Qs Week 43 - Days 295-301
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Day 295 - What if I just shut up?
Are you trying to tell someone about something important? You've got clear evidence about something that you know your friends/family/partner/colleagues should really know about and you're desperate to tell them. It might even be a matter of life and death, or maybe you're excited and think they'd be really interested?
Has it been easy to tell them? Every time you open your mouth have they shouted you down/belittled you/gaslighted you/rolled their eyes/walked away/what else? And yet you keep trying, right?
If you'd like to create a different dynamic, then ask yourself "What if I just shut up?" Then stop talking.
Then next time when someone asks "How have you been?" or "What are you doing these days?" try describe in in one word. When they ask "What's that mean?" have one short sentence to describe what it is, and say it in a tone of voice like it's boring and that you don't really want to talk about it.
For example, I might say say "freedom." Often they reply "Freedom for what?" to which I reply "Freedom to change anything you'd like in life that isn't working the way you'd like." Another goodie is "Oh, your life is fine, you wouldn't be interested."
When people think you don't want to tell them something, they will often be inspired to ask questions. Questions create possibility and this is a small opening for you to invite them to consider something they might never have thought of before.
How? Ask them a question, For example "Well what don't you feel you're free to do in your life right now?" and then "Any ideas about how you could change that?" Shut up. Listen. Smile. Question. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
Has it been easy to tell them? Every time you open your mouth have they shouted you down/belittled you/gaslighted you/rolled their eyes/walked away/what else? And yet you keep trying, right?
If you'd like to create a different dynamic, then ask yourself "What if I just shut up?" Then stop talking.
Then next time when someone asks "How have you been?" or "What are you doing these days?" try describe in in one word. When they ask "What's that mean?" have one short sentence to describe what it is, and say it in a tone of voice like it's boring and that you don't really want to talk about it.
For example, I might say say "freedom." Often they reply "Freedom for what?" to which I reply "Freedom to change anything you'd like in life that isn't working the way you'd like." Another goodie is "Oh, your life is fine, you wouldn't be interested."
When people think you don't want to tell them something, they will often be inspired to ask questions. Questions create possibility and this is a small opening for you to invite them to consider something they might never have thought of before.
How? Ask them a question, For example "Well what don't you feel you're free to do in your life right now?" and then "Any ideas about how you could change that?" Shut up. Listen. Smile. Question. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
Day 296 - Can I have the money now please?
Do you run a small business? How easy do you find it to ask to be paid?
It might sound strange that many people, especially in health, wellness and other care-giving fields have trouble asking for money. They're in it to help people and would probably do it for nothing if they didn't have to buy themselves food and shelter. People also have a variety of points of view about money.
If you're someone who enthusiastically contributes to other people and finds it to be paid for your work, practice saying this "Can I have the money now please?" Repeat the phrase over and over, simply, factually and with a smile. Then next time you're about to work for someone, say it before you start the job and gratefully receive the payment.
How much more do you value things you've paid for? What if asking for payment in advance contributed more value to your business than you could possibly imagine? And at the very least, you'll be paid.
It might sound strange that many people, especially in health, wellness and other care-giving fields have trouble asking for money. They're in it to help people and would probably do it for nothing if they didn't have to buy themselves food and shelter. People also have a variety of points of view about money.
If you're someone who enthusiastically contributes to other people and finds it to be paid for your work, practice saying this "Can I have the money now please?" Repeat the phrase over and over, simply, factually and with a smile. Then next time you're about to work for someone, say it before you start the job and gratefully receive the payment.
How much more do you value things you've paid for? What if asking for payment in advance contributed more value to your business than you could possibly imagine? And at the very least, you'll be paid.
Day 297 - What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?
Have you ever noticed yourself striving to have someone else — your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your partner, your kids, or even random strangers — see you and acknowledge you and what you're doing?
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else?
Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation?
If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop.
Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time.
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else?
Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation?
If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop.
Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time.
Day 298 - Am I willing to tell people only what they can hear?
How easily are you able to share your ideas with people with out them laughing at you/walking away/rolling their eyes/calling you crazy? Do you often get into heated discussions where the other person point-blank refuses to listen to you?
Would you prefer greater ease with talking to people about things that you're interested in? If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to tell people only what they can hear?"
Then next time you start a conversation with someone, instead of blowing their head off with the godzillion amazing things you know, ask them a question like "So what's new and interesting for you?" Then listen and wait until they ask you a question.
When they do — with kindness, allowance and awareness — ask them another question about something you're interested in, such as "Right now I'm working on X. Have you had anything to do with that?" Then listen and wait until they ask you another question.
Telling people what they can hear from kindness, allowance and awareness is different from not wanting to be judged for what you say. It's a gentle way of being that honours what they can receive and allows their head to stay in one piece. And they may even just hear something you have to say.
Would you prefer greater ease with talking to people about things that you're interested in? If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to tell people only what they can hear?"
