Qs Week 46 - Days 316-322
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Day 316 - What if I let the liars lie?
How easily can you see when people are lying? To themselves or other people?
What do you do? Do you work hard to expose the lie? Trying to save people or make the liars pay?
How does that work out? Do the liars say "Oops, you got me! Won't do that again!" Or do they work even harder to hide their lies and make you wrong?
If you'd like to create something different for yourself and others, when you see the liars ask yourself "What if I let the liars lie?"
When someone is lying to themselves, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to deceive themselves. When someone is lying to other people, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to be deceived.
By being in allowance of liars, you create the space for them to lie and lie and lie and lie until there is nothing left but lies.
And when only lies exist, what will people see? Only lies.
What do you do? Do you work hard to expose the lie? Trying to save people or make the liars pay?
How does that work out? Do the liars say "Oops, you got me! Won't do that again!" Or do they work even harder to hide their lies and make you wrong?
If you'd like to create something different for yourself and others, when you see the liars ask yourself "What if I let the liars lie?"
When someone is lying to themselves, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to deceive themselves. When someone is lying to other people, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to be deceived.
By being in allowance of liars, you create the space for them to lie and lie and lie and lie until there is nothing left but lies.
And when only lies exist, what will people see? Only lies.
Day 317 - What if relationship wasn't what I thought it was?
How do you define you? Are you just you: doing, thinking, creating, being as you prefer? Or are you something else?
If it's something else, ask yourself "What if relationship wasn't what I thought it was?"
How much of your life have you defined yourself by your relationship to everyone and everything around you? How much of what you have been choosing to do, think, create, have you defined by where you stand in relation to others? Have you been choosing based on what that choice will create for you, or for someone else?
Does choosing based on relationship feel light or heavy? Expansive or limited?
What amazing things could you create if you gave up all relationship to everyone and everything and just be you?
If it's something else, ask yourself "What if relationship wasn't what I thought it was?"
How much of your life have you defined yourself by your relationship to everyone and everything around you? How much of what you have been choosing to do, think, create, have you defined by where you stand in relation to others? Have you been choosing based on what that choice will create for you, or for someone else?
Does choosing based on relationship feel light or heavy? Expansive or limited?
What amazing things could you create if you gave up all relationship to everyone and everything and just be you?
Day 318 - What gifts have I created?
What do you do when something goes 'wrong' for you? For example, you've asked a question, made a choice, had an awareness, followed the energy...and then things didn't turn out how you thought they would.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice?
If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?"
There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice?
If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?"
There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found.
Day 319 - What are they really trying to get me to do?
How many people tell you what to do or think every day, directly or indirectly? No one, a few people or almost everyone?
Who are they? Parents, family, friends, neighbours, community leaders, governments, the media and other complete strangers?
When you do what they tell you to do, how do you feel? Breezy and light? Great!
Did you know that sometimes people tell you to do something for a reason that has nothing to do with what they're actually telling you to do? So if you have a sense of discomfort or heaviness, and you'd like clarity about the truth of what's going on, ask yourself "What are they really trying to get me to do?"
When you get clear on the true aim of what people are trying to get you to do, your heaviness should lighten. Then choose for you.
Who are they? Parents, family, friends, neighbours, community leaders, governments, the media and other complete strangers?
When you do what they tell you to do, how do you feel? Breezy and light? Great!
Did you know that sometimes people tell you to do something for a reason that has nothing to do with what they're actually telling you to do? So if you have a sense of discomfort or heaviness, and you'd like clarity about the truth of what's going on, ask yourself "What are they really trying to get me to do?"
When you get clear on the true aim of what people are trying to get you to do, your heaviness should lighten. Then choose for you.
Day 320 - Am I willing to let them cry?
When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
Day 321 - How am I using these tears?
Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing?
To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?"
And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?"
Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot.
Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change.
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing?
To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?"
And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?"
Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot.
Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change.
Day 322 - Is this reality, or fear?
What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?