Qs Week 51 - Days 351-357
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Day 351 - Are my eyes wide shut?
Have you ever been completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, only to find one day that everything you held to be true, was in fact not true?
Like your 'till death do I part' loving partner, falling in love with someone else and walking out? Like a highly esteemed charity exposed as having committed crimes against children for centuries? Like a trusted authority urging you to use something, praising it as good for you, when actually it's very, very bad, like asbestos, DDT, smoking, or thalidomide to name just a few examples?
What else have you experienced that shattered your reality?
If you'd prefer not to experience that stomach sickening wrench of cognitive dissonance again, next time you find yourself completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, ask yourself "Are my eyes wide shut?"
This question is a simple reminder that you may be looking, but not seeing something hiding in plain sight. And remember, what's light is right for you.
Like your 'till death do I part' loving partner, falling in love with someone else and walking out? Like a highly esteemed charity exposed as having committed crimes against children for centuries? Like a trusted authority urging you to use something, praising it as good for you, when actually it's very, very bad, like asbestos, DDT, smoking, or thalidomide to name just a few examples?
What else have you experienced that shattered your reality?
If you'd prefer not to experience that stomach sickening wrench of cognitive dissonance again, next time you find yourself completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, ask yourself "Are my eyes wide shut?"
This question is a simple reminder that you may be looking, but not seeing something hiding in plain sight. And remember, what's light is right for you.
Day 352 - Who owns this?
Is there something you're saving to buy or own? A car? A house? A piece of land? A yacht? A business? A special outfit? Some jewellery? New furniture? How much effort do you go into preparing to own it?
Or maybe you have already made the purchase, and are now busy looking after it? Car, house, land, yacht, business? How's the maintenance, insurance, and loan repayments going? Light and easy? Clothing, jewellery, furniture? Do you obsess or fret over their security or cleanliness? Perhaps you're already dissatisfied with your purchase and have started planning to upgrade?
Did you know that ownership is one of the biggest lies of this reality? It's a lie that can trap you in an endless cycle of enslavement.
Not sure? Think of something you 'own,' like your car or house, and ask yourself "Who owns this?" Do you really own it? Or does it own you, bleating for your constant feeding and attention?
The only thing you can ever own is you. Are you willing to own you? When you are, what if rather than focusing on 'owning' other things to look after, you simply invited them to show up, and come and play in your life? Would that be easier and more fun?
Or maybe you have already made the purchase, and are now busy looking after it? Car, house, land, yacht, business? How's the maintenance, insurance, and loan repayments going? Light and easy? Clothing, jewellery, furniture? Do you obsess or fret over their security or cleanliness? Perhaps you're already dissatisfied with your purchase and have started planning to upgrade?
Did you know that ownership is one of the biggest lies of this reality? It's a lie that can trap you in an endless cycle of enslavement.
Not sure? Think of something you 'own,' like your car or house, and ask yourself "Who owns this?" Do you really own it? Or does it own you, bleating for your constant feeding and attention?
The only thing you can ever own is you. Are you willing to own you? When you are, what if rather than focusing on 'owning' other things to look after, you simply invited them to show up, and come and play in your life? Would that be easier and more fun?
Day 353 - What am I enjoying about this?
What are you finding tough in your life right now? Perhaps you're not able to do all the things you used to do? Maybe your study or work situation has changed? Or have you experienced challenges or changes in your circles of friends?
Whatever that is for you, if you'd like relief from the toughness ask yourself "What am I enjoying about this?"
For example, what new, interesting things have filled the space created by you not doing all the things you used to do? Have you been thrust into a different, more stimulating field of study or work? Maybe you've discovered a wonderful new bunch of people who see what you see? And perhaps the toughness has opened your eyes and mind to previously undreamt of possibilities and new realities?
There has to be something you're enjoying about your situation, if you'll only ask the question and look. Otherwise, you are choosing it for what reason?
Maybe you simply enjoy a challenge?
Whatever that is for you, if you'd like relief from the toughness ask yourself "What am I enjoying about this?"
For example, what new, interesting things have filled the space created by you not doing all the things you used to do? Have you been thrust into a different, more stimulating field of study or work? Maybe you've discovered a wonderful new bunch of people who see what you see? And perhaps the toughness has opened your eyes and mind to previously undreamt of possibilities and new realities?
There has to be something you're enjoying about your situation, if you'll only ask the question and look. Otherwise, you are choosing it for what reason?
Maybe you simply enjoy a challenge?
Day 354 - What am I taking for granted?
Not happy? No matter what is getting you down, ask yourself "What am I taking for granted?"
