Qs Week 50 - Days 344-350
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Day 344 - What if I wasn't shy?
Do you consider yourself a shy person? While everyone else around you seems to desire being seen and heard, do you prefer to be quietly unnoticed?
Have you made being shy a wrongness? Has someone else told you it's wrong and that you should change?
What if being shy wasn't what you thought it was? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I wasn't shy?"
Perhaps shyness is your ploy to get others to reach out to you? Rather than fending off the idiot moths who flock to the flame of celebrity, you're most content to wait quietly in the field for the right bee to find you.
There's nothing wrong with being shy if you're aware of your choice. So if you sense your shyness might come from obeying someone, sometime long ago telling you to shut up and keep your head down, ask "If I were me, who would I be?"
Have you made being shy a wrongness? Has someone else told you it's wrong and that you should change?
What if being shy wasn't what you thought it was? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I wasn't shy?"
Perhaps shyness is your ploy to get others to reach out to you? Rather than fending off the idiot moths who flock to the flame of celebrity, you're most content to wait quietly in the field for the right bee to find you.
There's nothing wrong with being shy if you're aware of your choice. So if you sense your shyness might come from obeying someone, sometime long ago telling you to shut up and keep your head down, ask "If I were me, who would I be?"
Day 345 - Am I holding my position?
Do you know what's right for you and how you'd prefer to create your life? Amazing!
How often do other people succeed in influencing the way you create your life, imposing their views on and controlling you? Never, sometimes, or all the time?
If it's more than 'never' and you'd like to change that, ask yourself "Am I holding my position?"
People will always try to manipulate you into doing what they'd like. And you're a nice person, right? So you smile and listen to them. And you're not as smart as them, right? So you think they must know better.
Truth, who know most about your life? You or someone else? Who cares most about you? You or someone else? You.
So next time you sense someone is seeking to distract you from what you'd like to do, and manipulate you into doing what they want, smile and ask them questions. For example "I'm sorry. I'm confused. Can you show me?" or "What do you mean by that exactly?" keeping you focused on what you know is best for you until they move out of your way.
And if it becomes clear they will never allow your position, smile and walk away.
How often do other people succeed in influencing the way you create your life, imposing their views on and controlling you? Never, sometimes, or all the time?
If it's more than 'never' and you'd like to change that, ask yourself "Am I holding my position?"
People will always try to manipulate you into doing what they'd like. And you're a nice person, right? So you smile and listen to them. And you're not as smart as them, right? So you think they must know better.
Truth, who know most about your life? You or someone else? Who cares most about you? You or someone else? You.
So next time you sense someone is seeking to distract you from what you'd like to do, and manipulate you into doing what they want, smile and ask them questions. For example "I'm sorry. I'm confused. Can you show me?" or "What do you mean by that exactly?" keeping you focused on what you know is best for you until they move out of your way.
And if it becomes clear they will never allow your position, smile and walk away.
Day 346 - Am I willing to have my own back?
Right now, what are you aware of that every single person around you can't see?
When you talk about what you're aware of, what do they do? Do they listen patiently and kindly, smile and pat you on the shoulder and say "Sure, that's an interesting point of view. Not something I can see, but hey I'm here for you no matter what"?
Or do they laugh at you, gaslight you, bully you, call you crazy, tell you you're wrong, worthless, and stupid? Or maybe they just smirk and roll their eyes?
What do you do when someone spits on your point of view like this? Do you second guess yourself, capitulate, agree and align with their point of view? Does it become so heavy it pulls you down?
If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to have my own back?" When you're not willing to have your own back, you'll crumple at the whisper of someone else's doubt or scepticism, no matter how clear your awareness.
And the best thing about having your own back is that you'll see very clearly, very quickly anyone who doesn't.
When you talk about what you're aware of, what do they do? Do they listen patiently and kindly, smile and pat you on the shoulder and say "Sure, that's an interesting point of view. Not something I can see, but hey I'm here for you no matter what"?
Or do they laugh at you, gaslight you, bully you, call you crazy, tell you you're wrong, worthless, and stupid? Or maybe they just smirk and roll their eyes?
What do you do when someone spits on your point of view like this? Do you second guess yourself, capitulate, agree and align with their point of view? Does it become so heavy it pulls you down?
If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to have my own back?" When you're not willing to have your own back, you'll crumple at the whisper of someone else's doubt or scepticism, no matter how clear your awareness.
And the best thing about having your own back is that you'll see very clearly, very quickly anyone who doesn't.
Day 347 - What's my superpower?
How often do you discount the things you do?
Sure you can make an amazing coffee, but so what? Oh, yeah you can whip up a banquet for ten on whatever's left in the fridge, but who can't? Organising an event? Coming in under budget? Growing veggies? Entertaining kids? Finding a bargain in the charity shop and on-selling it for a profit? Juggling a few jobs? Connecting people? Feeding and raising a family with ease and joy? Listening to people? Whipping up a ballgown from the curtains? Making something work when everyone tells you it's broken. Getting what you want as if by magic when everyone tells you it can't be done?
