How much time do you spend second guessing whether you'll fail at something or not? Do you say "I'd like to do it, but I probably won't be any good" or "I'll give it a go, but I'm sure I won't do very well?"  Some of this may be because you think you shouldn't big-note yourself.

How much of it do you end up believing?

There is nothing wrong with this point of view. Be aware, that your point of view creates your reality. So if you think you'll be no good, then you're absolutely correct. 

If you'd like to create a different reality — an expansive, can-do reality full of possibility, then start with a different point of view. Start by asking "What if success were the only option?"

What is the definintion of success? That's up to you. How have you defined success? What if by being clear on what you'd truly like as your life and living, then success IS the only option?

They're up in the air of course. Or are they? If you're standing on your head, then wouldn't your feet be on your head?

How many things in your life are like this? Beliefs based on assumptions? You've heard it from your family, your friends, your government, your doctors, or saw it on TV, so of course it's true! Right?

What if some, many, or even all your assumptions about how the world functions were different to what you thought? What if everything was the opposite of what it appeared to be and nothing was the opposite of what it appeared to be?

So next time you'd like clarity about something you have assumed must be certain, ask "If I'm standing on my head, where are my feet?"

You may find they are indeed in the air. Or they may be on your head. Maybe you checked them into the cloakroom. Or perhaps you never had feet to begin with? 

How often do you feel swept away by the stream of people's trauma and drama? Dragged over the rapids and smashed against the rocks?

Or perhaps you're the salmon diligently swimming upstream, against the flow? 

What if instead, you were the rock in the stream, allowing the water to pass one way and the salmon to pass the other?

What if you could see it all, without being the effect of it, so that you could choose what worked for you?

This is allowance, and questions will enable you to be in that state. 

Like to be the rock? Ask yourself "What if I be the question?"

What does your life feel like right now? Light? Heavy? Fun? Serious? Energetic? Lethargic? Joyous? Miserable? Frivolous? Exhausting? Add your own words, image or feelings to describe your life as it is now.

Got them? Sometimes it helps to close your eyes to do it.

Now ask yourself "Is this the life I truly desire?"

If your life is not exactly what you'd like, then do it again, first asking "If time, money and other people's points of view weren't real, what would I choose for my life, living and reality?"

Now get a sense of the energy of the life you'd truly like. Add words, images, smells, feelings, sensations too if that helps.

Got it?

Are two images the same, or different?

What if you carried with you the energy of the life you'd truly like, and chose consciously people and things that matched it, regardless of your normal logical pros and cons?

Could that make it easier for you to create the life you'd truly like?

How often do you ask for what you'd really like? All the time? Sometimes? Almost never?

And how much of what you'd really like do you have in your life right now? A lot? A little? Almost nothing?

Do you see the connection? Don't ask, don't get.

What stops you from asking for what you'd like? Do you think that you're being selfish? That there's not enough to go around and you should give up your bit (whatever that is) for someone else? That you don't deserve it? That you don't need to ask for anything from anyone? That people should know what you want? Something else?

Are these true? Or are they interesting points of view that you may have bought from someone, sometime?

Have you ever heard the axiom: ask and you will receive? Have you ever asked?

So if you don't have the life you'd truly like, ask "What if I asked for the life I'd truly like?"

Then ask. And receive.

Have you ever been stuck not knowing what to do? You've got two or more great (or not so great) options and you just don't know which one to go with?

Are you frozen by the idea that you might make the wrong choice? Have you made this choice the answer to your life? And if you get it wrong, people will say "there you go again, making no-good choices" and your life will be over?

Is that true? What if there were no wrong choices? What if no choice was the answer to your life? What if a choice was quite simply that: a choice. A choice that is good for 10 seconds, and then you get to choose again.

​How does that feel? A bit lighter? Can you choose now?

So go on, remind yourself: a choice is just a choice and you can do it every 10 seconds. When you're stuck, ask "What if I just chose, dammit?"

​Then choose. Repeat.

What's your point of view about magic? That it's voodoo and a lie? Or that it's a bit of a laugh for kids? (But wow...what if you really could do things like Harry Potter and X-men? Wouldn't that be fun!)

Do you ever have wonderful people or things show up in your life with ease and by surprise? Is that like magic?

Does it make you smile?

What if magic were simply things appearing from a source you couldn't see and didn't yet understand? What if magic was simply science you couldn't yet explain? Like if you now saw fire for the first time?

If you'd like to invite more magic into your life and create things you thought impossible, ask "What magic can I ask for today?"

And then ask. 

