What if your body was a whole lot smarter than you ever gave it credit for?
What if its aches and pains were telling you much more than what vitamins and minerals you need? You know the feeling of heartbreak? It's a very real physical ache. People have died from it. What about other physical symptoms? Find out by asking“Body, who or what
Do you use drugs of any kind? Hard drugs, pharmaceutical drugs, tobacco, or alcohol in excessive amounts? Do you have any other compulsive behaviour, for example with food, exercise, feeling bad about yourself, or helping / bullying people , that you think you can't change? Maybe you're a control freak who works 24/7 to prove you're right?
What does this behaviour add to your life?
Do you use it to dull or heighten your awareness about something? Does it free you from pain, physical, emotional or intellectual? Does it create a space where you feel more you?
How real is that awareness, freedom and space? Completely, or not at all?
What if you could create real, total awareness, freedom and space which does not rely on anything but you?
If you'd like to find out, ask “What does this [your addictive or compulsive behaviour] add to my life, and what information do I require that would empower me to create that in other ways?”
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How many things do you have in your life that don't work for you, that you think you have to be/do/have because someone else said so?
You have to study for that exam, go to that school, study that subject, enter that company, learn that language, marry that person, have that many children, attend that event, vote for that person, put that in your body, follow that rule and so on. How well do you do them?
Just because someone else says you need to be/do/have something is a good idea, will it always work out well for you?
Who is the one person who does know what will work for you and what is true for you?
YOU. Only you know if something works for you. It feels light as a feather. Unlike all the heavy stuff you know doesn't work for you, but you do anyway because you were told to.
So if you're not as happy as you'd like to be, start listening and trusting you more by asking "Does this work for me?"
Notice whether you feel heavy or light. And if you'd like to change any heaviness, ask "What else is possible?"
What would you like to have show up in your life?
A great new job, a successful business, smart staff, more customers, reliable suppliers, an investor, money, greater ease, less stress, better health, more fun? For life to become better than the normal you had before the fear and panic? Something else?
Whatever that is, invite it into your life by asking "What's it going to take for X to show up?"
Be aware of the specific details of your question. For example, if you ask for the 'perfect job,' you may create a job based on other people's expectations of perfect, including how long and hard you have to work, doing whatever your boss says even if it makes no sense, taking sides in office politics, and so on.
So instead, be clear on what you'd like by asking, for example “What's it going to take for [a rewarding job that I enjoy and allows me to extend my talents, with flexible, fun, creative people] to show up, that would contribute to my life more than I can imagine, or something greater?”
Make sure that when you ask, you let go of any conclusions you might have made about what it will look like, and how it will show up, and be willing to receive it when it does. You never know what might happen when you ask a question.
Not having much fun? Is your movement restricted, or you have no job, no social life, and are sinking into the conclusion that you have no future? Is your world full of people telling you to follow the rules and the world as we know it is at an end?
Are you feeling a little heavy?
What if you could contribute to an amazing new future for everyone - including you! - have fun at the same time? Like to find out? If so, ask “What fun could I add to my life?”
It could be anything, large or small. Like learning/creating something randomly new online, going on an adventure into the deep dark depths of your closet and creating space for yourself (great workout too BTW), asking your insignificant other to make you breakfast-in-bed and supervise the kids homeschooling while you sleep in, creating a 'holiday' anywhere different in your available space, or challenging yourself to make up a joke every day over coffee.
What if you did anything that made you smile and feel light? If you already have a little of it, add more.
The point is: take action, create your life every day, and smile. There's no need to stick with one thing forever. If your fun drops off, ask the question again and make another choice.
You'll be amazed at what you can create when you ask. "Fun: am I willing to have more?
Are you just your body? Or are you more?
Does your body do things that you, even science, simply can't explain or replicate, like run your pancreas, get over a cold, or make babies? Could your body be a whole lot smarter about what it needs than you?
How's your body feeling now? 110%, okaaaay, or rubbish? Whatever the case, invite it to tell you what it would like, ask “Body, what do you desire?”
