Qs Week 6 - Days 36-42
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Day 36 - If I had 10 seconds to live the rest of my life, what would I choose?
What have you decided you must keep being/ doing/ having, no matter what? You made a decision, so you'll stick to it even if it kills you. After all, that's the right way to live, isn't it?
Maybe. Or would you prefer another option to killing yourself to prove you're right?
What if instead, you created your life by consciously choosing things that contributed to your life in ways you enjoy?
How? Ask “If I had 10 seconds to live the rest of my life, what would I choose?”
This is not about making random changes for change's sake. The question is designed to remind you what science says: this is a free-will universe and you have choice.
You may end up choosing the same thing continuously every 10 seconds, as long as it works.
And if one day it doesn't, you'll know and you can choose something else that does.
Maybe. Or would you prefer another option to killing yourself to prove you're right?
What if instead, you created your life by consciously choosing things that contributed to your life in ways you enjoy?
How? Ask “If I had 10 seconds to live the rest of my life, what would I choose?”
This is not about making random changes for change's sake. The question is designed to remind you what science says: this is a free-will universe and you have choice.
You may end up choosing the same thing continuously every 10 seconds, as long as it works.
And if one day it doesn't, you'll know and you can choose something else that does.
Day 37 - Is this fear, or excitement?
If you were in a fire or in another emergency – like, I don't know, a pandemic – would you freeze with fear? Or would you do what was required to keep you and yours safe?
Would you lockdown yourself down in a panic with tears, waiting for the authorities to rescue you (fingers crossed they'll be in time)? Or would you find your own superhero reserves of energy, strength and resilience to sweep up everyone from small children to grandmas and carry them down five flights of stairs beyond the flames to safety, without a fuss in your underwear no matter who was laughing?
What are you doing right now? Got your head under the pillow waiting for a knight in shining armour? Or are you looking at all your options, doing your research, finding and listening to experts in their field, considering strategies to create your future, and following what feels light for you?
When you were little, was climbing trees scary or exciting? What was your mum's point of view (aaah!!! get down from there!! Wait!!! I'm coming to help you!)?
And what about now? What do you think you're afraid of? Are you still listening to your mum?
What if you have misidentified this sensation? To find out, ask "Is this fear, or excitement?"
Is your sense actually the excitement of a challenge? What if you recognised this distraction? Could you help save someone from a fire?
Would you lockdown yourself down in a panic with tears, waiting for the authorities to rescue you (fingers crossed they'll be in time)? Or would you find your own superhero reserves of energy, strength and resilience to sweep up everyone from small children to grandmas and carry them down five flights of stairs beyond the flames to safety, without a fuss in your underwear no matter who was laughing?
What are you doing right now? Got your head under the pillow waiting for a knight in shining armour? Or are you looking at all your options, doing your research, finding and listening to experts in their field, considering strategies to create your future, and following what feels light for you?
When you were little, was climbing trees scary or exciting? What was your mum's point of view (aaah!!! get down from there!! Wait!!! I'm coming to help you!)?
And what about now? What do you think you're afraid of? Are you still listening to your mum?
What if you have misidentified this sensation? To find out, ask "Is this fear, or excitement?"
Is your sense actually the excitement of a challenge? What if you recognised this distraction? Could you help save someone from a fire?
Day 38 - What is this? Would I like to change it?
Something going on in your life that is just not sitting right with you? First get clear on exactly what you are stuck on by asking “What is this?”
Once you are clear on the issue, then you can get clear on whether you really would like to change it or not.
How often have you been unable to change something because somewhere, deep down (or even just under the surface), you really didn't desire change?
If you prefer not to change, that's OK. When you get clear on that, you'll be free from the stress of trying to change something continuously to no effect. Perhaps you thought you needed to change it because someone told you you had to?
On the other hand, if you would like to change something, you can, as long as you're willing to do whatever it takes.
Are you willing? To find out ask “Would I like to change it?” Whenever you find you can't create the change you'd like, it's because you are unwilling to do or be something.
Once you are clear on the issue, then you can get clear on whether you really would like to change it or not.
How often have you been unable to change something because somewhere, deep down (or even just under the surface), you really didn't desire change?
If you prefer not to change, that's OK. When you get clear on that, you'll be free from the stress of trying to change something continuously to no effect. Perhaps you thought you needed to change it because someone told you you had to?
On the other hand, if you would like to change something, you can, as long as you're willing to do whatever it takes.
Are you willing? To find out ask “Would I like to change it?” Whenever you find you can't create the change you'd like, it's because you are unwilling to do or be something.
Day 39 - Would I like to change it? If so, how?
To change something, first get clear on exactly what you 'd like to change by asking “What is this?”
Next ask “Would I like to change it?” To change something, you must truly desire it and be willing to do whatever it takes.
Then you can ask “If so, how?” Can you change anyone else? No. The only thing you can change is you and your points of view. For example, when friends, family or perfect strangers reprimand you for being a conspiracy theory/government-trusting idiot and that you're WRONG WRONG WRONG to believe the conspiracies/government. Not much fun for you, is it?
So what else is possible? Stop talking to them (no reprimands if there's no contact). Put your own points of view away, push all your barriers down, smile and ask them genuine questions about their points of view (you never know, if you ask the right questions with genuine interest they might learn something new...and so might you).
Or notice your buttons and smile when people push them. Consider your friends, family and even perfect strangers are cute for trying to save you from your idiotic belief in conspiracies/governments, saying “Thanks so much. Tell me more." Then shut up, listen, nod and listen some more till they run out of steam.