How often do you get stuck in life? A lot, a little or not at all? Do you ever get into a cranky pants rage or spiral into a frenzy of anxiety? Is that fun for you?

If not, and you'd prefer to have total freedom to see and walk around such roadblocks — to be able to change anything that's not working for you in life — start by asking one of these questions. 

​1. What if I had infinite, free choice? 

2. What if everything were just an interesting point of view?

3. If I had 10 second to choose the rest of my life, what would I choose?

4. What question could I ask?

5. What if form and structure had no significance?

6. Am I in judgement? 

7. What does this add to my life?

8. What's the value of competition?

9. What if I didn't buy the story?

10. What am I excluding here? 

The reality is, you always have choice. 

When things don't work out the way you'd like, what do you do? Do you ask "What's right about this that I'm not getting?" What else is possible?" "Cute, not bright!" and "How does it get any better than this?"  

Or do you try to find someone or something to blame? Do others blame you when things don't go right for them?

Blame means to find fault with, to hold responsible for, or to condemn as wrong. 

Is blame real and true? Or is it an interesting point of view based on someone's view of right and wrong?

When you buy into the idea that "someone must take the blame" how much trauma and drama comes your way? How much energy do you spend excusing, defending or deflecting the blame? Is that fun?

If not, and you'd like to be free from the control of distractors like this, ask "Is this blame distracting me from creating the life I'd truly like?" 

Is work usually hard for you and not much fun? Do you think that's just the way it has to be? That it's wrong to show that you enjoy your job, or that doing things elegantly -- getting the best results for the least effort -- is somehow cheating?

When you were young, did your parents frown and complain about their day at the office or factory? Do you do that now?

Would you like to enjoy work more and get better results more easily? If so, start by giving up all the fixed points of view you have about work. Then ask "What if work were easy and fun?"

Are you willing to enjoy every moment of your work life, and get the best results, and make money?

It is possible. Many people create good income from doing things they enjoy all the time. How? They choose to do things they enjoy well, rather than suffer and do badly things they don't. 

Happiness is just a choice and a smile is very good for business. 

Do you find you other people are always telling you what to do, things that you'd rather not do, and convince you to give up the things you prefer?
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Other people will always try to get you to do things, using obligation and guilt to control you. Why? It makes their lives easier, and you usually do what they tell you to, so why not?

Listening to other people's points of view can be useful. You can learn a great deal. And did you know that when you don't feel light and wonderful about a request or demand, you don't have to do it?

Next time someone asks/tells you to do something, ask yourself "Does this work for me?"  If you feel a heaviness, smile and with a light, joyful energy say “Thank you so much for thinking of me! I'm sorry. That doesn't work for me right now.”

Then smile again and change the subject. You are stating a fact about which no one can argue. Don't offer a reason or excuse; these only allow the conversation to continue. 

If people push you, smile again and say “I'm sorry it doesn't work for me. It's an interesting idea and I'm sure other people will be keen." And if that still doesn't work, smile and walk away/hang up/delete/block/ whatever it takes until your lightness returns. 

Are the things you'd truly like not showing up in your life? Even though you are (select any and all that apply): smart, educated, articulate, hard working, diligent, polite, kind, good looking, well connected, in the zone, [enter your own talents here _________________________], and generally have everything going for you?

Do you have any of these points of view? I can/should do everything myself. I should be self-sufficient/self-made. Handouts are wrong. I know best. Everyone else is stupid. I can't rely on anyone else? 

Even if you can do everything yourself, better than anyone, having these points of view, will cut off your ability to receive from anyone or anything. 

If your point of view is “I don't need anything from anyone,” then that's what you'll create.

So if you'd like to create the things in your life that you've been asking for but have not yet shown up, ask “What am I unwilling to receive?”

Notice what shows up - including somebody else's point of view -  then ask "What action could I take?"

Some people love to fight. Do you?

Some will fight to the death to prove the rightness of their point of view. Some just like to fight for the fun of it. In either case, will anything you say or do change their mind and stop the fight?

Do you ever see the insanity of an argument and try to stop it or change it with well considered and logical arguments? Does it ever work? Or do you get more frustrated, tangled and drawn into the fight?

If you don't enjoy arguing and would like to move beyond the fight to new possibilities, ask yourself "Is this fight a distraction?" then smile and say “You're right, I'm wrong” three times.

You're not agreeing the other person is right. You're acknowledging their right to their point of view, and you are being in allowance of them not seeing yours.

The words are easy. The energy behind the words might take practice. Saying these words sarcastically or angrily will not work. Your energy must be of complete allowance.

