Have you ever made a major purchase — a business, house, car, equipment, or an educational course or travel — only to find out as soon as you handed over the cash, you didn't receive what you thought you'd bought?
What about a job? Have you ever been in an interview, being asked 'do you have any questions?' and then asked no real question, or asked something not particularly useful? If so, next time, ask this question to the seller or interviewer "Truth, what is the one thing I haven't asked you, that I should know about this thing/job"? You don't know what you don't know. The only way is to ask. So ask: "What don't I know that you should tell me?" Starting with the word 'truth' is a subconscious reminder that they must tell you what is true. Use it whenever you'd like to know what's really going on.
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What are you waiting for to end? A relationship? A job? An illness? A national or global situation?
Have you been suffering for a long time, spending your days dreaming and planning in fear, stress and worry about how to end it? Or perhaps you've finally made a choice to speak out, stand up, and take action to end it? Have you decided that when you do, the 'bad' thing will end and you can go back to a normal or even better life? Do you have significant hopes and dreams about it and how your life will change? If so, ask yourself "What if the end was the beginning?" This question is designed to remind you that your life is a constant creation: your constant creation. Are you choosing to live it? Or are you waiting for someone to do something, or something to finish first? Even if you aren't waiting, and you're taking action yourself, rather than focusing on the end, what if you consider your completion as a contribution to the next thing you can create? Where accomplishments are simply the beginning of something greater. What do you consider possible? Anything? Or do you have certain limits?
What are those limits? For example, what if your doctor told you you had an 'incurable disease'? Would you ask questions, considering the possibility that nothing is incurable? Or would you plunge into fear, fight and flight, ultimately resigning to what the doctor tells you, and follow the prognosis downhill? What other hard limits do you have, about money, people, reality, what else? Whatever limits you sense, ask "Am I entrained?" Entrainment is where you are pulled along so strongly by someone or something, that you end up disregarding your own instincts, common sense, imagination, knowledge and experience. Why do people and organisations seek to entrain you? Money, power and control are three simple reasons to start with, and there are likely an infinite number of others. Remember, placebo is a recognised medical effect; your body can respond to what the mind tells it. This question can help you to recognise your thoughts may not be your own, and to regain control over your own mind. What are you addicted to? Substances like your morning coffee? Mid morning junk food hit? Lunchtime cigarette? Afternoon chocolate bar? Evening G&T? Dinner bottle(s) of wine?
Or actions like all night TV binges? A 24/7 grip on your phone? Constant social media checking? Wine and whine sessions with friends? Playing the blame game? Wallowing in your victim complex? And of course any of the 'normal' things people consider 'addictions'? When you engage in the behaviour you consider an 'addiction', are you 100 per cent present, creating your life the way you'd like? If not, ask yourself "What is the purpose of my addiction?" In other words, what awareness could you be having if you weren't being distracted by the thing(s) you're addicted to? Then you get to choose. And if you'd like to have greater awareness and be free of distraction to create your life the way you'd prefer, ask "What will it take for me to change this?" and take action, no matter how small. Do you actively choose to create every moment of your life every day?
What about when you're confronted with a challenging situation, when there are things you'd prefer to avoid, or even whole systems you'd like to change? Do you choose to stand up, to be seen and heard? Or do you choose to 'do nothing,' to sit quietly by, hoping it'll go away or change on its own? When you choose to do nothing, are you really 'doing nothing'? No. Energy never disappears, it simply changes form. So when you choose not to do something (which you may call 'choosing to do nothing'), or you don't choose to take action, you are by default choosing the opposite. In other words, when you think you're choosing 'nothing,' you are in fact handing over your life choices to anyone who chooses to make them for you. Brain frozen? Probably. If you'd like to keep a firm grip on the reins of your life, whenever you find you're thinking of 'doing nothing' ask yourself "Am I choosing to live?" Then ask yourself "What action could I take to create life I'd like?" No matter how small, choose it, just as long as it's not 'nothing.' *** Thanks to Tom Barnett http://www.tombarnett.tv for this question. Do you ever feel tired, worried, drained, or simply at a loss as what to do?
If so, ask "What if I connected with nature?" Then go out in person and do it. Walk in the park. Hug a tree. Chat to the birds. Take your shoes and socks off and get your feet on the ground. The worse that will happen is you'll get dirt on your feet. The best is your whole life may change. And at the very least, your body will thank you for the fresh air, sunlight and blood pumping around your body making you stronger and your mind clearer. Have you ever considered the perfect, balanced, strong, simplicity of nature abundant with naturally replenishing resources? Ever noticed that every part of nature — with the exception of modern-day humans — can have everything it needs for an abundant life without needing to 'deserve' or pay for it? What if you could have that too? What would that take? It all starts simply by connecting with nature and asking the question. Are you ever confronted with things that don't make sense, or by people who seem to be living in a parallel reality?
