How often have you been told that you must meet deadlines at any cost, or finish everything you start otherwise you're a failure? Do you think if only you didn't procrastinate you'd be happier, more successful and make more money?
Just because other people tell you something, does it mean it's true? Only if you agree with them. So what if procrastinating wan't what you thought it was? What if it was an expression of your awareness that the energy had moved on and something else was required? What if it was an indication of your boredom, prompting you to find something you truly enjoy so you could make a greater contribution? Or maybe it was telling you that you weren't yet fully equipped to do the job that was required? So next time you find you're beating yourself up over not doing things 'on time' or telling yourself your no good because you didn't meet someone else's expectations, ask "What's right about my go slow?" Notice what comes to mind and ask "What action can I take?"
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Has anyone ever been angry with you to try and distract you from seeing what was true, either so you wouldn't see it, or so they didn't have to look at it?
For example, when you question someone because you sense they were lying. Did they get angry or indignant and say things like "I can't believe you are questioning me?!" Did that make you angry? Do you get angry when people say things about you that aren't true? One useful thing to know about angry is that it can indicate a lie. So next time you feel anger rising, ask yourself "Is there a lie spoken or unspoken here?" You will know. And if you'd like more clarity, stop and ask the other person "What do you mean by that?" Then listen. Asking questions in the face of anger will move you from the auto-response of reaction, to the freedom of action, so you can create what you'd really prefer. Do you like change?
Do you get excited when a new gadget is announced? When your work/life is rearranged? Your holiday plans are suddenly upended? When someone you regard highly does something you didn't expect? When your favourite coffee shop closes? Or do you become annoyed, worried, frustrated, even angry? Do you try to make someone right or wrong? Do you start thinking something is "wrong with the world" and lament "if only things didn't change?" What if nothing were wrong? What if change was needed to create something even greater? So next time you feel uncomfortable about a change, ask "What if change were required?" Then smile and enjoy what shows up next. Have you had a bad day...week/month/YEAR? Did you bump into someone's parked car when you were backing down the driveway? Did you get a bill 10 times what you were expecting? Did youfind out the times had changes on an event you'd been promoting, an hour before it was due to start? Did you create a fight when you thought you were being helpful? Did someone tell you how much rubbish you are? did you have ALL of these in one day?
Do you feel like crying? Having a stiff drink? Jumping off a cliff? Something else? If you'd like something else, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Then ask "What would make me giggle right now?" Remember when you were five, and everything made you giggle? Find ONE thing and pull that energy through you, and keep looking for MORE thinks, until you lighten, smile...and maybe even giggle. Even if it's to giggle at yourself for being Cute, Not Bright. Are you comfortable with money? Or do you struggle with it and never seem to have enough? Even if you're not living hand-to-mouth, do you have the feeling you don't have as much as you need to do all the things you enjoy?
Or perhaps you've defined the things you enjoy to fit within the limited amount of money you've decided you have available to you? What is your point of view about money? That it's greedy to have too much? There's not enough to go around? If you have a lot, then someone else will miss out? That you don't deserve it? It won't bring happiness? What else? Are these points of view true? They are if they are your point of view. Remember, your point of view creates your reality. So, if you'd like to change your point of view about money and create greater ease with it, ask "What's the value of having no money?" If you discover there is little value, ask some more questions like "What if everything about money was for the fun of it?" and "If time and money weren't the issue, what would I choose?" Do you push yourself hard? Are you the sort of person who says "If I'm going to to this, I'm going to do it well and on time?" And do you keep going even when you're exhausted?
Certainly, you probably feel satisfaction in getting things done. How often do you find yourself a physical, mental, or emotional wreck at the end of, or even during the process? What if you could achieve an even greater result without the physical, mental, and emotional fatigue? If you'd like to find out what's possible, next time you notice you've set yourself a MUST DO — for example, exercise X times a week, get a new business up and running, meet a work project deadline — ask "Body, would you like to rest?" Then listen to and honour your body. What if the space between your DOING, ie your REST, was where your body, brain, and being relaxed to allow your ideas and energy to flow to you in even greater amounts? |
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