Will they work? Next time someone wants a fight, use them and see.  And remember, you can always be grateful for their anger and choose something else. 

Has someone been angry with you recently? Call you names for something you said or did?

How did you react? Did you start thinking you were stupid or wrong? Or perhaps you responded with your own anger?

Did any of that work out for you? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?" 

There is always something. For example, what was their anger was trying to do? Control you? Distract you from something? Shut you down? Or maybe it was a mechanism for distracting them from something going on in their world and really had nothing to do with you? 

Once you become aware of someone's anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you would like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?" 

If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. If you prefer not to have them in your life, genuinely thank them for their interesting point of view, smile and walk away/hang up/delete/remove them from your contact list. ​

This question will help you step out of the autopilot of reacting to anger, which will only serve to distract you from creating the life you'd really like. ​

To change something, first get clear on exactly what you 'd like to change by asking “What is this?”

Next ask “Would I like to change it?” To change something, you must truly desire it and be willing to do whatever it takes.

Then you can ask “If so, how?” Can you change anyone else? No. The only thing you can change is you and your points of view. For example, when friends, family or perfect strangers reprimand you for being a conspiracy theory/government-trusting idiot and that you're WRONG WRONG WRONG to believe the conspiracies/government. Not much fun for you, is it? 

So what else is possible? Stop talking to them (no reprimands if there's no contact). Put your own points of view away, push all your barriers down, smile and ask them genuine questions about their points of view (you never know, if you ask the right questions with genuine interest they might learn something new...and so might you).

Or notice your buttons and smile when people push them. Consider your friends, family and even perfect strangers are cute for trying to save you from your idiotic belief in conspiracies/governments, saying “Thanks so much. Tell me more."  Then shut up, listen, nod and listen some more till they run out of steam.

​Just because you listen to their stories, doesn't mean you have to buy them. 

Have you been doing a lot of reading and research lately, trying to make sense of what's going on in the world? Are you seeking the truth about options for you and your family's/community's best health now and into the future? 

Do you get excited when you uncover a new piece of information, only to find that your sense of lightness and possibility growing heavy? Have you experienced this light-heavy-light-heavy cycle continuously? Have you gone down a rabbit hole or two hundred?

Remember that what's true for you always makes you lighter and a lie for you always makes you heavy. So what is it when you sense the heaviness of a lie, but it keeps playing on round and round in your head, keeping your attention? 

Next time this happens when you read an article, watch a video, or have a conversation with someone, ask yourself "Is this a truth with a lie attached?"  If you feel a lightness, then ask "What part of this is true?" (it will feel lighter) and "What part of this is a lie, spoken or unspoken?" (it will feel heavy). 

These questions can help you pick your way through the myriad stories on sale without being compressed into a solid block of granite. How light would you be if you could pull apart all the stories with ease and find what's light for you, rather than feeling like you have to buy the whole bundle and then tie yourself up with reasons and justifications for doing so?

Better still, what if next time you find yourself like a stone down a rabbit hole you simply choose lightness? Turn off the trauma and drama, go play with the kids/pets/partner, have a sleep, do some gardening, watch a funny movie, ANYTHING that is light for you. 

How much of everything we hear is part true and part a lie? What could you create as your life if you considered it all "an interesting point of view"? 
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Much gratitude again to Dr Dain Heer for this one. 

How often do you limit your choices – before you even consider them – by concluding that other people won't approve? “My husband/wife/partner wouldn't agree”, “My parents wouldn't like it” or even “No one else does that, so what would everyone think of me?” 

Worrying about what other people think is one of the main reasons you will give for not doing something. 

​What if you took other people out of the equation so you could see what you'd really like to choose?

Ask “If other people's points of view weren't real – if everything were just an interesting point of view – what would I choose?” 

How many of the world's science, social, cultural and business innovation, and even new lands (you know, the world is no longer flat), came from people doing what they loved and knowing what was right for THEM, no matter what other people thought was real, true, or possible.

What could be possible for you if you listened more to you?

Are you smart? Are you aware of everything going on around you in all time, space and dimensions, seeing connections, pasts and futures that no one else is aware of?

And yet do you find that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating on things to you, as if you had no idea?

How do you react? Do you nod, smile and think "interesting"? Or do you get annoyed, worked up, and drawn into a meaningless circular argument? Do people ever concede you known what you're talking about?

​If not and you'd like greater ease in these situations ask "What if I didn't need to prove I was smart"? 

