Are you ever confronted with things that don't make sense, or by people who seem to be living in a parallel reality?
Does it stress you out, or make you sick from worry? How angry, upset, or hurt do you get?
Do you know everything about everything in the universe? Probably not (yet at least). So rather than causing yourself discomfort, damage, or dis-ease, next time when you're confronted by someone or something that does not fit within your view of the world, ask "What is this teaching me?"
Then ask questions and find out more about it.
You may end up holding the same point of view you had before. Or you may change your point of view to match theirs. Or you may change your point of view in a completely different way.
Whatever the outcome, your questions will create new possibilities and expand your awareness.
What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort?
When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable?
If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?"
Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater?
What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action?
You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices.
You can have both a judgement and an awareness about anything, positive, negative, and everything in between and beyond.
So what's the difference? A judgement will cement your point of view, limit possibilities, and solidify the existence of whatever you're judging.
Awareness is just that: awareness. You can see what is, and then when you ask a question about it, you create possibilities.
A judgement will have a positive or negative charge on it, while an awareness will have no charge at all. Another difference is that judgement requires time, while awareness is instantaneous.
And you can always ask yourself "Is this a judgement, or an awareness?"
Do you have something in your world right now that you consider right/wrong?
If it's wrong, are you trying to fix it and make it right? If it's right, are you trying hard to not let it go wrong?
How much freedom do you sense when you do this? Does your judgement of things being right/wrong expanding your possibilities or limiting them?
If you'd like greater possibility to create beyond what you can imagine, ask "What if right and wrong were just interesting point of view?"
Then next time to find yourself agreeing/aligning (right) or resisting/reaction (wrong) to something, instead say "Mmmm, this is interesting. What else is possible here?"
What could you create by stepping out of judgement and into the allowance of interesting point of view?.
What's going on in your life right now? Do you have something you'd like to change?
Whatever that is, have you asked lots of questions, done the research, poked into every corner, talked to a million people, and taken action?
Where did you get? Are you inspired, energised and creating the change you're seeking?
Or are you confused, demotivated, and stuck feeling helpless and not knowing what to do next?
If you're stuck, ask yourself "What if this wasn't an answer? What if this was a possibility?"
When you ask a question, you'll get a response. If you make the response an "answer," you'll only create a finite limitation.
What if nothing was an "answer" and everything was a possibility? What change could you create then?
How much of your day do you spend judging things? Never, sometimes or constantly?
What's judgement? Any point of view you have about something being good/bad or right/wrong is a judgement. You know, when you think "Oh, that's no good" or "If only people would think/do this instead?" Or whenever someone else says something and you agree and align, or resist and reaction, you are in judgement.
There is nothing wrong with judging things, if that's fun for you. Be aware, however, that judging will only serve to distract you from being present in every moment and so limit your possibilities.
If you'd like to find out what is possible beyond the limitation of judgement, ask yourself "What if I judged nothing?" Nothing includes you and everyone else.
Then no matter what you or anyone else does, says, or thinks, smile and say to yourself "Interesting point of view" in total allowance.
After a while, you will become interesting point of view where you can see all possibilities, receive everything, and create the life you desire, free from the polarity of judgement.
How? Follow the energy, choose, notice what you create/shows up, then choose again. Repeat.
How easily are you able to share your ideas with people with out them laughing at you/walking away/rolling their eyes/calling you crazy? Do you often get into heated discussions where the other person point-blank refuses to listen to you?
Would you prefer greater ease with talking to people about things that you're interested in? If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to tell people only what they can hear?"
Then next time you start a conversation with someone, instead of blowing their head off with the godzillion amazing things you know, ask them a question like "So what's new and interesting for you?" Then listen and wait until they ask you a question.
When they do — with kindness, allowance and awareness — ask them another question about something you're interested in, such as "Right now I'm working on X. Have you had anything to do with that?" Then listen and wait until they ask you another question.
Telling people what they can hear from kindness, allowance and awareness is different from not wanting to be judged for what you say. It's a gentle way of being that honours what they can receive and allows their head to stay in one piece. And they may even just hear something you have to say.
