in the business?" or "What will it take for the other family members to do their jobs even better?" Your point of view being that the more income to the business, the easier it will be to hire someone to do your job. Or the better other family members do their job, the less you'll have to work.
You may create that outcome. Or you may create something completely different, including one which requires you to be even more involved. The opposite of what you're looking for.
To make sure you create the changes you'd actually like, be clear that your questions include you, by asking "Where am I in this?"
In this situation, you could ask "What will it take for the business to thrive and no longer require my labour, or something greater than I can imagine?"
Are you confused about something? Perhaps on one hand, you've got people telling you ABC, while on the other hand, you have different people telling you XYZ?
What do you do? Do you spend hours researching things on your own, fervently independent? Perhaps you've decided to 'trust the authorities' 100 per cent and switch off to anything that's not from them? Or maybe a combination of the two?
Is it easy? Are you clear? If not, ask yourself "What is hiding in plain sight?"
What if the truth is obvious, if only you look and see?
And of course, when you look and see something, ask yourself "Is this light for me?"
After all, both sides may well simply be polarities on a single line, each seeking to manipulate or limit your awareness. And an infinite being would be limited for what reason?
Do you know the old philosophical question "If a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, would it create a sound?"
One explanation is: sound is different frequencies of vibrations, and if no one is in the forest to hear it, those vibrations will not be converted into sound. So by that definition, there would be no sound.
So what about everything else? If something happens and you don't think it's a problem, but your mum does, is it a problem?
Unless you like problems, next time this happens ask yourself "What if I choose not to hear it?"
Then smile and say or think "Interesting point of view, mum."
How often do you discount the things you do?
Sure you can make an amazing coffee, but so what? Oh, yeah you can whip up a banquet for ten on whatever's left in the fridge, but who can't? Organising an event? Coming in under budget? Growing veggies? Entertaining kids? Finding a bargain in the charity shop and on-selling it for a profit? Juggling a few jobs? Connecting people? Feeding and raising a family with ease and joy? Listening to people? Whipping up a ballgown from the curtains? Making something work when everyone tells you it's broken. Getting what you want as if by magic when everyone tells you it can't be done?
What else? What's the one thing that you do amazingly well without trying or thinking about it? Don't know? Then ask yourself "What's my superpower?"
Whatever that thing is that you can do on your little finger without trying or thinking about it, are you willing to acknowledge it? Not everyone can do what you can, you know.
So rather than discount you, will you step into your life and be even more of you? What gift would that be to the world?
Right now, what are you aware of that every single person around you can't see?
When you talk about what you're aware of, what do they do? Do they listen patiently and kindly, smile and pat you on the shoulder and say "Sure, that's an interesting point of view. Not something I can see, but hey I'm here for you no matter what"?
Or do they laugh at you, gaslight you, bully you, call you crazy, tell you you're wrong, worthless, and stupid? Or maybe they just smirk and roll their eyes?
What do you do when someone spits on your point of view like this? Do you second guess yourself, capitulate, agree and align with their point of view? Does it become so heavy it pulls you down?
If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to have my own back?" When you're not willing to have your own back, you'll crumple at the whisper of someone else's doubt or scepticism, no matter how clear your awareness.
And the best thing about having your own back is that you'll see very clearly, very quickly anyone who doesn't.
Do you know what's right for you and how you'd prefer to create your life? Amazing!
How often do other people succeed in influencing the way you create your life, imposing their views on and controlling you? Never, sometimes, or all the time?
If it's more than 'never' and you'd like to change that, ask yourself "Am I holding my position?"
People will always try to manipulate you into doing what they'd like. And you're a nice person, right? So you smile and listen to them. And you're not as smart as them, right? So you think they must know better.
Truth, who know most about your life? You or someone else? Who cares most about you? You or someone else? You.
So next time you sense someone is seeking to distract you from what you'd like to do, and manipulate you into doing what they want, smile and ask them questions. For example "I'm sorry. I'm confused. Can you show me?" or "What do you mean by that exactly?" keeping you focused on what you know is best for you until they move out of your way.
And if it becomes clear they will never allow your position, smile and walk away.
Do you consider yourself a shy person? While everyone else around you seems to desire being seen and heard, do you prefer to be quietly unnoticed?
Have you made being shy a wrongness? Has someone else told you it's wrong and that you should change?
What if being shy wasn't what you thought it was? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I wasn't shy?"