Does it stress you out, or make you sick from worry? How angry, upset, or hurt do you get? Do you know everything about everything in the universe? Probably not (yet at least). So rather than causing yourself discomfort, damage, or dis-ease, next time when you're confronted by someone or something that does not fit within your view of the world, ask "What is this teaching me?" Then ask questions and find out more about it. You may end up holding the same point of view you had before. Or you may change your point of view to match theirs. Or you may change your point of view in a completely different way. Whatever the outcome, your questions will create new possibilities and expand your awareness. Are you a serious person, deeply concerned about family, community, and world affairs? Are you always focused, earnest, and diligent?
How much do you laugh with sheer delight and joy? Not much? Perhaps you decided somewhere consciously or unconsciously that to laugh is to be frivolous? If so, and you'd like another possibility as yourself "What could my laughter contribute?" What if instead of going about your life carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you laughed your way through with a lightness of being as you create your lived adventure? What could the vibration of your laughter heal? For example, next time you find yourself in a heated 'debate' (fight), instead of getting all cranky pants and righteous, what if you burst out giggling with real joy and said "You know what, you're probably right. Goodness I make myself laugh sometimes!" Then smile and walk away. What crinkles in the universe could your laughter make for new possibilities to squeeze through? How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?" What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.) Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates. Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else. When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it. What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then? How many layers of protective personality do you find yourself wearing to suit every situation?
For example, the good son/daughter, the generous parent, the smart student, the diligent employee, the kind woman, the strong man, the understanding sibling, the polite stranger, the charismatic leader, the good-hearted volunteer? What else? How do you feel under all those layers? Light and breezy? Or a bit heavy and stifled? If you'd like to shed a few tonne, ask "What if I didn't need a facade?" What if you were, well just simply, you in ever situation? This is who you are and others can accept that, or not. Would you feel lighter, like caked on makeup or mud has been washed away after how many decades? Would your real smile finally be seen? What amazing changes might that create? And even if some people leave your life because they decide the real you is not for them, what other amazing people might show up? On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away? Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like. Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?" Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities? What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort? When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable? If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?" Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater? What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action? You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices. Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing? To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?" And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?" Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot. Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change. When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them? How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?" Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears? Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side. Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better? What do you do when something goes 'wrong' for you? For example, you've asked a question, made a choice, had an awareness, followed the energy...and then things didn't turn out how you thought they would.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice? If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?" There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found. How many things are you worried about at the moment? Nothing, a few things, or almost everything?
Is someone telling you that you must do certain things, that you'd prefer not to do, and you're trying to figure out a way around it? Or perhaps you'd like to do something, and are being told you can't? If so, and you'd like to change it ask "Am I playing in the storyline?" People will always create a narrative and tell you a story to make you feel that you have no choice, and that you must do what they want you to do. This question will prompt you to ask a question about the reality you'd like to create that suits you, rather than being focused on how to do/avoid doing what someone is telling you can can't/must do, ie playing in someone else's storyline. The reality is you are an infinite being with infinite possibilities and you always have a choice. You just have to make it. And who knows what will ripples your choice will create? What points of view do you have about your body? Are you happy with it? Do you tolerate it at best? Or maybe you outright hate it?
How's your body doing? Does it serve you well? Are you fit and healthy? Maybe it has a few aches and pains? Or perhaps you have a chronic illness, or are even near death? Think of a pet or a plant. Scientific studies show that when you project happy positive actions and thoughts toward your pet or plant, they thrive. And if not, well...no prizes for guessing what happens. Whatever is going on with your body, if you'd like to create something even better, ask "What if I loved my body?" Do you find yourself often depressed?
Do you enjoy being depressed? Does it work for you? If it does, no problem. If not and you'd like not to be depressed ask yourself "Is this depression mine, or someone else's?" When it lightens, say "Return to sender with consciousness." Maybe you've grown up with a parent who was depressed and tried to take the depression away from them? Perhaps you're surrounded by a world of people overflowing with despair and you're body is soaking it up? Whatever the source, it doesn't matter. If it's not yours, just ask it to leave. On the other hand, if you're choosing depression ask yourself "What if instead of spending all my energy to create depression, I simply enjoyed my day?" And if none of that changes your depression, ask "What do I love about this?" and "What's the value of this?" Do you have someone in your life who is choosing to do things to themselves that you know will hurt them?
