How often do you get stuck in life? A lot, a little or not at all? Do you ever get into a cranky pants rage or spiral into a frenzy of anxiety? Is that fun for you?
If not, and you'd prefer to have total freedom to see and walk around such roadblocks — to be able to change anything that's not working for you in life — start by asking one of these questions.
1. What if I had infinite, free choice?
2. What if everything were just an interesting point of view?
3. If I had 10 second to choose the rest of my life, what would I choose?
4. What question could I ask?
5. What if form and structure had no significance?
6. Am I in judgement?
7. What does this add to my life?
8. What's the value of competition?
9. What if I didn't buy the story?
10. What am I excluding here?
The reality is, you always have choice.
Are you stuck? Has something or someone gone funky (just saying...)? Or perhaps you'd just like to generate more great stuff in your life?
Whenever and whatever you'd like to create change, start by asking a question.
Why? A question will invite you to see something you might not have been able (or willing) to see before and empower you.
An answer, decision, conclusion, or judgement will serve only to limit your field of vision and disempower you.
That's the aim of this service. So you'll have a bunch of the simplest, most effective questions within easy reach.
So today's question is for when you have a brain freeze and can't think of a question.
Ask “What question could I be asking here?”
It's so simple it might even make you smile, which is always good too.
Do you ever feel heat in your chest or pressure on your temples when someone says or does something you don't like? Do you find you can't think clearly, that you get angry or distracted from what you'd really like to do?
If you'd like to be free from the control and distraction of such uncomfortable physical sensations, recognise them as a sign you are in judgement. Then you can shift gear into allowance.
What is allowance? Allowance is where everything is just an interesting point of view and you have total freedom of choice.
Judgement limits you to what you have decided (or someone has told you) is right/wrong, good/bad. It's like being on an automatic pushbutton system of resist/react or agree/align, where you have no freedom of choice.
So next time you have a physical reaction to someone, ask “Am I in allowance or judgement?” If you find you're in judgement, say “Interesting point of view I have that point of view” and expand outwards and remind yourself “What if I had infinite, free choice?” (Depending on what's going on, you might need to repeat this several godzillian times until the heat dissipates.)
What if being free from judgement allowed you to create the change you'd really like to see?
Looking for something interesting to do while you're in lockdown? Give this a go.
Sit comfortably. Close your eyes. Find the outer edges of your body.
Got them? Then ask yourself, are you only your body, or something else? Think of it in terms of a phone/mp3 player/CD/record with music on it, versus a brand new device/disc with no music on it.
If you sense you are more than just your body (the device/disc), then find the outer edges of you, the being (the music).
Got them? Wherever you found them, push them out in all directions until they are out past the outer edges of the universe, or farther.
Now open your eyes. Do you feel the same or different? Do you have the sense of more space or less? Did you feel any edges or not?
There are no right answers to these questions. Only your awareness.
This exercise is designed to heighten your awareness of you and space and to remind you that you are a being in a free-will universe, with infinite, free choice.
When your life is not how you'd like it to be, or if you sense your freedom of movement, thought, choice or more is being limited or controlled by others, remind yourself you can choose to create it differently.
Start by asking yourself “If I had infinite, free choice what would I choose?" Then choose it and ask "What action can I take?"
At least, what if this exercise simply helped create a little more space for you in lockdown?
Something not working the way you'd like at the moment? Has your world turned 180 degrees upside down and inside out? How many brick walls are you banging your head against?
What if rather than focusing on what's not working, get clear on what change is possible.
Sometimes, things won't change no matter what you do.
So if you'd like clarity about what will change and what won't, ask “What's possible? Can I change this? If so, how?”
These questions will help you see ways you might step around, walk away, dig under, or fly over the brick wall, rather than bang your head against it.
The wall is not wrong and has no evil intent to hurt you. It is simply a wall that is happy to stay that way.
So get clear on the brick walls in your life and find another way around or away. Your head will thank you for it.
On a scale of 1-10, how grateful are you for people and things in your life? Are you finding it a challenge right now? Do you feel less than zero in the luck department with nothing to be thankful for?
What if you found one thing to be grateful for every day, and told someone, even if it's just yourself ?
When someone thanks you, how do you feel? Good? Does it make you want to hang around longer, catchup again sooner, work harder, smile more, and go the extra mile?
This is the energetic vibration of thanks. It's warm, fertile and prosperous, and it's infectious (in a good way!) and can replicate.
So everyday, when you find that one (or more - go crazy) good thing in your life, acknowledge it with a smile and ask “How did I get so lucky?” It's a great way to say you're thankful and to invite more of the good stuff to come your way.
In these times when the world seems to be going to hell in a handbag, wouldn't it be amazing if we all caught the Gratitude20 virus instead?
Right now we all have plenty of time on our own in lockdown to spiral downward if we choose. To focus on what's wrong with our lives, what's wrong with us.
Are you down on yourself? Do you feel that you're not quite right some how? That you're less than you should be? That you're not what someone else expects you to be?
