Qs Week 31 - Days 211-217
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Day 211 - What else could I create?
What do you say when terrible things show up in your life? Do you say "Oh NO, look what happened?!" What about when great things show up? What do you say then? Anything like "Oh wow, I can't believe it?!"
Would you like more great things to show up? Are you willing to acknowledge that YOU are the creator of everything in your life? All the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. YOU created it ALL?
If so, then say "Wow, look at all the awesome/rubbish stuff I've created in my life! I wonder what else I could create?"
When you're willing to acknowledge that YOU are the ideas person, author, creator, director, architect, engineer, draftsperson, CEO, President, Prime Minister, Grand PooBah of your own life, then you regain hold of its creation.
If you can create magnificent rubbish, you can undoubtedly create magnificent magnificence. So then the question becomes, what would you truly like to create in your life?
Would you like more great things to show up? Are you willing to acknowledge that YOU are the creator of everything in your life? All the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. YOU created it ALL?
If so, then say "Wow, look at all the awesome/rubbish stuff I've created in my life! I wonder what else I could create?"
When you're willing to acknowledge that YOU are the ideas person, author, creator, director, architect, engineer, draftsperson, CEO, President, Prime Minister, Grand PooBah of your own life, then you regain hold of its creation.
If you can create magnificent rubbish, you can undoubtedly create magnificent magnificence. So then the question becomes, what would you truly like to create in your life?
Day 212 - What contribution is this excitement?
Have you ever been overwhelmingly excited about something or someone? How did your body respond? Did your heart and mind race? Did you lie awake all night dreaming of all the future possibilities? Despite your lack of sleep, did you function on an adrenaline overload?
Did your body enjoy it? What exactly did it contribute to the object of your excitement? Did it expand you and your project with ease and elegance, joy and reward? Was it the invitation to others you expected? And did it help you get anything done? Or did your excitement distract you, keep you frozen in hopes and dreams? Did you find people did not seem to catch the fire of your excitement the way you expected?
If excitement has not worked the way you thought it would, ask "What contribution is this excitement?" If you notice it's not what you thought it was, ask "Who does this belong to?" and "What else is possible?"
What if simply being you were the greatest contribution, beyond anything you can imagine?
Did your body enjoy it? What exactly did it contribute to the object of your excitement? Did it expand you and your project with ease and elegance, joy and reward? Was it the invitation to others you expected? And did it help you get anything done? Or did your excitement distract you, keep you frozen in hopes and dreams? Did you find people did not seem to catch the fire of your excitement the way you expected?
If excitement has not worked the way you thought it would, ask "What contribution is this excitement?" If you notice it's not what you thought it was, ask "Who does this belong to?" and "What else is possible?"
What if simply being you were the greatest contribution, beyond anything you can imagine?
Day 213 - Gratitude Trumps
I was saving these for just before the end of year festive holidays, but it feels like the Silly Season has come early this year and we could use some of these games right now.
How much stress do you normally experience when you spend time with your family, in-laws, or co-workers who are on a different wavelength to you? Have you got relatives who give you a hard time? Maybe you married the favourite cousin and you're 'not good enough'? Do some of them think it's 'fun' to laugh at your views on life? Or perhaps they're just plain mean ELFs who know you're an easy mark?
If you dread family, workplace or other gatherings with people who are not in your zone, try these games and create a difference.
Are your get togethers full of robust discussion or outright fighting? How many disagreements are really just individuals crying out for more attention? So give the ones giving you the hardest time, the attention they seek. With gentleness and allowance, say "I'm so grateful that you are in my life. You are such a gift." And smile.
Then ask them questions and listen. No one will have paid them so much genuine attention in a long time. Being totally open, vulnerable and present with them will knock them over like a house of cards. And you never know, they may just ask you a question back.
How much stress do you normally experience when you spend time with your family, in-laws, or co-workers who are on a different wavelength to you? Have you got relatives who give you a hard time? Maybe you married the favourite cousin and you're 'not good enough'? Do some of them think it's 'fun' to laugh at your views on life? Or perhaps they're just plain mean ELFs who know you're an easy mark?
If you dread family, workplace or other gatherings with people who are not in your zone, try these games and create a difference.
Are your get togethers full of robust discussion or outright fighting? How many disagreements are really just individuals crying out for more attention? So give the ones giving you the hardest time, the attention they seek. With gentleness and allowance, say "I'm so grateful that you are in my life. You are such a gift." And smile.
Then ask them questions and listen. No one will have paid them so much genuine attention in a long time. Being totally open, vulnerable and present with them will knock them over like a house of cards. And you never know, they may just ask you a question back.
Day 214 - Nurture You Monopoly
Here's another game for when you find yourself in a Silly Season.
How do you normally approach special seasonal events or holidays? Do you prepare yourself to grin and bear all the things you think you're supposed to do? Do you go to places you'd rather not, or stay longer than you enjoy, because someone in your family or workplace has decided it's required?
If you'd like to enjoy your holidays more, next time play a game of Nurture You Monopoly. The rules are: whatever arrangements your family or workplace has made, pre-plan a time and place to do something you really enjoy.
Would that be a massage, pedicure, coffee with friends, a walk up the mountains or along the beach, or a game of golf? Or something else? Then devise an exit. Ask a friend to call you with an excuse. Pre-arrange a taxi to come and pick you up.
When the phone call or taxi arrives, say "Thank you so much for today! I just have to pop out now to help my friend/mother/neighbour. I'll be back a bit later!"
Then smile, LEAVE and nurture you.
