What do you consider possible? Anything? Or do you have certain limits?
What are those limits? For example, what if your doctor told you you had an 'incurable disease'? Would you ask questions, considering the possibility that nothing is incurable? Or would you plunge into fear, fight and flight, ultimately resigning to what the doctor tells you, and follow the prognosis downhill?
What other hard limits do you have, about money, people, reality, what else?
Whatever limits you sense, ask "Am I entrained?"
Entrainment is where you are pulled along so strongly by someone or something, that you end up disregarding your own instincts, common sense, imagination, knowledge and experience.
Why do people and organisations seek to entrain you? Money, power and control are three simple reasons to start with, and there are likely an infinite number of others.
Remember, placebo is a recognised medical effect; your body can respond to what the mind tells it. This question can help you to recognise your thoughts may not be your own, and to regain control over your own mind.
How many points of view do you have about what is good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Probably quite a few, if not all, give that is how we are currently entrained to operate.
Consider this: does the earth consider anything good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Is nature in a constant state of anger, rage, fury and hate over 'important' issues?
No. The earth is in total allowance of everything. It has no point of view about its inhabitants. Certainly volcanos erupt, earthquakes happen, animals eat other animals, and all these things occur without judgement or significance.
If people did not exist, would the earth continue to be abundant and generative? Absolutely.
So if you would prefer an abundant and generative life like earth, ask "Am I making this significant?" Then whenever you notice you're making something significant, laugh lightly and repeat "interesting point of view" to move you from the limited denseness of significance into the infinite freedom of allowance.
What are you addicted to? Substances like your morning coffee? Mid morning junk food hit? Lunchtime cigarette? Afternoon chocolate bar? Evening G&T? Dinner bottle(s) of wine?
Or actions like all night TV binges? A 24/7 grip on your phone? Constant social media checking? Wine and whine sessions with friends? Playing the blame game? Wallowing in your victim complex? And of course any of the 'normal' things people consider 'addictions'?
When you engage in the behaviour you consider an 'addiction', are you 100 per cent present, creating your life the way you'd like?
If not, ask yourself "What is the purpose of my addiction?" In other words, what awareness could you be having if you weren't being distracted by the thing(s) you're addicted to?
Then you get to choose. And if you'd like to have greater awareness and be free of distraction to create your life the way you'd prefer, ask "What will it take for me to change this?" and take action, no matter how small.
How often do you hear someone say "good on you, you deserve that"? How often do you say it?
What does deserve mean to you? That you have to sacrifice or suffer to receive something? Some dictionary definitions are: to serve something zealously, to earn, to be worthy of, and to merit.
Consider this: does anything in nature 'deserve' what it receives? Do the birds need to be worthy of something to eat, drink and live a free life? No. So why should you have to?
If you'd prefer to live a joyous life, with ease and abundance, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to deserve?" What if instead of sacrifice and suffering, you choose to consciously create your life being the greatest contribution you can be?
And who exactly is reinforcing the idea that you should 'serve' them 'zealously'?
How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?"
What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.)
Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates.
Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else.
When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it.
What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then?
Are you aware of people actively working against you?
How do you respond? Do you feel you have no choice but to resist and react, to make choices based on what they've done or said? Do you try to prove you are/are not whatever they've said you are/are not? Are you distracted by the fight?
If you'd like another possibility, ask yourself "What if I outsmarted people who were trying to undo me?"
When you're aware of what's going on and willing to ask questions, you step into the possibility of out-creating those who seek to keep you trapped in their narrative. What if rather than resisting and reacting to other people, you take action based on what you know is true for you?
What if 'outsmarting' was as simple as seeing an obstacle and choosing to walk around it, rather than bash your head against it?
How many layers of protective personality do you find yourself wearing to suit every situation?
For example, the good son/daughter, the generous parent, the smart student, the diligent employee, the kind woman, the strong man, the understanding sibling, the polite stranger, the charismatic leader, the good-hearted volunteer? What else?
How do you feel under all those layers? Light and breezy? Or a bit heavy and stifled?
If you'd like to shed a few tonne, ask "What if I didn't need a facade?" What if you were, well just simply, you in ever situation? This is who you are and others can accept that, or not.
Would you feel lighter, like caked on makeup or mud has been washed away after how many decades? Would your real smile finally be seen? What amazing changes might that create?
And even if some people leave your life because they decide the real you is not for them, what other amazing people might show up?
Do you ever hear yourself saying "My life is terrible and I can't change it," or something similar?
Remember, your point of view creates your reality, so if that is your point of view, you are 100% correct.
If you'd like a different reality, ask "Would an infinite being truly choose this?" In asking this question, you invite the awareness of a different possibility.
