What am I making having this about?

What have you made the answer to your life?

Relationship? "When I find The One I'll be happy"

Money? "When I have $XXX in the bank I'll be secure"

Work? "When I get that job my parents will see I'm successful"

Happiness? "When people admire my work I'll feel respected"

Will these things in themselves make you feel happy, secure, validated or successful? Or does your point of view create your reality?

If you didn't have the point of view you lacked something, would you feel dissatisfied and unhappy?

So when you're feeling less than or dissatisfied with your life as it is, and you hear yourself repeating "When I have X, I'll be Y" or "If only I had X, I'd be Y" ask "What am I making having X about?"

Then notice what the real target of your desire (Y) is and ask "What will it take to be Y now?"