How do you normally approach special seasonal events or holidays? Do you prepare yourself to grin and bear all the things you think you're supposed to do? Do you go to places you'd rather not, or stay longer than you enjoy, because someone in your family or workplace has decided it's required?
If you'd like to enjoy your holidays more, next time play a game of Nurture You Monopoly. The rules are: whatever arrangements your family or workplace has made, pre-plan a time and place to do something you really enjoy.
Would that be a massage, pedicure, coffee with friends, a walk up the mountains or along the beach, or a game of golf? Or something else? Then devise an exit. Ask a friend to call you with an excuse. Pre-arrange a taxi to come and pick you up.
When the phone call or taxi arrives, say "Thank you so much for today! I just have to pop out now to help my friend/mother/neighbour. I'll be back a bit later!"
Then smile, LEAVE and nurture you.
Day 215 - Expand Outwards Reverse Origami
So many fun games to play in the Silly Season. Here's another one.
Do you find yourself overcrowded with people in your house or workplace during the festive season? Or is there always that ONE person sucking up all the oxygen or boxing you into a corner?
Here's a game to play at these times. The rules are simple. Whenever you start to feel you're folding, stapling, mutilating, or contracting yourself to fit into someone else's reality box, or you're gasping in the vacuum because they've sucked all the oxygen out of the room, or you feel pinned beneath the weight of your family/boss' baggage and expectations expand outwards.
How? Just consciously ask your edges to move out. How far? As far as you need in all directions until you become lighter and spacier. Can anyone hang their baggage on your hooks if you're pure space? Will you have any hooks left?
Practice this game. When you master it, you might even find people fall straight through you, flat on their face. And who said slapstick wasn't funny?
Do you find yourself overcrowded with people in your house or workplace during the festive season? Or is there always that ONE person sucking up all the oxygen or boxing you into a corner?
Here's a game to play at these times. The rules are simple. Whenever you start to feel you're folding, stapling, mutilating, or contracting yourself to fit into someone else's reality box, or you're gasping in the vacuum because they've sucked all the oxygen out of the room, or you feel pinned beneath the weight of your family/boss' baggage and expectations expand outwards.
How? Just consciously ask your edges to move out. How far? As far as you need in all directions until you become lighter and spacier. Can anyone hang their baggage on your hooks if you're pure space? Will you have any hooks left?
Practice this game. When you master it, you might even find people fall straight through you, flat on their face. And who said slapstick wasn't funny?
Day 216 - Interesting Point of View Dominos
How much of the Silly Season do you spend listening to people tell you directly, or indirectly how much rubbish you are?
Is that fun? Is it true? If not and you'd like something different, play this game. Whenever you sense someone is looking to criticise, hurt, insult, or provoke you, smile, nod gently and — without heat — reply "Hmm, really interesting point of view."
You are acknowledging their viewpoint and allowing them to enjoy it. You're not agreeing they're right, and you're not being distracted by falling into an angry, emotional reaction (which is usually what they really want so they can control you).
If you need to pull the heat out of an interest onslaught, tell them "You're right. I'm wrong" three times.
Our addiction to right and wrong, good and bad is one of the strongest we have. These two magic phrases will invite the energy of allowance into any Silly Season.
Just think, if everyone were in allowance, would family feuds, neighbouring conflicts, or even global wars, topple over like dominos?
Is that fun? Is it true? If not and you'd like something different, play this game. Whenever you sense someone is looking to criticise, hurt, insult, or provoke you, smile, nod gently and — without heat — reply "Hmm, really interesting point of view."
You are acknowledging their viewpoint and allowing them to enjoy it. You're not agreeing they're right, and you're not being distracted by falling into an angry, emotional reaction (which is usually what they really want so they can control you).
If you need to pull the heat out of an interest onslaught, tell them "You're right. I'm wrong" three times.
Our addiction to right and wrong, good and bad is one of the strongest we have. These two magic phrases will invite the energy of allowance into any Silly Season.
Just think, if everyone were in allowance, would family feuds, neighbouring conflicts, or even global wars, topple over like dominos?
Day 217 - Snakes and Bring Downers
Do all sorts of magical creatures find you during the Silly Season, especially when you're offering cake and beer?
Who are they in your circles? You know the ones, the Snakes who always bite you when you least expect it, because that's their instinct. Or the Bring Downers, who simply get a kick out of making your life hell and bringing you down?
Does it always shock, horrify, disappoint or upset you when they do it again and again and again?
What if you gave up expecting everyone to be nice like you, and instead play this game? First, recognise who the Snakes and Bring Downers are in your life. Then you can choose to stay out of their way.
Or, when they do enter your life, see them, and acknowledge them for being great at what they do.
How? When they start with the biting and the bringing down — without heat — say "Wow, you're really good at doing that!" When they ask you what you're talking about reply "Whatever you're doing now. What is that?"
Then listen with interesting point of view energy. Or walk away, with a nurturing smile to yourself.
Who are they in your circles? You know the ones, the Snakes who always bite you when you least expect it, because that's their instinct. Or the Bring Downers, who simply get a kick out of making your life hell and bringing you down?
Does it always shock, horrify, disappoint or upset you when they do it again and again and again?
What if you gave up expecting everyone to be nice like you, and instead play this game? First, recognise who the Snakes and Bring Downers are in your life. Then you can choose to stay out of their way.
Or, when they do enter your life, see them, and acknowledge them for being great at what they do.
How? When they start with the biting and the bringing down — without heat — say "Wow, you're really good at doing that!" When they ask you what you're talking about reply "Whatever you're doing now. What is that?"
Then listen with interesting point of view energy. Or walk away, with a nurturing smile to yourself.