Are you feeling ill or exhausted? Do you have aches and pains that baffle the doctors? Baffle you?

Before you start on a carousel of drug-taking to see if you can alleviate the symptoms, ask “What am I sick and tired of?”

Maybe it's doom and gloom stories in the media? Not being able to visit or hug loved ones? Or being told what to do but your own questions and points of view are censored. Or something else like housework/home schooling/working from  home/add your own thing here [______].

Whatever that is for you, when you think of it and groan and slump, worry and fear, or stress and sweat ask “What else is possible?” and “Can I change this? If so, how?”

Perhaps simply choose not to listen to/switch off/walk away from the stories? Or ask "What information do I need?" and "What action can I take?" - repeat - until you no longer feel sick and tired. 

What if your body's discomfort was it screaming at you to change something and create a new life,  greater than you could have imagined? 
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Sorry yesterday's email had a typo. Here it is again, corrected. 

What's funny about this I'm not getting?5/28/2020

Suffering? In pain? Frustrated? Someone doing you wrong? Rather than going into the no good, wrong, trauma and drama default, ask “What's funny about this I'm not getting?”

​For example, have you ever tried to tell someone something SO AMAZING that you had just found out and that had changed your life, and you just wanted to tell everyone because you knew it would change their lives too...? Did they call you a looney and laugh at you? Did you try every-which-way to explain, again and again, until you started doubting yourself? 

What if instead of making yourself wrong, you laughed at yourself being hung out to dry like a rubber chicken? What's funny? Um rubber chicken...I  mean a rubber chicken says nothing and makes people laugh. 

Or maybe you're in a relationship that's on a wash cycle of wring-your-heart-dry? What's funny about that? Gotta be something. Even if it's to laugh at yourself for pushing the same old wring-me-out-now button and expecting a different result. 

Cute, Not Bright. 

What's great about laughing? It boosts your oxygen and feel-good body bits and kicks you out of the self-pity spiral. And did you know that joy and happiness can be *infectious*?

Then when you've done, or while you're still laughing, you get to make another choice. Are you willing to see more of life's funny side and choose for you?

Suffering? In pain? Frustrated? Someone doing you wrong? Rather than going into the no good, wrong, trauma and drama default, ask “What's funny about this I'm not getting?”

​For example, have you ever tried to tell someone something SO AMAZING that you had just found out and that had changed your life, and you just wanted to tell everyone because you knew it would change their lives too...? Did they call you a looney and laugh at you? Did you try every-which-way to explain, again and again, until you started doubting yourself? 

What if instead of making yourself wrong, you laughed at yourself being hung out to dry like a rubber chicken? What's funny? Um rubber chicken...I  mean a rubber chicken says nothing and makes people laugh. 

Or maybe you're in a relationship that's on a wash cycle of wring-your-heart-dry? What's funny about that? Gotta be something. Even if it's to laugh at yourself for pushing the same old wring-me-out-now button and expecting a different result. 

Cute, Not Bright. 

What's great about laughing? It boosts your oxygen and feel-good body bits and kicks you out of the self-pity spiral. And did you know that joy and happiness can be *infectious*?

Then when you've done, or while you're still laughing, you get to make another choice. Are you willing to see more of life's funny side and choose for you?

Do you sometimes do things that, well, just don't work out? In fact, you create complete rubbish?

When you do this, do you default to how bad, wrong, terrible and awful you are? Yes, you're a failure, just like they always said you were.

How does that feel? Does it help you at all? 

Probably not. So what if instead, you acknowledged that you can be an awesome creator of rubbish.

Say “Gee, I'm cute, but not bright!” Then laugh and ask “What's right about this I'm not getting?” and “What else is possible?”

If you can create magnificent rubbish, you can undoubtedly create magnificent magnificence too. You just have to ask and take notice.
 
What's the value of making yourself wrong anyway? 

It's much more fun to be Cute Not Bright.

Are you frustrated or upset by anyone in your life? Is someone driving you crazy? Are they too loud, too bossy, too flaky, too up-down-turn-around, too [fill in your pet peeve here ___________________________].

Would you like more ease in your life when you're around them (assuming you have to, or would like to be around them)? 

If so, ask “What am I grateful to them for?” and acknowledge them for that. 

There will always be at least one thing, if not more. Parents who drive you nuts, and are always there to help you with your kids. A friend who is predictably unpredictable, and has shown you people function differently. A lover who picks insane fights, and is great at....um....other things.
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When you acknowledge someone for who they are, and are grateful for their great bits, you are free and empowered to make the most of the great bits, without being at the effect of the rest. 