What else? What's the one thing that you do amazingly well without trying or thinking about it? Don't know? Then ask yourself "What's my superpower?"
Whatever that thing is that you can do on your little finger without trying or thinking about it, are you willing to acknowledge it? Not everyone can do what you can, you know.
So rather than discount you, will you step into your life and be even more of you? What gift would that be to the world?
Sure you can make an amazing coffee, but so what? Oh, yeah you can whip up a banquet for ten on whatever's left in the fridge, but who can't? Organising an event? Coming in under budget? Growing veggies? Entertaining kids? Finding a bargain in the charity shop and on-selling it for a profit? Juggling a few jobs? Connecting people? Feeding and raising a family with ease and joy? Listening to people? Whipping up a ballgown from the curtains? Making something work when everyone tells you it's broken. Getting what you want as if by magic when everyone tells you it can't be done?
What else? What's the one thing that you do amazingly well without trying or thinking about it? Don't know? Then ask yourself "What's my superpower?"
Whatever that thing is that you can do on your little finger without trying or thinking about it, are you willing to acknowledge it? Not everyone can do what you can, you know.
So rather than discount you, will you step into your life and be even more of you? What gift would that be to the world?
Day 348 - What if I choose not to hear?
Do you know the old philosophical question "If a tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, would it create a sound?"
One explanation is: sound is different frequencies of vibrations, and if no one is in the forest to hear it, those vibrations will not be converted into sound. So by that definition, there would be no sound.
So what about everything else? If something happens and you don't think it's a problem, but your mum does, is it a problem?
Unless you like problems, next time this happens ask yourself "What if I choose not to hear it?"
Then smile and say or think "Interesting point of view, mum."
One explanation is: sound is different frequencies of vibrations, and if no one is in the forest to hear it, those vibrations will not be converted into sound. So by that definition, there would be no sound.
So what about everything else? If something happens and you don't think it's a problem, but your mum does, is it a problem?
Unless you like problems, next time this happens ask yourself "What if I choose not to hear it?"
Then smile and say or think "Interesting point of view, mum."
Day 349 - What is hiding in plain sight?
Are you confused about something? Perhaps on one hand, you've got people telling you ABC, while on the other hand, you have different people telling you XYZ?
What do you do? Do you spend hours researching things on your own, fervently independent? Perhaps you've decided to 'trust the authorities' 100 per cent and switch off to anything that's not from them? Or maybe a combination of the two?
Is it easy? Are you clear? If not, ask yourself "What is hiding in plain sight?"
What if the truth is obvious, if only you look and see?
And of course, when you look and see something, ask yourself "Is this light for me?"
After all, both sides may well simply be polarities on a single line, each seeking to manipulate or limit your awareness. And an infinite being would be limited for what reason?
What do you do? Do you spend hours researching things on your own, fervently independent? Perhaps you've decided to 'trust the authorities' 100 per cent and switch off to anything that's not from them? Or maybe a combination of the two?
Is it easy? Are you clear? If not, ask yourself "What is hiding in plain sight?"
What if the truth is obvious, if only you look and see?
And of course, when you look and see something, ask yourself "Is this light for me?"
After all, both sides may well simply be polarities on a single line, each seeking to manipulate or limit your awareness. And an infinite being would be limited for what reason?
Day 350 - Where am I in this?
When you ask questions about change, how often is your question focused on changing someone, or something outside yourself?
For example, you don't enjoy working in your family business; you do it to keep the incoming money in the family. So maybe you ask questions, like "What will it take for more customers to spend their money in the business?" or "What will it take for the other family members to do their jobs even better?" Your point of view being that the more income to the business, the easier it will be to hire someone to do your job. Or the better other family members do their job, the less you'll have to work.
You may create that outcome. Or you may create something completely different, including one which requires you to be even more involved. The opposite of what you're looking for.
To make sure you create the changes you'd actually like, be clear that your questions include you, by asking "Where am I in this?"
In this situation, you could ask "What will it take for the business to thrive and no longer require my labour, or something greater than I can imagine?"
For example, you don't enjoy working in your family business; you do it to keep the incoming money in the family. So maybe you ask questions, like "What will it take for more customers to spend their money in the business?" or "What will it take for the other family members to do their jobs even better?" Your point of view being that the more income to the business, the easier it will be to hire someone to do your job. Or the better other family members do their job, the less you'll have to work.
You may create that outcome. Or you may create something completely different, including one which requires you to be even more involved. The opposite of what you're looking for.
To make sure you create the changes you'd actually like, be clear that your questions include you, by asking "Where am I in this?"
In this situation, you could ask "What will it take for the business to thrive and no longer require my labour, or something greater than I can imagine?"