Qs Week 34 - Days 232-238
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Day 232 - What if I didn't need to be consistent?
Have you grown up thinking you needed to make a decision and stick to it? That you had to figure out the right way to live and abide by that?
Do you get confused by apparently differing advice? For example, to pay for things you love with a generosity of spirit on one hand, while asking how you can use people and things to your advantage on the other?
Is life always the same? Are people consistent? How often have you been disappointed when people and situations didn't meet your expectations?
If you'd like to create your life, rather than react to its inconsistencies, ask "What if I didn't need to be consistent?"
What if instead of trying to figure out a fool-proof method of living your life on autopilot, you stayed fully alert to all the possibilities in each moment of your life, and chose the approach that best suited you in that moment?
You will probably appear inconsistent to everyone else. Does that matter? Only if you want a life like everyone else's.
Do you get confused by apparently differing advice? For example, to pay for things you love with a generosity of spirit on one hand, while asking how you can use people and things to your advantage on the other?
Is life always the same? Are people consistent? How often have you been disappointed when people and situations didn't meet your expectations?
If you'd like to create your life, rather than react to its inconsistencies, ask "What if I didn't need to be consistent?"
What if instead of trying to figure out a fool-proof method of living your life on autopilot, you stayed fully alert to all the possibilities in each moment of your life, and chose the approach that best suited you in that moment?
You will probably appear inconsistent to everyone else. Does that matter? Only if you want a life like everyone else's.
Day 233 - Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?
When people ask you for something, how quickly do you respond?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out?
When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing?
One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"?
No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?"
What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out?
When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing?
One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"?
No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?"
What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine?
Day 234 - If I choose this, what will my life be like in five years?
Think of something you're looking at making a choice about. It might be whether to renew your work contract or apartment lease, to call someone and invite them on a second date or to set them straight about an issue you know they got wrong, to invest some money in your business or yourself, or to take a stand and change the world. Or something else.
Are you finding it easy? Or are you stressing and stalling, trying to work out the 'right' (or at least not the 'wrong') choice?
What if there were not 'right' choice? What if there were simply choice? And if you're willing to notice it, every choice offers you a greater awareness and more possibilities.
So now, or the next time you'd like to make a choice, ask "If I choose this, what will my life be like in five years?" and notice what comes to mind. Then make a choice.
Every choice contributes something to your life. It's only your point of view that determines its value. And what is the value of deciding something is 'bad' when you can simply choose again?
Are you finding it easy? Or are you stressing and stalling, trying to work out the 'right' (or at least not the 'wrong') choice?
What if there were not 'right' choice? What if there were simply choice? And if you're willing to notice it, every choice offers you a greater awareness and more possibilities.
So now, or the next time you'd like to make a choice, ask "If I choose this, what will my life be like in five years?" and notice what comes to mind. Then make a choice.
Every choice contributes something to your life. It's only your point of view that determines its value. And what is the value of deciding something is 'bad' when you can simply choose again?
Day 235 - What does love mean to me?
Are you looking for love? How often have you thought you found it, or were close, only to be disappointed at best, or at worst horribly abused? Did you blame yourself for failing and then continue on your quest to find it? How many times have you done the same thing?
How do you define 'love'? Does everyone define love the same as you? For example, ever heard people talk about 'tough love,' saying "I'm doing this [horrible thing] to you because I love you" ? Did you think "I wish you'd love me a little less?" What about people who say "If you love me you'll do this [thing I know you really don't want to do]"?
Do most definitions of love acknowledge or honour you at all? Or do people use the word love to control you so you'll do what they want?
If you'd like to create nurturing, generative relationships, ask "What does love mean to me?" Then notice what you actually desire, but that others might not include in their definitions. Once you're clear about that, you can invite that into your life, no matter what name you give it.
How do you define 'love'? Does everyone define love the same as you? For example, ever heard people talk about 'tough love,' saying "I'm doing this [horrible thing] to you because I love you" ? Did you think "I wish you'd love me a little less?" What about people who say "If you love me you'll do this [thing I know you really don't want to do]"?
Do most definitions of love acknowledge or honour you at all? Or do people use the word love to control you so you'll do what they want?
If you'd like to create nurturing, generative relationships, ask "What does love mean to me?" Then notice what you actually desire, but that others might not include in their definitions. Once you're clear about that, you can invite that into your life, no matter what name you give it.
Day 236 - Am I willing to see me?
