How can I use this to my advantage?

Do you think you have to always put other people first? And if you don't, you're being selfish?

How does that work for you? Are you always taking care of other people's needs, wants, complaints, and cares before yours?

Have you been able to create the life you'd really like? Or are you tired, frustrated, and losing money or your health from helping other people?

If you've been doing everything other people want, thinking that it will help you, and you'd now like a change, start here. 

No matter who or what comes across your path, ask "How can I use this to my advantage?" and take notice. There may be something. There may be nothing. 

The point is to consider — honour — you first. What if by you considering you above all else, you contributed more to others than you could ever imagine? Is that being selfish?