Qs Week 35 - Days 239-245
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Day 239 - What if worry wasn't relevant?
Are you a worrier? What do you worry about? Failing exams, business, relationships, children, money, saving the world? Something else?
When you're worrying do you spend most of the time focused on what you're creating, or are you trying to figure out what other people want from you, and how to deliver it?
What's the value of worry? Does it contribute to anything? Or does it keep you trapped in reaction and distract you from taking action? Is it an excuse for no-action? How relevant is it to what you're looking to create?
If you'd like to be free to take action and create the life you'd prefer, ask "What if worry wasn't relevant?"
How much of your worry stems from trying to fit in, or to meet other people's expectations? Do you think it's caring? How aware of, or interested in you are other people? A lot, a little or not at all? Would you like to have more fun? Then stop worrying about what other people want from you and start creating your life for you.
If your life was an adventure of constant creation, would worry exist?
When you're worrying do you spend most of the time focused on what you're creating, or are you trying to figure out what other people want from you, and how to deliver it?
What's the value of worry? Does it contribute to anything? Or does it keep you trapped in reaction and distract you from taking action? Is it an excuse for no-action? How relevant is it to what you're looking to create?
If you'd like to be free to take action and create the life you'd prefer, ask "What if worry wasn't relevant?"
How much of your worry stems from trying to fit in, or to meet other people's expectations? Do you think it's caring? How aware of, or interested in you are other people? A lot, a little or not at all? Would you like to have more fun? Then stop worrying about what other people want from you and start creating your life for you.
If your life was an adventure of constant creation, would worry exist?
Day 240 - How can I enjoy the heck out of it?
What do you have to do today, that you'd really rather not?
Clean the house? Do the shopping? Visit an unpleasant relative? Wash the car? Attend the weekly staff meeting? Write an essay? Sit an exam? Speak in public? Go to the dentist? Give your family news that you know they'll hate?
What makes you go '"Ugh, I'd rather not'" but you know you're going to do it anyway?
If you'd like to create more ease for yourself, ask "How can I enjoy the heck out of it?" Your point of view creates your reality, so if your point of view is "I don't enjoy this" then your are correct. You don't and you won't. There is no possibility it could turn out to be fun after all.
If your point of view is "What would it take for this to turn out to be more fun than I could ever imagine?" you create an invitation for that to occur.
To start, carry with you one thing that makes you laugh. A joke. A game. A book. An app. A photo. A wiggle in your walk. What else? Whatever that is, put it in your metaphorical back pocket and pull it out to entertain yourself when things are getting tough.
After a while you might fing you won't need it. Happiness is just a choice. What do you choose?
Clean the house? Do the shopping? Visit an unpleasant relative? Wash the car? Attend the weekly staff meeting? Write an essay? Sit an exam? Speak in public? Go to the dentist? Give your family news that you know they'll hate?
What makes you go '"Ugh, I'd rather not'" but you know you're going to do it anyway?
If you'd like to create more ease for yourself, ask "How can I enjoy the heck out of it?" Your point of view creates your reality, so if your point of view is "I don't enjoy this" then your are correct. You don't and you won't. There is no possibility it could turn out to be fun after all.
If your point of view is "What would it take for this to turn out to be more fun than I could ever imagine?" you create an invitation for that to occur.
To start, carry with you one thing that makes you laugh. A joke. A game. A book. An app. A photo. A wiggle in your walk. What else? Whatever that is, put it in your metaphorical back pocket and pull it out to entertain yourself when things are getting tough.
After a while you might fing you won't need it. Happiness is just a choice. What do you choose?
Day 241 - What if saying nothing was the greatest contribution I could be?
Are you surprised or frustrated when people don't listen? How often have you tried to share with your family and friends the amazing things you've spent your time and money learning, only to be disappointed by their lack on interest?
At best, do they smile and nod with glazed eyes and closed ears? At worst do they berate you for wasting your time and money and end their tirade by reminding you that you're stupid?
Does this upset you? Do you try harder, or start a debate (um, fight)? Does talking more, longer, or harder ever work at all?
What if you could share your insights without saying a word? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if saying nothing was the greatest contribution I could be?" Then shut up, nod, smile, listen and ask questions.
It may take only a few minutes — or it may take decades, or indeed a lifetime — for the other person to stop talking and say "You're different. What is that?"
And that's your invitaiton to talk.
At best, do they smile and nod with glazed eyes and closed ears? At worst do they berate you for wasting your time and money and end their tirade by reminding you that you're stupid?
Does this upset you? Do you try harder, or start a debate (um, fight)? Does talking more, longer, or harder ever work at all?
What if you could share your insights without saying a word? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if saying nothing was the greatest contribution I could be?" Then shut up, nod, smile, listen and ask questions.
It may take only a few minutes — or it may take decades, or indeed a lifetime — for the other person to stop talking and say "You're different. What is that?"
And that's your invitaiton to talk.
Day 242 - Body, what are you hungry for?
Do you assume you have to eat when you feel hungry? Most people do. Do you feel compelled to preempt hunger pangs by filling up at regular intervals?
How's your relationship with your body? Comfortable, or not so much? Do you sense your body is telling you something?
If you'd like to create greater ease with your body, rather than filling it up with food on auto-pilot 3-6 times a day, wait until you notice you're hungry, then ask "Body, what are you hungry for?"
Certainly, your body may require food. In which case, then ask "Body, what would you like to eat?" and notice what comes to mind, or what menu item your eye is drawn to first.