How many people do you meet who have such fixed points of view that they are never able to see beyond what they have decided is true, even when it smacks them in the face?
If you'd like someone to see beyond their self-imposed limitations, ask yourself "What wedgie could I ask?" A wedgie is a question that creates discomfort in someone's universe and is designed to get the other person to ask a question.
For example, when you notice someone has fixed points of view about something, instead of being triggered, trying to prove, or defending your own points of view by giving them too much information, make them uncomfortable by asking a wedgie.
For example, in total allowance say "Interesting. What if everything was the opposite of what it appears to be?" or "What if there was something about that situation that is a lie?"
Then stop talking. Sometimes you'll even need to let them sit with your question for weeks, until the discomfort becomes unbearable and they have to return and ask a question.
Questions create possibilities and now you have a tiny space to invite them to see different realities. Be gentle. Listen to them in total allowance and ask them lots more questions.
How many people do you see fighting everyday? In the world, your neighbourhood, your city, your country, and across the planet? People focused entirely on using logic, facts, science, persuasion, coercion, bribery, blackmail and trickery to have everyone agree that their point of view is right, and to condemn that all other points of view are wrong?
Pretty much everyone, all the time, right?
What does this create for you, for the world? Peace, joy, happiness, and the life you'd truly like? Or does it create endless fighting and limitation? Could the ultimate toxic waste on the planet be the anger, rage, fury and hate that people deliver to each other daily?
What change could you create if you functioned from allowance, where everything is an "interesting point of view" with no agreement or alignment (positive polarity) or resistance and reaction (negative polarity)?
When everything is just an interesting point of view, you have the freedom to create choice in your life, in the world.
Freedom to create choice by being in allowance is the most valuable thing on the planet. Are you willing to be it? If you'd like to find out, ask "Am I willing to be the most valuable thing on the planet?"
Then every time anyone says anything or seeks to drag you into a fight through alignment and agreement or resistance and reaction, smile and say "interesting point of view."
Breath, then make a choice and ask a question.
Do you ever feel weird or wrong? You're not quite sure what it is, but something is just not quite right.
Or when everything in your life seems to be going along really well, but then takes a dive. Or when things start, then stop, then start, then stop over and over, keeping you stuck and going no where?
If so, ask "What am I aware of that I don't want to be aware of?"
Whatever comes to mind, notice it, ask another question and make another choice. Asking a question and making a choice creates awareness. not an answer.
What if you considered your life to be a constant creation of ease, joy and abundance, rather than a quest for a perfect answer?
Is something always breaking down or going 'wrong' in your life? Perhaps you always have something that keeps popping up to bother you, that you'd rather not think about?
For me it was cars. I say cars because I have gone through a few. Three at least were written off from water leaks (radiator, sunroof and cooling system). Bottom line, they were all old car which sprung a leak one way or the other, and I should have paid them attention.
But I didn't and so ultimately they were written off. Only one was covered by insurance.
So if you have something that is always breaking down, or even slightly tugging on your attention, ask yourself "What haven't I handled in my life?" Then whatever comes to mind, pay it attention.
What if by gifting your attention for five minutes, you saved yourself hours of time, piles of cash, not to mention years of worry lines?
Do you feel anxious or stressed about finding an answer to something you've decided is a problem?
When the thing or person you've decided is the answer doesn't turn out like you'd hoped or dreamt, what do you do?
Do you ask a question, take action, make a choice?
Or do you react by spiralling into uncertainty, inaction, depression, rage, blame, shame, guilt, regret or any other distraction? If so, and you'd like to change this reaction ask "What have I misidentified as the answer?"
Then ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" There's always something. You just have to ask to see it.
Are you feeling overwhelmed by things in life that you seem unable to change? If so, ask "What tools can I use to change this?" Start with these basic five.
Remind yourself that
- you're an infinite being with infinite free choice
- everything is just an interesting point of view
- what feels light is right for you
- a choice will always create awareness; so choose, notice what shows up, choose again, repeat
- nothing has to be fixed and you can choose something new every ten seconds, and
- a question will always create more possibilities
How often do you stop yourself from doing something you'd prefer to do, or that you know is the light choice for you? Never, sometimes, or all the time?
