Qs Week 33 - Days 225-231
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Day 225 - What if I didn't need to defend anything?
How often do you defend yourself? A lot or a little?
When you stick up for something you're being, doing, having, or that you believe in, do you use emotional enthusiasm, exclaiming "oh this is GREAT and I got SO much out of it and if ONLY you try it I'm SURE you'll get something out of it too?!!!? "
Or perhaps you use intellectual prowess, trying to suffocate your opponents in piles of...smarts?
Whatever approach, how does it work? Do you enjoy it and does it create the result you desire? Or do people judge you a weird, whacky and wrong, and run away no matter what you say?
Would you like more people to see what you see? If so, ask "What if I didn't need to defend anything?" Then, when you feel the urge to defend, simply smile and say "Yes, you're right."
What if by removing the defensive barrier people are used to pushing up agains, you created the space for them to question? In that space, what might they see?
When you stick up for something you're being, doing, having, or that you believe in, do you use emotional enthusiasm, exclaiming "oh this is GREAT and I got SO much out of it and if ONLY you try it I'm SURE you'll get something out of it too?!!!? "
Or perhaps you use intellectual prowess, trying to suffocate your opponents in piles of...smarts?
Whatever approach, how does it work? Do you enjoy it and does it create the result you desire? Or do people judge you a weird, whacky and wrong, and run away no matter what you say?
Would you like more people to see what you see? If so, ask "What if I didn't need to defend anything?" Then, when you feel the urge to defend, simply smile and say "Yes, you're right."
What if by removing the defensive barrier people are used to pushing up agains, you created the space for them to question? In that space, what might they see?
Day 226 - What can I be, do, or say that will put this ELF into question?
Do you have people in your life who are always saying or doing mean things to you and others just for the fun of it? Those Evil Little Freaks — ELFs, or use any other word starting with F — who take delight in pushing your buttons?
Do they upset you? Do you scratch your head and wonder what you could do to stop them from being mean, and make them nice like you? What have you tried so far? Did that work?
Can you ever change the way someone behaves? Not unless they choose to change. ELFs do what they do because they enjoy it. Will they change it because someone else doesn't like it? Probably not.
So what can you do? Crinkle their universe with a question. Start asking yourself "What can I be, do, or say that will put this ELF into question?"
It could be as simple as acknowledging them, playing blonde, asking without heat of judgement "That's fascinating! What exactly do you mean?" then listen. Repeat.
Do they upset you? Do you scratch your head and wonder what you could do to stop them from being mean, and make them nice like you? What have you tried so far? Did that work?
Can you ever change the way someone behaves? Not unless they choose to change. ELFs do what they do because they enjoy it. Will they change it because someone else doesn't like it? Probably not.
So what can you do? Crinkle their universe with a question. Start asking yourself "What can I be, do, or say that will put this ELF into question?"
It could be as simple as acknowledging them, playing blonde, asking without heat of judgement "That's fascinating! What exactly do you mean?" then listen. Repeat.
Day 227 - What choice will be the greatest contribution to my life?
Are you looking to make changes in your life? Getting a new job? Starting (or ending) a relationship? Maybe even moving interstate? Getting a new hair style or tattoo? Or taking a stand on a global issue?
How do you know what choice to make? Have you listed all the pros and cons? Asked your family and friends? Looked into the crystal ball or Googled 'best choice'? Still stuck?
Are you looking for the 'right' choice? What if there were no right choice? What if there were simply a choice?
Are you willing to give up 'getting it right'? If so, ask "Which choice will be the greatest contribution to my life and living in these 10 seconds?" Then notice what comes to mind.
It might not match your logical choice. Sense your choices and notice which feels heavy or light, which makes your heart pound (excitement misidentified as fear?), and which matches the energy of the life you'd like.
Then just choose. Choice creates awareness. And you can always choose again.
How do you know what choice to make? Have you listed all the pros and cons? Asked your family and friends? Looked into the crystal ball or Googled 'best choice'? Still stuck?
Are you looking for the 'right' choice? What if there were no right choice? What if there were simply a choice?
Are you willing to give up 'getting it right'? If so, ask "Which choice will be the greatest contribution to my life and living in these 10 seconds?" Then notice what comes to mind.
It might not match your logical choice. Sense your choices and notice which feels heavy or light, which makes your heart pound (excitement misidentified as fear?), and which matches the energy of the life you'd like.
Then just choose. Choice creates awareness. And you can always choose again.
Day 228 - Who or what is limiting me today?
Think of one thing you'd really like to be, do, have in life today. Got it?
Now think of all those reason and justifications why you don't be, do, have it today. Got them?
What were they? You can't take the day off work? You don't have the money? You don't have anyone to help you? You've got too much else to do? You're not ready? You're not good enough? You'd be letting other people down? What would people think?