Perhaps shyness is your ploy to get others to reach out to you? Rather than fending off the idiot moths who flock to the flame of celebrity, you're most content to wait quietly in the field for the right bee to find you.
There's nothing wrong with being shy if you're aware of your choice. So if you sense your shyness might come from obeying someone, sometime long ago telling you to shut up and keep your head down, ask "If I were me, who would I be?"
How often do you say 'sorry'?
Sorry I must be wrong. Sorry I probably don't know what I'm talking about. Sorry I got in your way. Sorry I shouldn't have said anything. Sorry I've made it worse.
What else are you sorry for?
Are you actually wrong? Do you really not know what you're talking about? Truth, are you getting in someone's way? Really shouldn't you say anything? Do you actually make things worse?
What is it about saying sorry that you value? Do you get something out of being a victim? Does someone like you to be weaker than them? Has your family entrained you to think that's what you're supposed to do?
If you would like to change this, ask yourself "Am I addicted to the wrongness of me?"
What if you weren't 'wrong'; you were just different? What gift could your difference be to the world?
Have you ever made a major purchase — a business, house, car, equipment, or an educational course or travel — only to find out as soon as you handed over the cash, you didn't receive what you thought you'd bought?
What about a job? Have you ever been in an interview, being asked 'do you have any questions?' and then asked no real question, or asked something not particularly useful?
If so, next time, ask this question to the seller or interviewer "Truth, what is the one thing I haven't asked you, that I should know about this thing/job"?
You don't know what you don't know. The only way is to ask. So ask: "What don't I know that you should tell me?"
Starting with the word 'truth' is a subconscious reminder that they must tell you what is true. Use it whenever you'd like to know what's really going on.
Do you have more than enough money to thoroughly enjoy every moment of you life?
If not, ask "What does having money mean to me?"
Have you decided you don't deserve it? (Do you deserve to breathe? No. But you do it anyway.) That you only need enough to get by and it's unfair to have too much? (If someone gets less, do you get more? No.) That you have to work your fingers to the bone to earn every little penny that comes your way? (Do some people play their whole life and have rivers of gold flow in? Yes.) What else?
When you get clear on your points of view are about having or accumulating money, then you can change them if you choose.
How? Ask some more questions. If you're stuck, start by using all the questions that come up here when you search "money" on this page.
What are you waiting for to end? A relationship? A job? An illness? A national or global situation?
Have you been suffering for a long time, spending your days dreaming and planning in fear, stress and worry about how to end it? Or perhaps you've finally made a choice to speak out, stand up, and take action to end it?
Have you decided that when you do, the 'bad' thing will end and you can go back to a normal or even better life? Do you have significant hopes and dreams about it and how your life will change?
If so, ask yourself "What if the end was the beginning?"
This question is designed to remind you that your life is a constant creation: your constant creation. Are you choosing to live it? Or are you waiting for someone to do something, or something to finish first?
Even if you aren't waiting, and you're taking action yourself, rather than focusing on the end, what if you consider your completion as a contribution to the next thing you can create? Where accomplishments are simply the beginning of something greater.
What do you consider possible? Anything? Or do you have certain limits?
What are those limits? For example, what if your doctor told you you had an 'incurable disease'? Would you ask questions, considering the possibility that nothing is incurable? Or would you plunge into fear, fight and flight, ultimately resigning to what the doctor tells you, and follow the prognosis downhill?
What other hard limits do you have, about money, people, reality, what else?
Whatever limits you sense, ask "Am I entrained?"
Entrainment is where you are pulled along so strongly by someone or something, that you end up disregarding your own instincts, common sense, imagination, knowledge and experience.
Why do people and organisations seek to entrain you? Money, power and control are three simple reasons to start with, and there are likely an infinite number of others.
Remember, placebo is a recognised medical effect; your body can respond to what the mind tells it. This question can help you to recognise your thoughts may not be your own, and to regain control over your own mind.
How many points of view do you have about what is good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Probably quite a few, if not all, give that is how we are currently entrained to operate.
Consider this: does the earth consider anything good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Is nature in a constant state of anger, rage, fury and hate over 'important' issues?
No. The earth is in total allowance of everything. It has no point of view about its inhabitants. Certainly volcanos erupt, earthquakes happen, animals eat other animals, and all these things occur without judgement or significance.
If people did not exist, would the earth continue to be abundant and generative? Absolutely.