When you stop yourself, are you limiting your choices based on what your parents, teachers, religious or other authority figures, friends, or even strangers have decided you should do what they tell you?
If you'd prefer to create your life from unlimited choices, ask "What if I gave myself permission?"
Then you can choose for you. You may still make the same choice your parents/teachers/authority figures/friends/strangers would have had you make. The difference is that you now have access to unlimited possibilities, free from the limitations other people try to impose on you to control you.
After all, who's living your life and who knows what's best for you: them or you?
What do you do when you're full of energy and ideas, seeking to create wonderful new things?
Do you stay focused on your target? Or are you distracted by the myriad of things you've decided could go 'wrong' and all the people who you know will try and bring you down?
Do you experience any physical sensations of dis-ease, in your stomach, head, neck, chest, or anywhere else?
If you sense you're being sucked into the vortex of distraction, ask "What will it take for me to be ease?"
When you're at ease, you function from elegance: creating the greatest amount with the least effort by following the energy of what's light for you and considering nothing 'wrong,' simply right things you don't yet get.
When you meet people for the first time, what do you tell them about you? Do you have a set patter about who you are, what you do, what your title or business is, what the main challenges of your life are, and who else is in your life?
Do you enjoy these conversations? Are they spontaneous and fun? Or are they boring and predictable?
Do you find people really listen to them? Or do most people simply wait for a pause in your story to launch their own? How well do you listen to theirs?
How much of telling and retelling your story cements it into place? With each retelling, does it become easier for you to create the changes you'd like, or harder?
If you'd like something different, ask "What if my life had no story?"
What if you woke up every morning like Drew Barrymore in the movie 50 First Dates, with a totally fresh start? Like to play? Then for the next month, whenever you meet someone new, begin by asking them questions until they ask about you.
Only then tell something you have never said before, even it it's not yet true. Go on, create your story.
How often can you see everything in someone else's universe? You know exactly what they could do different, that if they chose it would create change beyond their imagination?
How many times have you tried to tell, show, coax, persuade, debate, argue, or fight to share your awareness, trying to help them see it, and then choose it? How often has that worked? Always, sometimes, or almost never?
If you'd like an easier approach with more dynamic results, ask yourself "What question could I ask here that would lead to the awareness that will create the greatest change?"
Then putting aside your hopes and dreams about the change you know is possible, ask the question that comes to mind. It might appear to have nothing to do with the 'issue'. It might be as seemingly unrelated as "Are you looking to change something? If so, just ask and I'll do what I can to help."
Then smile and wait until they ask you. Are you willing to wait?
Do you like routine? Is that what you strive to achieve? Something comfortable, known and secure? How often do you say "Once I get a system set up, a process in place, everything will be better?"
There's nothing wrong with comfortable, known and routine, when everything in your life is even better than you could imagine.
What about when something is not working the way you'd like? Will comfortable, known and routine create the changes you'd like? Or will they set in concrete what's not working?
So if you're looking for dynamic change, ask "What could I be or do different today that would help create the life, living and reality I'd really like?" Then notice what comes to mind, and be or do that.
'Different' is not the same as 'differently.' Differently is doing the same thing in different ways. Different is outside anything you have ever considered.
What have you not yet imagined that, if you chose it, would contribute to your life? Don't know? Just ask.
Are you surrounded by people telling you what is true, what is fake, and what you should stake your life on?
Do you have family, friends, experts and random strangers standing on 360 degrees of any particular issue, presenting you with a dizzying array of information and persuasive propositions? Does any of that help? Or do you feel more confused and hemmed into a reality that doesn't feel quite right?
If you'd like to create space and ease when you're being bombarded by so many points of view, ask yourself about each one as it is presented to you "Is this light for me?" You know the breezy sense of space and weightlessness you have when everything is just right, and not the heavy, clunky feeling when something is not quite right and you sense a lie.
In other words, if you feel light, it's right for you. If you feel heavy it's not right for you.