Then LISTEN and give your body what it needs, not what you or anyone else has decided it should have.
What if, by listening more to your body, your aches and pains melted away?
What if listening more closely to your body gave you boundless energy and every cell sung with the vibrant joy of a five-year old?
To gain clarity, ask different questions, like "Body, do you desire more/ less/ different food/ water/ movement/ sleep/ sex/ stress/ other?" Then pay attention to sensations your body gives you, or things that come to mind.
Could this create the physical changes you've been seeking? If you'd like to find out, start an ongoing conversation with your body today, and LISTEN.
Is something going on in your life that has you stuck and unable to take action? For you to be unable to change something, you have to have decided or concluded something about it.
Ask yourself, what have you decided in your life right now that is perfect, or the answer? A relationship? A job? A business? A government strategy?
When you can see your decisions – and are willing to let them go – all change becomes possible.
So when you're stuck and unable to make the changes you'd really like, ask “What decisions, conclusions, and answers have I made about this?”
This does not mean you have to end the relationship, give up on the job/business quest, or become an anti-government activist. Once you are aware of limitations you have created through decisions and conclusions, you can choose to transform them into something else.
Perhaps into even something better than you could have ever imagined. How? Just ask another question, such as "What information do I need?"
How often do you get stuck in a no-win fight? Do you enjoy it when other people won't listen to your opinion and only want you to see theirs?
How much stress, anxiety and worry do you suffer from trying to prove who's right and who's wrong about something?
Does this help your work or business? Do fights create, or use your time and money? What does stress, anxiety and worry do to your body and health?
Would you prefer to create greater ease in life for you and your body? Then practice these magic words “interesting point of view” every time you find yourself having a difference of opinion with someone.
You're not saying anyone is right or wrong. You're acknowledging everyone has a right to their own (perhaps insane) point of view, including you.
Say it lightly, smile and move on, for example “Yes, I see, thank you. That's a really interesting point of view. I wonder what would be the most rewarding outcome for our business/relationship/health/life right now? What else could we look at?”
This invites in new ideas and information that you might both find interesting.
Whatever you've got going on – great or not so great – it can always get better. You just have to ask.
What bad things are going on with you right now? Perhaps you've run out of essential supplies, lost your job, closed your business and went bankrupt, are stuck in a confined space, are unable to travel, got dumped by the love of your life, got sick, or [list your own not-so-good stuff here _________________]?
What about the good things? There's got to be something. Are you enjoying spending more time with your immediate community and family? Catching up on all the projects you've never given yourself time to do? Spending less time/money travelling to work? Noticing less pollution around you? Managing to enjoy life without things you previously considered essential? What else? [List your own good stuff here ______________].
Now ask “How does it get any better than this?”
This is your invitation for something even better to show up.
Of course you'd like the bad things to improve.
The good stuff? Just because something is great now, doesn't mean it can't be even greater.
Do you like your body? Do you enjoy it and do fun things with it, like skip, run, jump, dance and play? Do you ever thank it for carrying your brain safely to work every day?
Or do you wake up in the morning judging it? It's too fat, too thin, too wrinkly, too ugly, too slow, too old, too....? Do you tell it it's not what it should be and force it to do things to make it what you think it should be? Do you try every new exercise and diet? Do you take pills and have surgery?
Or do you ignore your body completely and find any excuse to move as little as possible?
Is any of this working for you? Is your body having a good time? Here's a hint. Pain and discomfort is your body telling you it's not happy.
What if instead, you asked your body what it enjoys and follow its lead? Remember when you were five, when you had a vibrant, fit, healthy, body overflowing with energy? Did you think about it, or did you just follow your body?
If you'd like that energy again, ask “Body, what would be fun for you?” then, as they say, just do it.
Even if you're in a restricted or confined place, there's plenty you can be doing. Helloooo internet! There are 1000s of amazingly creative people adapting their skills freely to help you keep your body moving with joy, even in the tiniest of spaces.