Do you fit in with everyone around you? Or not? Has someone called what you do voodoo, weird or crazy and have you decided that you're wrong for not fitting in?
What if there was nothing wrong with you? Ever considered that as a possibility?
If you'd like to find out, rather than judging yourself as wrong, ask “What's right about me that I'm not getting?”
What if you were not nearly as messed up as you thought you were? What if you were just different?And what if, by acknowledging this, you show up as the difference that the world needs?
This is free and it won't hurt anyone, so give it a go will you?
Is there a lot going on around you? Are friends, media, governments telling "this is true!" or "that is a lie"? Are you confused about who to trust and what to do?
Start by asking a question - any question (choose from ours if that helps) - then pay attention to what shows up and how you feel.
Do you feel light? You know the breezy sense of space and weightlessness you have when everything is just right.
Do you feel heavy? You know that clunky feeling when something is not quite right and you sense a lie.
In other words, if you feel light, it's right for you. If you feel heavy it's not right for you.
In these unsettled times, what if you pay attention to your senses and follow the lightness, even though it may not make logical sense at the time?
This is not about making anyone right or wrong. This is about honouring and nurturing you.
Be aware that just because something is light for you, it may not be light for the person standing next to you. There are many interesting points of view.
What in your life right now has slapped you on the face? Is something going on that has apparently come out of no where and bitten you on the bum?
Like being in a pandemic lock down for months on end with three teenage kids, and then there's a power outage? Or something even more challenging?
Whatever that is for you, when you find you're trapped in an "OMG this is terrible" cycle of stress and worry ask "What's right about this that I'm not getting?" And keep asking it over and over, even if you don't believe it or feel it.
What if there was ALWAYS something right about a "bad" situation? Like rediscovering antiquated board games or actual books to keep everyone entertained. How does it get any better than this?
How often do you get stuck in a no-win fight? Do you enjoy it when other people won't listen to your opinion and only want you to see theirs?
How much stress, anxiety and worry do you suffer from trying to prove who's right and who's wrong about something?
Does this help your work or business? Do fights create, or use your time and money? What does stress, anxiety and worry do to your body and health?
Would you prefer to create greater ease in life for you and your body? Then practice these magic words “interesting point of view” every time you find yourself having a difference of opinion with someone.
You're not saying anyone is right or wrong. You're acknowledging everyone has a right to their own (perhaps insane) point of view, including you.
Say it lightly, smile and move on, for example “Yes, I see, thank you. That's a really interesting point of view. I wonder what would be the most rewarding outcome for our business/relationship/health/life right now? What else could we look at?”
This invites in new ideas and information that you might both find interesting.
Listen to what people talk about. Especially these days. What percentage is a complaint or a problem? Trauma and drama? Ninety-nine percent? Or more?
Did you know that you get more of what you focus your attention on?
So if you'd like fewer problems and more joy in life, inject a little gratitude into your conversation.
Crinkle someone's universe by saying something like “Wow I'm so grateful for being in lockdown! It's made me look at my life in a totally different way!” or “I am really grateful for him lying to me straight away, because now I know that's what he might do and I won't get caught out!” or “How did we get so lucky we can see blue skies outside today – how much fun can we have in our tiny apartment?”
What if you found one thing to be grateful for every day and told someone?
Perhaps you'll surprise people and they'll stop complaining mid-stream? You may even infect them with gratitude and spread it to others?
Or you may just have giggle on your own because you're grateful you have toilet paper. So ask, “What am I grateful for today?”
Whatever you've got going on – great or not so great – it can always get better. You just have to ask.
What bad things are going on with you right now? Perhaps you ran out of toilet paper, lost your job, closed your business and went bankrupt, are locked down in your tiny apartment indefinitely, got dumped by the love of your life (just as you were going into lockdown), caught a virus, or [list your own not-so-good stuff here _________________]?
What about the good things? There's got to be something. Are you enjoying spending more time with your kids? Catching up on all the projects you've never given yourself time to do? Spending less time/money travelling to work? Noticing less pollution around you? Managing to buy toilet paper and essential supplies? What else? [List your own good stuff here ______________].
Now ask “How does it get any better than this?”
This is your invitation for something even better to show up.
Of course you'd like the bad things to improve.
The good stuff? Just because something is great now, doesn't mean it can't be even greater.
Are you feeling scared? An emotional spiral of worry and panic, an out-of-sorts flood of tears, or you're simply not feeling yourself?
What if what you were feeling was not actually yours?
These days we take for granted the invisible transmission of information via WiFi and mobile phones.
What about us? Don't we also transmit information – thoughts, feelings and emotion – invisibly and soundlessly too? Like when you walk into a room and know exactly who's just had a fight and who's having a secret affair?
So when you feel emotionally out-of-sorts, ask “Who does this belong to? Me or someone else?”
If the feeling lightens, you'll know it's not yours and you can “Return to sender with consciousness.”
And if you find it is yours, ask another question like “What's the value of holding on to this?” or"What action can I take?" And then make a choice.
You can change anything if you choose.
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