How much of your quest for love is driven by your hopes and dreams that one day someone will 'see you' and acknowledge you as the amazing being you are?
Have you made falling in love the answer to your life? That wen you find The One, he/she will get you so clearly, you'll finally be whole and free to create your life?
Does anybody get you now? Does anybody really want to get you anyway? Do you get you? If you don't get you, then how is it possible for anyone else to get you?
What if rather than waiting to fall in love as an excuse for not creating your life, you lovingly saw, acknowledged, nurtured, and were grateful to you for everything you are right now?
If you'd like to create this as a possibility, ask "Am I willing to see me?" Then look, see, and smile lovingly at you.
Then when you do meet someone who is fun and easy to be with, what if you considered them lovingly, rather than falling in love? Why? Between 'loving' and 'falling in love' which is an ongoing action and which is an end?
Have you made falling in love the answer to your life? That wen you find The One, he/she will get you so clearly, you'll finally be whole and free to create your life?
Does anybody get you now? Does anybody really want to get you anyway? Do you get you? If you don't get you, then how is it possible for anyone else to get you?
What if rather than waiting to fall in love as an excuse for not creating your life, you lovingly saw, acknowledged, nurtured, and were grateful to you for everything you are right now?
If you'd like to create this as a possibility, ask "Am I willing to see me?" Then look, see, and smile lovingly at you.
Then when you do meet someone who is fun and easy to be with, what if you considered them lovingly, rather than falling in love? Why? Between 'loving' and 'falling in love' which is an ongoing action and which is an end?
Day 237 - What would it take for me to be a salesperson of magnitude?
Do you run a business? How are your sales going? Is your client list growing? Or do you find it a constant struggle?
What are your points of view about your products or services? Do you consider them to be a gift to the world and people's lives would be improved if they only recognised their value? Or that they are cheap rubbish that people would be better off not wasting their money on?
How do you share your points of view? Do you find it easy to talk about your business? If you'd like to create greater ease in your business, and more reward for you and others, ask "What would it take for me to be a salesperson of magnitude?" then tell people what they want to hear.
What do they want to hear? Whatever will allow them to justify why they should give you money for what they have already decided they'd like to buy.
People who ask you about your business are already interested in what you offer, and are seeking a reason to buy. What if you made it easy for them?
What are your points of view about your products or services? Do you consider them to be a gift to the world and people's lives would be improved if they only recognised their value? Or that they are cheap rubbish that people would be better off not wasting their money on?
How do you share your points of view? Do you find it easy to talk about your business? If you'd like to create greater ease in your business, and more reward for you and others, ask "What would it take for me to be a salesperson of magnitude?" then tell people what they want to hear.
What do they want to hear? Whatever will allow them to justify why they should give you money for what they have already decided they'd like to buy.
People who ask you about your business are already interested in what you offer, and are seeking a reason to buy. What if you made it easy for them?
Day 238 - Am I caring? Or care-taking?
Are you a caring person? Can you always see exactly what someone could be doing differently to create an easier and happier life? And do you consider you're willing to do whatever it takes to help them get there?
How often do you see the results you know are possible? Usually, sometimes, or almost never? How easy and joyful is the process for you?
If you are not seeing the results you'd hoped for, or the process is hard and you'd like to create change for you in the experience, ask "Am I caring? Or care-taking?"
Care-taking is doing whatever the other person tells you to do, because it makes them feel better. This can include listening to stories, hand-holding, and crying in sympathy.
Caring is empowering a person to create change, whatever that looks like, and can include doing nothing and saying 'no.'
What empowers? Questions, choice, awareness, and contributing only when asked and when you know change is possible.
What if caring was not the good deeds auto-pilot system you thought it was? What if it was simply the willingness to be aware of, an in allowance of other people's choices?
How often do you see the results you know are possible? Usually, sometimes, or almost never? How easy and joyful is the process for you?
If you are not seeing the results you'd hoped for, or the process is hard and you'd like to create change for you in the experience, ask "Am I caring? Or care-taking?"
Care-taking is doing whatever the other person tells you to do, because it makes them feel better. This can include listening to stories, hand-holding, and crying in sympathy.
Caring is empowering a person to create change, whatever that looks like, and can include doing nothing and saying 'no.'
What empowers? Questions, choice, awareness, and contributing only when asked and when you know change is possible.
What if caring was not the good deeds auto-pilot system you thought it was? What if it was simply the willingness to be aware of, an in allowance of other people's choices?