What is so abundant, so easy in your life right now that you don't even think about it? It might be a physical thing, a skill, an attribute, access to something, it might even be as simple as your smile.
Sure you probably have an infinite number of problems and difficulties that will no doubt get in your way and bring you down.
So what are the infinite number of talents, abilities, attributes, ideas and all manner of other things that you equally have, that, if you acknowledged and were grateful for, would bring you up?
This question is designed to remind you that you just have to be, know, perceive and receive, and be grateful for the amazing things you've been gifted.
What is so abundant, so easy in your life right now that you don't even think about it? It might be a physical thing, a skill, an attribute, access to something, it might even be as simple as your smile.
Sure you probably have an infinite number of problems and difficulties that will no doubt get in your way and bring you down.
So what are the infinite number of talents, abilities, attributes, ideas and all manner of other things that you equally have, that, if you acknowledged and were grateful for, would bring you up?
This question is designed to remind you that you just have to be, know, perceive and receive, and be grateful for the amazing things you've been gifted.
Day 355 - Am I trying to validate other people's realities?
Is someone bullying, gaslighting, or trolling you? Or maybe the opposite? Someone is trying to build you up, driving you to be or do something they think would be good for you?
What do you do? Do you resist and react against the bullies? Do you agree and align with the supporters?
In either case, where are you? If you'd like to find out, ask yourself "Am I trying to validate other people's realities?"
When you create your life in reaction/action against/for someone else you solidify their reality, not yours.
So if you'd prefer to create your life freely, with infinite possibilities that work for you, ask "If other people's points of view weren't real, what would I choose?"
What do you do? Do you resist and react against the bullies? Do you agree and align with the supporters?
In either case, where are you? If you'd like to find out, ask yourself "Am I trying to validate other people's realities?"
When you create your life in reaction/action against/for someone else you solidify their reality, not yours.
So if you'd prefer to create your life freely, with infinite possibilities that work for you, ask "If other people's points of view weren't real, what would I choose?"
Day 356 - Am I needing to be right?
Do you have a point of view about something that when anyone else says the opposite, or even something just a bit different to your point of view, you feel your heckles rising?
Is there something that you know for sure, than when anyone even hints that they don't agree, you grit your teeth and barrage them with pointed questions, pushing them to the point of no choice but to agree with you?
Or perhaps when someone dares hold their ground against your views, you throw up your hands in disgust and walk away, rolling your eyes at the ignorance?
You do these things because you know you're right, right?
What if when you need to be right, you're absolutely wrong?
If you'd like to find out, next time you notice yourself in this situation, ask yourself "Am I needing to be right?"
And if you sense a need, ask yourself "What awareness could I have if I wasn't in judgement?"
Is there something that you know for sure, than when anyone even hints that they don't agree, you grit your teeth and barrage them with pointed questions, pushing them to the point of no choice but to agree with you?
Or perhaps when someone dares hold their ground against your views, you throw up your hands in disgust and walk away, rolling your eyes at the ignorance?
You do these things because you know you're right, right?
What if when you need to be right, you're absolutely wrong?
If you'd like to find out, next time you notice yourself in this situation, ask yourself "Am I needing to be right?"
And if you sense a need, ask yourself "What awareness could I have if I wasn't in judgement?"
Day 357 - What can I say to make them laugh?
Got something you'd like to say? How many times have you tried to say it? Once? Twice? A thousand? More?
Are you being heard? Do people hang on your every word, wanting to know more? Or do they close their ears, and walk or even run away?
How do you present your ideas? Are you well researched, earnestly setting out the facts? Or do you playfully, joyfully ask a few questions and then listen to the other person's point of view?
Whatever you're doing, if it's working for you, keep doing it. If not, ask yourself "What can I say to make them laugh?"
When you laugh, how do you feel? Do you remain defensive and aloof? Or do you relax and open up?
Ultimately, you may or may not get your message across, but at least the interaction will be more enjoyable for both of you.
You never know, they may come back later for some more of the good vibe. And one day, they may even hear what you're saying.
Are you being heard? Do people hang on your every word, wanting to know more? Or do they close their ears, and walk or even run away?
How do you present your ideas? Are you well researched, earnestly setting out the facts? Or do you playfully, joyfully ask a few questions and then listen to the other person's point of view?
Whatever you're doing, if it's working for you, keep doing it. If not, ask yourself "What can I say to make them laugh?"
When you laugh, how do you feel? Do you remain defensive and aloof? Or do you relax and open up?
Ultimately, you may or may not get your message across, but at least the interaction will be more enjoyable for both of you.
You never know, they may come back later for some more of the good vibe. And one day, they may even hear what you're saying.