So if you would prefer an abundant and generative life like earth, ask "Am I making this significant?" Then whenever you notice you're making something significant, laugh lightly and repeat "interesting point of view" to move you from the limited denseness of significance into the infinite freedom of allowance.
What are you addicted to? Substances like your morning coffee? Mid morning junk food hit? Lunchtime cigarette? Afternoon chocolate bar? Evening G&T? Dinner bottle(s) of wine?
Or actions like all night TV binges? A 24/7 grip on your phone? Constant social media checking? Wine and whine sessions with friends? Playing the blame game? Wallowing in your victim complex? And of course any of the 'normal' things people consider 'addictions'?
When you engage in the behaviour you consider an 'addiction', are you 100 per cent present, creating your life the way you'd like?
If not, ask yourself "What is the purpose of my addiction?" In other words, what awareness could you be having if you weren't being distracted by the thing(s) you're addicted to?
Then you get to choose. And if you'd like to have greater awareness and be free of distraction to create your life the way you'd prefer, ask "What will it take for me to change this?" and take action, no matter how small.
Do you actively choose to create every moment of your life every day?
What about when you're confronted with a challenging situation, when there are things you'd prefer to avoid, or even whole systems you'd like to change? Do you choose to stand up, to be seen and heard? Or do you choose to 'do nothing,' to sit quietly by, hoping it'll go away or change on its own?
When you choose to do nothing, are you really 'doing nothing'? No. Energy never disappears, it simply changes form. So when you choose not to do something (which you may call 'choosing to do nothing'), or you don't choose to take action, you are by default choosing the opposite.
In other words, when you think you're choosing 'nothing,' you are in fact handing over your life choices to anyone who chooses to make them for you.
Brain frozen? Probably. If you'd like to keep a firm grip on the reins of your life, whenever you find you're thinking of 'doing nothing' ask yourself "Am I choosing to live?"
Then ask yourself "What action could I take to create life I'd like?" No matter how small, choose it, just as long as it's not 'nothing.'
Thanks to Tom Barnett http://www.tombarnett.tv for this question.
How often do you hear someone say "good on you, you deserve that"? How often do you say it?
What does deserve mean to you? That you have to sacrifice or suffer to receive something? Some dictionary definitions are: to serve something zealously, to earn, to be worthy of, and to merit.
Consider this: does anything in nature 'deserve' what it receives? Do the birds need to be worthy of something to eat, drink and live a free life? No. So why should you have to?
If you'd prefer to live a joyous life, with ease and abundance, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to deserve?" What if instead of sacrifice and suffering, you choose to consciously create your life being the greatest contribution you can be?
And who exactly is reinforcing the idea that you should 'serve' them 'zealously'?
Do you ever feel tired, worried, drained, or simply at a loss as what to do?
If so, ask "What if I connected with nature?" Then go out in person and do it. Walk in the park. Hug a tree. Chat to the birds. Take your shoes and socks off and get your feet on the ground.
The worse that will happen is you'll get dirt on your feet. The best is your whole life may change. And at the very least, your body will thank you for the fresh air, sunlight and blood pumping around your body making you stronger and your mind clearer.
Have you ever considered the perfect, balanced, strong, simplicity of nature abundant with naturally replenishing resources? Ever noticed that every part of nature — with the exception of modern-day humans — can have everything it needs for an abundant life without needing to 'deserve' or pay for it?
What if you could have that too? What would that take? It all starts simply by connecting with nature and asking the question.
Are you ever confronted with things that don't make sense, or by people who seem to be living in a parallel reality?
Does it stress you out, or make you sick from worry? How angry, upset, or hurt do you get?
Do you know everything about everything in the universe? Probably not (yet at least). So rather than causing yourself discomfort, damage, or dis-ease, next time when you're confronted by someone or something that does not fit within your view of the world, ask "What is this teaching me?"
Then ask questions and find out more about it.
You may end up holding the same point of view you had before. Or you may change your point of view to match theirs. Or you may change your point of view in a completely different way.
Whatever the outcome, your questions will create new possibilities and expand your awareness.
If you're brand new, then you might also like to start from Q1 here and work your through to now? Or search for the topic of your choice above. What would you like to ask about? A relationship? Money? Work? Body? Health? Or life in general? Enter your keyword below and see what shows up!
Why questions? A question will always empower you to see and create more. An answer will only limit you to what you have decided is right.
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