Then next time you start a conversation with someone, instead of blowing their head off with the godzillion amazing things you know, ask them a question like "So what's new and interesting for you?" Then listen and wait until they ask you a question.
When they do — with kindness, allowance and awareness — ask them another question about something you're interested in, such as "Right now I'm working on X. Have you had anything to do with that?" Then listen and wait until they ask you another question.
Telling people what they can hear from kindness, allowance and awareness is different from not wanting to be judged for what you say. It's a gentle way of being that honours what they can receive and allows their head to stay in one piece. And they may even just hear something you have to say.
Day 299 - What if honesty wasn't what I thought it was?
Have you grown up thinking that honesty is the best policy? Do you always seek to tell people what you know to be true?
How has that working for you? If it's not easy sailing, ask yourself "What if honesty wasn't what I thought it was?"
When you tell people what you think they ought to hear, because you know it to be true, are you considering their point of view, their truth or their reality? Or are you telling them your point of view, your truth and your reality?
When you dump your points of view on top of someone, how much space do they have for themselves? Do they enjoy being hemmed in under your pile of truth and ask you for more? Or do they kick it off and run away?
What if instead of being bluntly honest with other people, you be bluntly honest with yourself, and only tell people what they are capable of hearing?
Or even ask them a question instead?
How has that working for you? If it's not easy sailing, ask yourself "What if honesty wasn't what I thought it was?"
When you tell people what you think they ought to hear, because you know it to be true, are you considering their point of view, their truth or their reality? Or are you telling them your point of view, your truth and your reality?
When you dump your points of view on top of someone, how much space do they have for themselves? Do they enjoy being hemmed in under your pile of truth and ask you for more? Or do they kick it off and run away?
What if instead of being bluntly honest with other people, you be bluntly honest with yourself, and only tell people what they are capable of hearing?
Or even ask them a question instead?
Day 300 - What if I judged nothing?
How much of your day do you spend judging things? Never, sometimes or constantly?
What's judgement? Any point of view you have about something being good/bad or right/wrong is a judgement. You know, when you think "Oh, that's no good" or "If only people would think/do this instead?" Or whenever someone else says something and you agree and align, or resist and reaction, you are in judgement.
There is nothing wrong with judging things, if that's fun for you. Be aware, however, that judging will only serve to distract you from being present in every moment and so limit your possibilities.
If you'd like to find out what is possible beyond the limitation of judgement, ask yourself "What if I judged nothing?" Nothing includes you and everyone else.
Then no matter what you or anyone else does, says, or thinks, smile and say to yourself "Interesting point of view" in total allowance.
After a while, you will become interesting point of view where you can see all possibilities, receive everything, and create the life you desire, free from the polarity of judgement.
How? Follow the energy, choose, notice what you create/shows up, then choose again. Repeat.
What's judgement? Any point of view you have about something being good/bad or right/wrong is a judgement. You know, when you think "Oh, that's no good" or "If only people would think/do this instead?" Or whenever someone else says something and you agree and align, or resist and reaction, you are in judgement.
There is nothing wrong with judging things, if that's fun for you. Be aware, however, that judging will only serve to distract you from being present in every moment and so limit your possibilities.
If you'd like to find out what is possible beyond the limitation of judgement, ask yourself "What if I judged nothing?" Nothing includes you and everyone else.
Then no matter what you or anyone else does, says, or thinks, smile and say to yourself "Interesting point of view" in total allowance.
After a while, you will become interesting point of view where you can see all possibilities, receive everything, and create the life you desire, free from the polarity of judgement.
How? Follow the energy, choose, notice what you create/shows up, then choose again. Repeat.
Day 301 - What do I love about having no money?
Do you always find you don't have the money you'd like? Not even the money you need?
If so, ask yourself "What do I love about having no money?" Whatever that is, will you give it up?
When you ask yourself this question, you may have an awareness. For example, it may be points of view you have bought from your family or friends. You love fitting in and so have decided to agree to their points of view about what money means. Are they your preferred points of view? No? Then give them up.
Or maybe you have your own points of view. For example, you love having no money so you can get up every day and work like a maniac to prove to the world you're a 'good provider'? Or perhaps you love people taking pity on you and giving you everything so you don't have to work at all?
And any and all point of view in between and beyond.
You don't need to know what it is to give it up. Just give be willing to give it up. Then you'll be free to choose for you.
If so, ask yourself "What do I love about having no money?" Whatever that is, will you give it up?
When you ask yourself this question, you may have an awareness. For example, it may be points of view you have bought from your family or friends. You love fitting in and so have decided to agree to their points of view about what money means. Are they your preferred points of view? No? Then give them up.
Or maybe you have your own points of view. For example, you love having no money so you can get up every day and work like a maniac to prove to the world you're a 'good provider'? Or perhaps you love people taking pity on you and giving you everything so you don't have to work at all?
And any and all point of view in between and beyond.
You don't need to know what it is to give it up. Just give be willing to give it up. Then you'll be free to choose for you.