What if none of these people were wrong? What if each of their points of view were 100% correct...for them? Just because something is right for someone else, doesn't mean it's right for you.
Are you surprised or frustrated when people don't listen? How often have you tried to share with your family and friends the amazing things you've spent your time and money learning, only to be disappointed by their lack on interest?
At best, do they smile and nod with glazed eyes and closed ears? At worst do they berate you for wasting your time and money and end their tirade by reminding you that you're stupid?
Does this upset you? Do you try harder, or start a debate (um, fight)? Does talking more, longer, or harder ever work at all?
What if you could share your insights without saying a word? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if saying nothing was the greatest contribution I could be?" Then shut up, nod, smile, listen and ask questions.
It may take only a few minutes — or it may take decades, or indeed a lifetime — for the other person to stop talking and say "You're different. What is that?"
And that's your invitaiton to talk.
When people ask you for something, how quickly do you respond?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out?
When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing?
One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"?
No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?"
What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine?
Has anyone ever been angry with you to try and distract you from seeing what was true, either so you wouldn't see it, or so they didn't have to look at it?
For example, when you question someone because you sense they were lying. Did they get angry or indignant and say things like "I can't believe you are questioning me?!" Did that make you angry?
Do you get angry when people say things about you that aren't true?
One useful thing to know about angry is that it can indicate a lie. So next time you feel anger rising, ask yourself "Is there a lie spoken or unspoken here?" You will know. And if you'd like more clarity, stop and ask the other person "What do you mean by that?" Then listen.
Asking questions in the face of anger will move you from the auto-response of reaction, to the freedom of action, so you can create what you'd really prefer.
Before you call the police on this one, let me ask you: where is your comfort zone? Is it on the stage? Or on the couch?
How many of these are outside your zone: singing loudly, speaking in public, telling your best friend something you know they won't like, doing something you know is morally right but goes against an "authority," saying NO to anyone?
What else? What activity makes your heart pound, your hands go clammy and your head think "ooooooooh noooooo....not that!"? That. Whatever that is, that's outside your comfort zone.
How much does having a comfort zone help you create the life you'd really like? A lot, a little, or not at all? How much time do you spend thinking about the things you won't do, avoiding situations you think you think might lead you out of your safety zone? And how much fun are you missing out on? Whose life are you living? Yours or someone else's?
If you'd like a peak at the possibilities that lie beyond, ask "What if I played outside my comfort zone?" and dip a toe outside it. What's the worse that can happen? People might laugh. And laughing is good, right? So what if you joined in?
What's the best that can happen? Well maybe you just might change the world and start living your own life.
What makes you angry? Injustice? War? Poverty? Evil? Your partner coming home late from work every night? Your boss or co-workers being stupid and lazy? Your family not being willing to see your point of view about how to make the world a better place? What else?
I'm guessing you'd like to change these things for the better, and you become angry out of frustration, because you think you're supposed to be angry, or from the belief that anger will somehow create the changes you'd like?
Will it? Probably not. Two things that anger will create are: stress and toxicity in your body; and resistance and reaction in other people.
Will either of these things help you make the changes you'd like? No. They might even make it harder.
If you'd like to be free from anger's control, to create what you'd really like, ask "What will anger contribute here?" and then "What else is possible to create the changes I'd like to see?"
What if you could see anger for what it is: a distraction?
Do you sometimes feel like you have no options? For example, you have NO CHOICE but to look after your elderly parents, make your kids do homework, stay late at the office, cancel your holiday, pay for dinner, host the family at Christmas, get married, get a job, buy a house, have kids, stay at home, take a medicine, follow the rules.
There is nothing intrinsically wrong with any of these things. It's simply your point of view if you don't like something.
If your point of view is that you don't like it, and you'd prefer something else, instead of defaulting to the No Choice version of life, ask "Who or what is limiting my choices?"
Once you become clear about whether it's you, or someone or something else limiting your choices, you can ask more questions to create what you'd really like. For example, "What else is possible?" "What will it take for X to show up?" or "What action can I take?"
This is a free-will universe, remember? There is always choice. What if you stopped being your greatest limitation?
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