Or, your body might be hungry for something else, like movement, rest, warmth, cool, attention, relief, nurturing, sex, touch, change or a myriad of things you won't know until you ask. So ask it and see what comes to mind.
What if hunger pains were your body enjoying and adjusting to the extra space, like a sigh of relief from the density of the food it didn't really desire?
How's your relationship with your body? Comfortable, or not so much? Do you sense your body is telling you something?
If you'd like to create greater ease with your body, rather than filling it up with food on auto-pilot 3-6 times a day, wait until you notice you're hungry, then ask "Body, what are you hungry for?"
Certainly, your body may require food. In which case, then ask "Body, what would you like to eat?" and notice what comes to mind, or what menu item your eye is drawn to first.
Or, your body might be hungry for something else, like movement, rest, warmth, cool, attention, relief, nurturing, sex, touch, change or a myriad of things you won't know until you ask. So ask it and see what comes to mind.
What if hunger pains were your body enjoying and adjusting to the extra space, like a sigh of relief from the density of the food it didn't really desire?
Day 243 - What am I trying to clear that isn't true?
Have you ever tried to change something in your life continually, but to no effect even though you've asked a thousand genuine questions?
For example, has someone ever told you that you weren't good enough and you should try even harder? Or that something about you was not appropriate and you had to overcome it? Perhaps you're too vocal, disruptive, creative, poor, uneducated, powerless, unattractive, or have some other failing?
What if in fact, there was nothing wrong with you? What if you have been buying into a lie that someone else wanted to you to believe?
Is it possible to overcome, change or clear something that doesn't exist? What would you do if someone told you you were a rabbit? Would you believe them and work feverishly to change out of being a rabbit? Or would you say "Um, huh?" I'm not a rabbit. I'm me!" and get on with enjoying your life?
So if you'd like to create greater ease around things you have assumed were 'wrong' about you, and that you should change but so far haven't been able to, ask "What am I trying to clear that isn't true?"
If something's not true to start with, how can you clear it? Simply recognise the lie and it can no longer exist.
For example, has someone ever told you that you weren't good enough and you should try even harder? Or that something about you was not appropriate and you had to overcome it? Perhaps you're too vocal, disruptive, creative, poor, uneducated, powerless, unattractive, or have some other failing?
What if in fact, there was nothing wrong with you? What if you have been buying into a lie that someone else wanted to you to believe?
Is it possible to overcome, change or clear something that doesn't exist? What would you do if someone told you you were a rabbit? Would you believe them and work feverishly to change out of being a rabbit? Or would you say "Um, huh?" I'm not a rabbit. I'm me!" and get on with enjoying your life?
So if you'd like to create greater ease around things you have assumed were 'wrong' about you, and that you should change but so far haven't been able to, ask "What am I trying to clear that isn't true?"
If something's not true to start with, how can you clear it? Simply recognise the lie and it can no longer exist.
Day 244 - What if the only thing I had to lose was my limitation?
Do you have something in your life that you'd like to change, but haven't yet because you fear you might lose family, friends, work, money, status, reputation or everything you've 'worked so hard to achieve'?
Does this fear keep you frozen and trapped by inaction?
Would you like to thaw, expand outward and move into action? If so, ask "What if the only thing I had to lose was my limitation?"
What if by making the changes you know you'd really like, you created more than you could ever imagine? What if this also contributed to everyone and everything around you?
Certainly, some friends, family, professional and other acquaintances will not accept the changes you make and withdraw from your life. Would that be a loss, or a contribution? What's the difference? Only your point of view.
Does this fear keep you frozen and trapped by inaction?
Would you like to thaw, expand outward and move into action? If so, ask "What if the only thing I had to lose was my limitation?"
What if by making the changes you know you'd really like, you created more than you could ever imagine? What if this also contributed to everyone and everything around you?
Certainly, some friends, family, professional and other acquaintances will not accept the changes you make and withdraw from your life. Would that be a loss, or a contribution? What's the difference? Only your point of view.
Day 245 - What's the value of wanting to belong?
Have you ever lamented "I don't belong!" or spent your life trying to fit in with others around you? Has it been easy?
Perhaps you've always know you were different and found it simpler, and more fun, to hang out by yourself, doing your own thing? Did you nevertheless feel a nagging pressure to belong, or believe that you were somehow wrong for not fitting in?
What if there was nothing wrong with not belonging?
Did you know the definition of belong includes: to be the property of, to be part of, and to be suitable for something? Is that what you're looking for?
If you'd like clarity about this, ask "What's the value of wanting to belong?" Perhaps your inability or non-desire to 'belong' was simply your awareness that you were already, wholly, and suitably the property of something: YOU.
So what if rather than 'longing to be' something else, you embraced being all of who you are already?
Perhaps you've always know you were different and found it simpler, and more fun, to hang out by yourself, doing your own thing? Did you nevertheless feel a nagging pressure to belong, or believe that you were somehow wrong for not fitting in?
What if there was nothing wrong with not belonging?
Did you know the definition of belong includes: to be the property of, to be part of, and to be suitable for something? Is that what you're looking for?
If you'd like clarity about this, ask "What's the value of wanting to belong?" Perhaps your inability or non-desire to 'belong' was simply your awareness that you were already, wholly, and suitably the property of something: YOU.
So what if rather than 'longing to be' something else, you embraced being all of who you are already?