Just because you listen to their stories, doesn't mean you have to buy them.
Next ask “Would I like to change it?” To change something, you must truly desire it and be willing to do whatever it takes.
Then you can ask “If so, how?” Can you change anyone else? No. The only thing you can change is you and your points of view. For example, when friends, family or perfect strangers reprimand you for being a conspiracy theory/government-trusting idiot and that you're WRONG WRONG WRONG to believe the conspiracies/government. Not much fun for you, is it?
So what else is possible? Stop talking to them (no reprimands if there's no contact). Put your own points of view away, push all your barriers down, smile and ask them genuine questions about their points of view (you never know, if you ask the right questions with genuine interest they might learn something new...and so might you).
Or notice your buttons and smile when people push them. Consider your friends, family and even perfect strangers are cute for trying to save you from your idiotic belief in conspiracies/governments, saying “Thanks so much. Tell me more." Then shut up, listen, nod and listen some more till they run out of steam.
Just because you listen to their stories, doesn't mean you have to buy them.
Day 40 - What does this add to my life?
Do you use drugs of any kind? Hard drugs, pharmaceutical drugs, tobacco or alcohol to excessive amounts? Do you have any other compulsive behaviour, for example with food, exercise or helping/bullying people, or feeling bad, that you think you can't change? Are you a control freak working 24/7 to prove you're right?
What does this behaviour add to your life?
Do you use it to dull or heighten your awareness about something? Does it free you from pain, physical, emotional or intellectual? Does it create a space where you feel more you?
How real is that awareness, freedom and space? Completely, or not at all?
What if you could create real, total awareness, freedom and space which does not rely on anything but you?
If you'd like to find out, ask “What does this add to my life, and what information do I require that would empower me to create that in other ways?”
Visit http://www.marilynbradford.com/right-recovery-for-you.html for more information.
What does this behaviour add to your life?
Do you use it to dull or heighten your awareness about something? Does it free you from pain, physical, emotional or intellectual? Does it create a space where you feel more you?
How real is that awareness, freedom and space? Completely, or not at all?
What if you could create real, total awareness, freedom and space which does not rely on anything but you?
If you'd like to find out, ask “What does this add to my life, and what information do I require that would empower me to create that in other ways?”
Visit http://www.marilynbradford.com/right-recovery-for-you.html for more information.
Day 41 - What about this anger am I grateful for?
Has someone been angry with you recently? Call you names for something you said or did?
How did you react? Did you start thinking you were stupid or wrong? Or perhaps you responded with your own anger?
Did any of that work out for you? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?"
There is always something. For example, what was their anger was trying to do? Control you? Distract you from something? Shut you down? Or maybe it was a mechanism for distracting them from something going on in their world and really had nothing to do with you?
Once you become aware of someone's anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you would like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?"
If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. If you prefer not to have them in your life, genuinely thank them for their interesting point of view, smile and walk away/hang up/delete/remove them from your contact list.
This question will help you step out of the autopilot of reacting to anger, which will only serve to distract you from creating the life you'd really like.
How did you react? Did you start thinking you were stupid or wrong? Or perhaps you responded with your own anger?
Did any of that work out for you? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?"
There is always something. For example, what was their anger was trying to do? Control you? Distract you from something? Shut you down? Or maybe it was a mechanism for distracting them from something going on in their world and really had nothing to do with you?
Once you become aware of someone's anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you would like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?"
If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. If you prefer not to have them in your life, genuinely thank them for their interesting point of view, smile and walk away/hang up/delete/remove them from your contact list.
This question will help you step out of the autopilot of reacting to anger, which will only serve to distract you from creating the life you'd really like.
Day 42 - Is this fight a distraction?
Some people love to fight. Do you?
Some will fight to the death to prove the rightness of their point of view. Some just like to fight for the fun of it. In either case, will anything you say or do change their mind and stop the fight?
Do you ever see the insanity of an argument and try to stop it or change it with well considered and logical arguments? Does it ever work? Or do you get more frustrated, tangled and drawn into the fight?
If you don't enjoy arguing and would like to move beyond the fight to new possibilities, ask yourself "Is this fight a distraction?" then smile and say “You're right, I'm wrong” three times.
You're not agreeing the other person is right. You're acknowledging their right to their point of view, and you are being in allowance of them not seeing yours.
The words are easy. The energy behind the words might take practice. Saying these words sarcastically or angrily will not work. Your energy must be of complete allowance.
Will they work? Next time someone wants a fight, use them and see. And remember, you can always be grateful for their anger and choose something else.
Some will fight to the death to prove the rightness of their point of view. Some just like to fight for the fun of it. In either case, will anything you say or do change their mind and stop the fight?
Do you ever see the insanity of an argument and try to stop it or change it with well considered and logical arguments? Does it ever work? Or do you get more frustrated, tangled and drawn into the fight?
If you don't enjoy arguing and would like to move beyond the fight to new possibilities, ask yourself "Is this fight a distraction?" then smile and say “You're right, I'm wrong” three times.
You're not agreeing the other person is right. You're acknowledging their right to their point of view, and you are being in allowance of them not seeing yours.
The words are easy. The energy behind the words might take practice. Saying these words sarcastically or angrily will not work. Your energy must be of complete allowance.
Will they work? Next time someone wants a fight, use them and see. And remember, you can always be grateful for their anger and choose something else.