Does trying to prove you're smart mean that you've actually decided you're not? Is that true? Or did you buy that point of view from someone, sometime?

​When you try to prove you’re smart, you have to have all the answers. What if your smarts - your awareness - was the thing that could point out where the answers end and the questions begin? What else could be possible then?

Ever heard a story or two million recently? Are they True? Are they Fake? 

How much of story telling is someone trying to get you to do what they want? Or at least confuse you about what is really going on?

What if none of it were real or true? What if all stories were simply interesting points of view?

If you'd like to be free to create your own life as you'd like, ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?"  Then check in with what feels light to you and choose that. 

Repeat. I mean it. Every time you hear a story. ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?"  And check in with what feels light to you and choose that. 

Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat X infinity.

Sure you can enjoy a story for the heck of it. At the end, say “Wow, that was a terrific story! Thank you [for the entertainment]! What an interesting point of view!" 

And then ask yourself "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?"  Check in with what feels light to you and choose that. You get the picture. 

Do you ever feel heat in your chest or pressure on your temples when someone says or does something you don't like? Do you find you can't think clearly, that you get angry or distracted from what you'd really like to do?

If you'd like to be free from the control and distraction of such uncomfortable physical sensations, recognise them as a sign you are in judgement. Then you can shift gear into allowance.

What is allowance? Allowance is where everything is just an interesting point of view and you have total freedom of choice.

Judgement limits you to what you have decided (or someone has told you) is right/wrong, good/bad. It's like being on an automatic pushbutton system of resist/react or agree/align, where you have no freedom of choice.

So next time you have a physical reaction to someone, ask “Am I in allowance or judgement?” If you find you're in judgement, say “Interesting point of view I have that point of view” and expand outwards and remind yourself “What if I had infinite, free choice?” (Depending on what's going on, you might need to repeat this several godzillian times until the heat dissipates.)

What if being free from judgement allowed you to create the change you'd really like to see?

Is there a lot going on around you? Are friends, media, governments telling "this is true!" or "that is a lie"? Are you confused about who to trust and what to do?

Start by asking a question - any question (choose from ours if that helps) - then pay attention to what shows up and how you feel.

Do you feel light? You know the breezy sense of space and weightlessness you have when everything is just right. 

Do you feel heavy? You know that clunky feeling when something is not quite right and you sense a lie. 

In other words, if you feel light, it's right for you. If you feel heavy it's not right for you. 

In these unsettled times, what if you pay attention to your senses and follow the lightness, even though it may not make logical sense at the time?

This is not about making anyone right or wrong. This is about honouring and nurturing you.

Be aware that just because something is light for you, it may not be light for the person standing next to you. There are many interesting points of view. 

How often do you get stuck in a no-win fight? Do you enjoy it when other people won't listen to your opinion and only want you to see theirs?
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How much stress, anxiety and worry do you suffer from trying to prove who's right and who's wrong about something?

Does this help your work or business? Do fights create, or use your time and money? What does stress, anxiety and worry do to your body and health? 

Would you prefer to create greater ease in life for you and your body? Then practice these magic words “interesting point of view” every time you find yourself having a difference of opinion with someone. 

You're not saying anyone is right or wrong. You're acknowledging everyone has a right to their own (perhaps insane) point of view, including you.

Say it lightly, smile and move on, for example “Yes, I see, thank you. That's a really interesting point of view. I wonder what would be the most rewarding outcome for our business/relationship/health/life right now? What else could we look at?”

This invites in new ideas and information that you might both find interesting. 

Feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or powerless against everything going on? Frozen in fear, stuck in panic, or just don't know what to do?

Then ask “What action can I take?” Action is you creating your life, rather than suffering it as a reaction to everything around you.

Practice this. No matter what you see or hear, notice what you do and ask yourself “Am I doing this from action, or reaction? Hoarding toilet paper – action or reaction? Reorganising to work or study from home – action or reaction? Posting on social media – action or reaction? There are no correct answers here, only your awareness of what YOU are doing.

Then ask “If I'm doing reaction, what action could I take?” Any action will do, no matter how small, as it will shift you out of reaction and into creation.

Acknowledge the trauma and drama around you, and be aware of your choices. Will you react “aaaarghh the world is ending!” Or will you take action to create your life, rather than suffering it in reaction? It's just a choice.
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I am delighted to be back after so long attending to BUSYness. Thank you so much for joining me again to create fun questions to keep us all awake at the wheel of life. This first question after seven years is my own first, small action (much gratitude to Dr Dain Heer for this one). What will yours be? 
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