Have you tried everything to make them listen to you and stop? Has it worked? If not, ask yourself "What if I truly cared?" True caring is allowing someone to do exactly what they choose to do until they choose to change or die. None of that is your fault. And if they change their behaviour, it is their choice and not because you told, convinced, bribed, coerced or forced them to do it. Be aware that when you totally care for someone, you can create the same issues for yourself. How? You'll notice their problems, duplicate them as a way to figure out how to fix them, then you'll forget that the problems weren't yours to begin with, and you'll be stuck with them. In this case, simply ask "Who does this belong to? Return to sender with consciousness." Are you trying to tell someone about something important? You've got clear evidence about something that you know your friends/family/partner/colleagues should really know about and you're desperate to tell them. It might even be a matter of life and death, or maybe you're excited and think they'd be really interested?
Has it been easy to tell them? Every time you open your mouth have they shouted you down/belittled you/gaslighted you/rolled their eyes/walked away/what else? And yet you keep trying, right? If you'd like to create a different dynamic, then ask yourself "What if I just shut up?" Then stop talking. Then next time when someone asks "How have you been?" or "What are you doing these days?" try describe in in one word. When they ask "What's that mean?" have one short sentence to describe what it is, and say it in a tone of voice like it's boring and that you don't really want to talk about it. For example, I might say say "freedom." Often they reply "Freedom for what?" to which I reply "Freedom to change anything you'd like in life that isn't working the way you'd like." Another goodie is "Oh, your life is fine, you wouldn't be interested." When people think you don't want to tell them something, they will often be inspired to ask questions. Questions create possibility and this is a small opening for you to invite them to consider something they might never have thought of before. How? Ask them a question, For example "Well what don't you feel you're free to do in your life right now?" and then "Any ideas about how you could change that?" Shut up. Listen. Smile. Question. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Have you ever had someone judge you for doing something — that you knew was not true — and wondered if they were actually talking about what they were doing? For example, when a partner accuses you of cheating on them (and you know you're not), did it occur to you that they might be doing the cheating?
Did you know that people will accuse you of the things they're doing, or about to do, so you won't see what's actually going on? Instead of seeing the truth about what's going on (which is usually quite obvious), you'll be distracted by compulsion to fight and defend yourself, or you'll slink away feeling bad and wrong about yourself. When this happens, do you get angry? Anger in these circumstances can indicate a lie: the lie the other person is telling. So, if you'd like to stay aware of what is going on and extract yourself from someone's control, ask yourself "Does this anger indicate a lie?" If you sense it does, all you need to do is to notice your anger, recognise the accusation is a lie, don't buy it as real, and you won't be impacted by it. Be in allowance of them and you. Don't defend or judge it because if you align and agree, or resist and react, you are buying it as true. Instead ask questions. "What is this? Would I like to change it? Can I change it? If so how? You may not have to do anything. You may simply have to acknowledge it to change it. And, if you'd like to have some fun and get yourself off auto-pilot. play this game in your head. Whenever someone says "You are mean" tell yourself "Aaah, they're telling me they are mean" or when someone says "You judge me all the time" tell yourself "Aaah, they are telling me they judge themselves/me all the time" And so on. Play with it. At worst it might just keep you distracted from being distracted. How much are you focused on destroying something? You've seen something 'bad' or 'wrong' in the world, and so you're do everything in your power to destroy it.
Does it preoccupy you 24/7, tire or even exhausted you? How much energy do you spend on creating what you'd like instead? A lot, a little or not much at all? If you'd prefer to create what you'd actually like with greater ease, ask "What if I didn't have to destroy to create?" What if instead of gifting your energy to what you DON'T desire, you gifted it entirely to what you DO desire? What amazing things would you create then? Do you ever feel weird or wrong? You're not quite sure what it is, but something is just not quite right.
Or when everything in your life seems to be going along really well, but then takes a dive. Or when things start, then stop, then start, then stop over and over, keeping you stuck and going no where? If so, ask "What am I aware of that I don't want to be aware of?" Whatever comes to mind, notice it, ask another question and make another choice. Asking a question and making a choice creates awareness. not an answer. What if you considered your life to be a constant creation of ease, joy and abundance, rather than a quest for a perfect answer? Are you amazed at the miracle you be? Or have you decided that you're nothing special or good-for-nothing?
Whatever your point of view about yourself is, you're not wrong. Remember, your point of view creates your reality. So if you're not ecstatically happy with your life and living, and would prefer an amazing, miraculous life, then ask "What miracle am I that could change this?" What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you simply needed to change your point of view? Do you have people energetically crowding in on you, feeding off your energy like vampires?
Do you find yourself putting up barriers to keep them at bay? Does this tire, even exhaust you? If you'd like a different experience do this. Whenever you feel claustrophobic, hemmed in on all sides, ask "Am I space?" Then push whatever barriers you've constructed all the way down and expand energetically out in all directions to infinity and beyond, and allow whoever and whatever is crowding in on you all the space they need. Can vampires hook their teeth into space? |
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