What could you do that would be a gift to your body?
Have you ever been completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, only to find one day that everything you held to be true, was in fact not true?
Like your 'till death do I part' loving partner, falling in love with someone else and walking out? Like a highly esteemed charity exposed as having committed crimes against children for centuries? Like a trusted authority urging you to use something, praising it as good for you, when actually it's very, very bad, like asbestos, DDT, smoking, or thalidomide to name just a few examples?
What else have you experienced that shattered your reality?
If you'd prefer not to experience that stomach sickening wrench of cognitive dissonance again, next time you find yourself completely, 100 per cent, absolutely certain about something, ask yourself "Are my eyes wide shut?"
This question is a simple reminder that you may be looking, but not seeing something hiding in plain sight. And remember, what's light is right for you.
Have you ever made a major purchase — a business, house, car, equipment, or an educational course or travel — only to find out as soon as you handed over the cash, you didn't receive what you thought you'd bought?
What about a job? Have you ever been in an interview, being asked 'do you have any questions?' and then asked no real question, or asked something not particularly useful?
If so, next time, ask this question to the seller or interviewer "Truth, what is the one thing I haven't asked you, that I should know about this thing/job"?
You don't know what you don't know. The only way is to ask. So ask: "What don't I know that you should tell me?"
Starting with the word 'truth' is a subconscious reminder that they must tell you what is true. Use it whenever you'd like to know what's really going on.
What are you waiting for to end? A relationship? A job? An illness? A national or global situation?
Have you been suffering for a long time, spending your days dreaming and planning in fear, stress and worry about how to end it? Or perhaps you've finally made a choice to speak out, stand up, and take action to end it?
Have you decided that when you do, the 'bad' thing will end and you can go back to a normal or even better life? Do you have significant hopes and dreams about it and how your life will change?
If so, ask yourself "What if the end was the beginning?"
This question is designed to remind you that your life is a constant creation: your constant creation. Are you choosing to live it? Or are you waiting for someone to do something, or something to finish first?
Even if you aren't waiting, and you're taking action yourself, rather than focusing on the end, what if you consider your completion as a contribution to the next thing you can create? Where accomplishments are simply the beginning of something greater.
What do you consider possible? Anything? Or do you have certain limits?
What are those limits? For example, what if your doctor told you you had an 'incurable disease'? Would you ask questions, considering the possibility that nothing is incurable? Or would you plunge into fear, fight and flight, ultimately resigning to what the doctor tells you, and follow the prognosis downhill?
What other hard limits do you have, about money, people, reality, what else?
Whatever limits you sense, ask "Am I entrained?"
Entrainment is where you are pulled along so strongly by someone or something, that you end up disregarding your own instincts, common sense, imagination, knowledge and experience.
Why do people and organisations seek to entrain you? Money, power and control are three simple reasons to start with, and there are likely an infinite number of others.
Remember, placebo is a recognised medical effect; your body can respond to what the mind tells it. This question can help you to recognise your thoughts may not be your own, and to regain control over your own mind.
What are you addicted to? Substances like your morning coffee? Mid morning junk food hit? Lunchtime cigarette? Afternoon chocolate bar? Evening G&T? Dinner bottle(s) of wine?
Or actions like all night TV binges? A 24/7 grip on your phone? Constant social media checking? Wine and whine sessions with friends? Playing the blame game? Wallowing in your victim complex? And of course any of the 'normal' things people consider 'addictions'?
When you engage in the behaviour you consider an 'addiction', are you 100 per cent present, creating your life the way you'd like?
If not, ask yourself "What is the purpose of my addiction?" In other words, what awareness could you be having if you weren't being distracted by the thing(s) you're addicted to?
Then you get to choose. And if you'd like to have greater awareness and be free of distraction to create your life the way you'd prefer, ask "What will it take for me to change this?" and take action, no matter how small.
Do you actively choose to create every moment of your life every day?