If you have something in your life you've been trying to change continually to no effect, ask "What do I love about this?"

How willing are you to change or let go of things you love? Not much? Not at all? 

Are you ever distracted by a fear that you will never have it again (for example, a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all)?

When something is not working for you, first get clear on what parts of it you love.

Then you can ask other questions like "What would it take for me to find something else that would be an even greater contribution to my life?" and "What would it take for the parts of this that are not working for me, to change into something greater than I could imagine?"

When you become clear what you love about something -- and are willing to let it go, or demand that it change -- you will no longer be weighed down by it. 

Instead, you will have the freedom to choose it, or not choose it. The reality is, you always have choice. 

Something not working in your life? Feeling unhappy or stuck? Do you see yourself as a victim and without hope? Do you think you're hard up and done over by someone? 

Are these points of view limiting you, preventing you from creating the life you'd really like? Would you like to change?

People stay in the role of the mournful victim all the time because it has some value for them. 

For example, it gives them the attention they desire, it's comfortable, they've decided it's the only way of getting out of something they'd rather not do, in the hope that it will force someone else to behave differently, and many more reasons they've decided are valuable to them. 

On the other hand, some people simply don't realize they have the choice to change. 

Was that you? Now you know you can choose, would you like to? If so ask “What's the value of hanging on to this?” If it has no value, you would hang on to it for what reason?

The reality is, you always have choice. 

​How often do you limit your choices, before you even consider them, by deciding you don't have the time or the money?

Time and money are two reasons (excuses) people will always give for not doing something. What if you took them out of the equation so you could see what you'd really like to choose? 

To find out, ask “If time and money weren't the issue, what would I choose?” Once you are clear on your true desire, you can ask other questions to make it happen, for example 

• “What will it take for the money/X thing I'd like to show up?”
• “What will it take for my parents/partner/boss/government/other to give me the time/money to do this X thing I'd really love to do?”

Make sure you ask for more than you think you want, or can even imagine, without incurring hardship, by adding “...with ease, or something greater?”

Do you find you other people are always telling you what to do, things that you'd rather not do, and convince you to give up the things you prefer?
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Other people will always try to get you to do things, using obligation and guilt to control you. Why? It makes their lives easier, and you usually do what they tell you to, so why not?

Listening to other people's points of view can be useful. You can learn a great deal. And did you know that when you don't feel light and wonderful about a request or demand, you don't have to do it?

Next time someone asks/tells you to do something, ask yourself "Does this work for me?"  If you feel a heaviness, smile and with a light, joyful energy say “Thank you so much for thinking of me! I'm sorry. That doesn't work for me right now.”

Then smile again and change the subject. You are stating a fact about which no one can argue. Don't offer a reason or excuse; these only allow the conversation to continue. 

If people push you, smile again and say “I'm sorry it doesn't work for me. It's an interesting idea and I'm sure other people will be keen." And if that still doesn't work, smile and walk away/hang up/delete/block/ whatever it takes until your lightness returns. 

What do you do when things don't fit into the form and structure you've decided your life must have? When things vary or change? Like now, for example. Old normal gone. Enter "new normal."

Do you say “Oh that's interesting. It's different! It's something I never thought about! I wonder how much fun we can have? I wonder what new better and beyond normal can I help create?”  

Or do you react with upset and say “This is strange/crazy/stupid. If they only did it this way life would be better! OMG how can I put up with this?”

How much stress or unhappiness do you have because you've decided things have to be a particular way? 

If you'd like less stress and more happiness in your life, ask "What if form and structure had no significance?" Then

• notice the form & structure in your life
• let go of any significance you've attached to it
• choose the form & structure that works for you, or you'd like to create and
• change whatever doesn't.

How? Ask more questions. There's a bunch here www.thedailyq.co you can start with. 

What if your body was a whole lot smarter than you ever gave it credit for? What if its aches and pains were telling you much more than what vitamins and minerals you need? You know the feeling of heartbreak? It's a very real physical ache. People have died from it. What about other physical symptoms? Find out by asking“Body, who or what

• am I sick to the stomach of?” (tummy problems)
• is weighing me down?” (upper back)
• is getting under my skin?” (skin irritations)
• giving me the shits?” (fairly obvious)
• am I not willing to swallow any more?” (throat issues)
• is a pain in the butt/neck?” (lower back/neck)
• is playing with my heart?” (heart palpitations)
• am I dying to get away from?” (worsening conditions)

Who or what comes to mind? Now ask another question.