Are these really what stand in your way? Or is it your point of view about these things? What would happen if you changed your point of view?
If you'd like to create more possibility in your life, and less of the "I can't because..." ask yourself "Who or what is limiting me today?" and "What else would be possible if I changed my point of view?"
Who is the one who limits you really?
Now think of all those reason and justifications why you don't be, do, have it today. Got them?
What were they? You can't take the day off work? You don't have the money? You don't have anyone to help you? You've got too much else to do? You're not ready? You're not good enough? You'd be letting other people down? What would people think?
Are these really what stand in your way? Or is it your point of view about these things? What would happen if you changed your point of view?
If you'd like to create more possibility in your life, and less of the "I can't because..." ask yourself "Who or what is limiting me today?" and "What else would be possible if I changed my point of view?"
Who is the one who limits you really?
Day 229 - Who or what am I fighting?
Who or what don't you like? Evil corporations? Hipsters? Politicians? Missionaries? Governments? Activists? Salespeople? Big pharma/agribusiness? Vegans? Carnivores? Social media giants? Mainstream media? Conspiracy theorists? Who or what else?
Which group of people do you find yourself poking fun at, criticising, or in a fight about at least once a day? When you talk about these people or groups, does your blood pressure rise and your heart beat faster? Do you frown and your voice tone rise? How do you feel? Great? Or not so good?
What is it about these people and/or groups that makes you talk about them constantly? What in YOU do they spark or explode into a fire of reaction?
When you fight, how free are you to act to create the life you'd like? Or does the fight control you and keep you frozen in reaction against it?
If you don't feel so good and would like to free yourself from the fight, ask "Who or what am I fighting?" Is it YOU? What if you didn't need to fight you? What if you instead asked "What's right about this I'm not getting and what else is possible?"
Which group of people do you find yourself poking fun at, criticising, or in a fight about at least once a day? When you talk about these people or groups, does your blood pressure rise and your heart beat faster? Do you frown and your voice tone rise? How do you feel? Great? Or not so good?
What is it about these people and/or groups that makes you talk about them constantly? What in YOU do they spark or explode into a fire of reaction?
When you fight, how free are you to act to create the life you'd like? Or does the fight control you and keep you frozen in reaction against it?
If you don't feel so good and would like to free yourself from the fight, ask "Who or what am I fighting?" Is it YOU? What if you didn't need to fight you? What if you instead asked "What's right about this I'm not getting and what else is possible?"
Day 230 - What if paying for things I love were a joy?
How is your money situation? Flowing nicely? Or do you find it hard to get customers and clients to pay you on time, or ever? Do you find people seem interested in your work, but always seem reluctant to spend money on it?
What are your own points of view about paying for things?
Are you happy to pay on time for the things you love? Or do you consider it a fun challenge to try and get everything for free, or as cheaply as possible? Maybe you even try to avoid paying at all costs, or at least pay as late and as little as possible?
What impact are your points of view about paying having on payments flowing into your own business?
What if by you paying with a generosity of spirit to bring the things you desire into your life, and honouring their creator, you are generating an invitation for more to flow your way?
If you'd like to find out, ask "What if paying for things I love were a joy?" And the pay on time with a smile.
What are your own points of view about paying for things?
Are you happy to pay on time for the things you love? Or do you consider it a fun challenge to try and get everything for free, or as cheaply as possible? Maybe you even try to avoid paying at all costs, or at least pay as late and as little as possible?
What impact are your points of view about paying having on payments flowing into your own business?
What if by you paying with a generosity of spirit to bring the things you desire into your life, and honouring their creator, you are generating an invitation for more to flow your way?
If you'd like to find out, ask "What if paying for things I love were a joy?" And the pay on time with a smile.
Day 231 - How can I use this to my advantage?
Do you think you have to always put other people first? And if you don't, you're being selfish?
How does that work for you? Are you always taking care of other people's needs, wants, complaints, and cares before yours?
Have you been able to create the life you'd really like? Or are you tired, frustrated, and losing money or your health from helping other people?
If you've been doing everything other people want, thinking that it will help you, and you'd now like a change, start here.
No matter who or what comes across your path, ask "How can I use this to my advantage?" and take notice. There may be something. There may be nothing.
The point is to consider — honour — you first. What if by you considering you above all else, you contributed more to others than you could ever imagine? Is that being selfish?
How does that work for you? Are you always taking care of other people's needs, wants, complaints, and cares before yours?
Have you been able to create the life you'd really like? Or are you tired, frustrated, and losing money or your health from helping other people?
If you've been doing everything other people want, thinking that it will help you, and you'd now like a change, start here.
No matter who or what comes across your path, ask "How can I use this to my advantage?" and take notice. There may be something. There may be nothing.
The point is to consider — honour — you first. What if by you considering you above all else, you contributed more to others than you could ever imagine? Is that being selfish?