What about when you're confronted with a challenging situation, when there are things you'd prefer to avoid, or even whole systems you'd like to change? Do you choose to stand up, to be seen and heard? Or do you choose to 'do nothing,' to sit quietly by, hoping it'll go away or change on its own?
When you choose to do nothing, are you really 'doing nothing'? No. Energy never disappears, it simply changes form. So when you choose not to do something (which you may call 'choosing to do nothing'), or you don't choose to take action, you are by default choosing the opposite.
In other words, when you think you're choosing 'nothing,' you are in fact handing over your life choices to anyone who chooses to make them for you.
Brain frozen? Probably. If you'd like to keep a firm grip on the reins of your life, whenever you find you're thinking of 'doing nothing' ask yourself "Am I choosing to live?"
Then ask yourself "What action could I take to create life I'd like?" No matter how small, choose it, just as long as it's not 'nothing.'
Thanks to Tom Barnett http://www.tombarnett.tv for this question.
Do you ever feel tired, worried, drained, or simply at a loss as what to do?
If so, ask "What if I connected with nature?" Then go out in person and do it. Walk in the park. Hug a tree. Chat to the birds. Take your shoes and socks off and get your feet on the ground.
The worse that will happen is you'll get dirt on your feet. The best is your whole life may change. And at the very least, your body will thank you for the fresh air, sunlight and blood pumping around your body making you stronger and your mind clearer.
Have you ever considered the perfect, balanced, strong, simplicity of nature abundant with naturally replenishing resources? Ever noticed that every part of nature — with the exception of modern-day humans — can have everything it needs for an abundant life without needing to 'deserve' or pay for it?
What if you could have that too? What would that take? It all starts simply by connecting with nature and asking the question.
Are you ever confronted with things that don't make sense, or by people who seem to be living in a parallel reality?
Does it stress you out, or make you sick from worry? How angry, upset, or hurt do you get?
Do you know everything about everything in the universe? Probably not (yet at least). So rather than causing yourself discomfort, damage, or dis-ease, next time when you're confronted by someone or something that does not fit within your view of the world, ask "What is this teaching me?"
Then ask questions and find out more about it.
You may end up holding the same point of view you had before. Or you may change your point of view to match theirs. Or you may change your point of view in a completely different way.
Whatever the outcome, your questions will create new possibilities and expand your awareness.
Are you a serious person, deeply concerned about family, community, and world affairs? Are you always focused, earnest, and diligent?
How much do you laugh with sheer delight and joy? Not much? Perhaps you decided somewhere consciously or unconsciously that to laugh is to be frivolous?
If so, and you'd like another possibility as yourself "What could my laughter contribute?"
What if instead of going about your life carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you laughed your way through with a lightness of being as you create your lived adventure? What could the vibration of your laughter heal?
For example, next time you find yourself in a heated 'debate' (fight), instead of getting all cranky pants and righteous, what if you burst out giggling with real joy and said "You know what, you're probably right. Goodness I make myself laugh sometimes!" Then smile and walk away.
What crinkles in the universe could your laughter make for new possibilities to squeeze through?
How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?"
What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.)
Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates.
Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else.
When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it.
What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then?
How many layers of protective personality do you find yourself wearing to suit every situation?
For example, the good son/daughter, the generous parent, the smart student, the diligent employee, the kind woman, the strong man, the understanding sibling, the polite stranger, the charismatic leader, the good-hearted volunteer? What else?
How do you feel under all those layers? Light and breezy? Or a bit heavy and stifled?
If you'd like to shed a few tonne, ask "What if I didn't need a facade?" What if you were, well just simply, you in ever situation? This is who you are and others can accept that, or not.
Would you feel lighter, like caked on makeup or mud has been washed away after how many decades? Would your real smile finally be seen? What amazing changes might that create?
And even if some people leave your life because they decide the real you is not for them, what other amazing people might show up?
On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away?
Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like.
Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?"
Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities?
What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort?
When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable?
If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?"
Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater?
What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action?
You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices.
Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing?
To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?"
And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?"
Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot.
Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change.
When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
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