If an infinite being wouldn't choose this, then why are you? The only reason you choose something an infinite being wouldn't choose, is to make yourself finite. You can certainly choose that if you wish. Or instead you could say "Would an infinite being choose a life that is terrible? What will it take to change it?"
What would you you like to create or change in your life right now? Whatever that is, are you looking to create or change it because you've decided it would be 'good' to, or 'bad' not to?
If so, and you prefer limitless rather than limited possibilities, ask "Have I decided this is good/bad?" If you notice you have, say "Interesting point of view I have that point of view. Now what else is possible?"
Good and bad are points of view. There is nothing wrong with having a point of view as long as you are aware that it is an "interesting point of view," that you change every ten seconds if you choose.
When you lock yourself into a judgement that a point of view is good/bad, right/wrong, you will only be able to see things that fit within the narrow polarised band of that judgement. Every other possibility will be excluded.
Be aware that a positive point of view can be as limiting as a negative point of view. Once you decide something is right, you may end up spending the rest of your life making it right...or being married to it.
On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away?
Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like.
Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?"
Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities?
How do you make choices? Do you choose something, see what shows up, then make another choice? Or do you weigh up the pros and cons, considering what you need or don't need, trying to work out what is right or wrong?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense when making choices? If you feel heavy, then you may be limiting your choices based on pros/cons, needs/don't need, and right/wrong.
A simple way to step out of the pro/con/need/right/wrong limitation is to ask yourself "What choices are available that I haven't considered?"
Are you willing to consider that there are no pros/cons, need/don't need, or right/wrong choices? What if a choice was just a choice, an act to create awareness?
When you make a choice, you'll have an awareness, and then you'll get to make another choice. Every ten seconds.
Choosing from pro/con/necessity/right/wrong is a no choice universe. What amazing adventures could you have if you created your life from an infinite choice universe instead?
What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort?
When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable?
If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?"
Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater?
What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action?
You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices.
What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
How many people tell you what to do or think every day, directly or indirectly? No one, a few people or almost everyone?
Who are they? Parents, family, friends, neighbours, community leaders, governments, the media and other complete strangers?
When you do what they tell you to do, how do you feel? Breezy and light? Great!
Did you know that sometimes people tell you to do something for a reason that has nothing to do with what they're actually telling you to do? So if you have a sense of discomfort or heaviness, and you'd like clarity about the truth of what's going on, ask yourself "What are they really trying to get me to do?"
When you get clear on the true aim of what people are trying to get you to do, your heaviness should lighten. Then choose for you.
Are you doing something you sense you'd rather not, but you're doing it anyway?
What reasons do you give yourself for doing it? That someone will be happy/accepting/impressed by what you're doing? That if you do this, then later that will show up and make it all worthwhile? That people are depending on you to save them?
If you're not clear, ask yourself "What am I being seduced by?" It might be an actual honeypot, it may be dreams of fame and glory, or it may be the idea you're being a hero-saviour. It may be something else.
Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. Notice it, ask another question, and make a choice.
You may end up doing the exact same thing. The difference is you will be doing it from choice, not seduction and hopes of reward.
How many things are you worried about at the moment? Nothing, a few things, or almost everything?
Is someone telling you that you must do certain things, that you'd prefer not to do, and you're trying to figure out a way around it? Or perhaps you'd like to do something, and are being told you can't?
If so, and you'd like to change it ask "Am I playing in the storyline?"
People will always create a narrative and tell you a story to make you feel that you have no choice, and that you must do what they want you to do.
This question will prompt you to ask a question about the reality you'd like to create that suits you, rather than being focused on how to do/avoid doing what someone is telling you can can't/must do, ie playing in someone else's storyline.
The reality is you are an infinite being with infinite possibilities and you always have a choice. You just have to make it.
And who knows what will ripples your choice will create?
How often do you find yourself in a no-win argument or heated discussion? You've got all the facts at your finger tips, but others are simply not listening.
Or perhaps you're finding that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating to you about things, as if you have no idea?
If you do and would like to change this, ask yourself "Am I dumber than dirt?"
Dirt knows what it is; do you? Dirt doesn't have to prove how smart it is.
What could you create if you weren't fixated on proving yourself to someone who simply doesn't care?
You can have both a judgement and an awareness about anything, positive, negative, and everything in between and beyond.
So what's the difference? A judgement will cement your point of view, limit possibilities, and solidify the existence of whatever you're judging.
Awareness is just that: awareness. You can see what is, and then when you ask a question about it, you create possibilities.
A judgement will have a positive or negative charge on it, while an awareness will have no charge at all. Another difference is that judgement requires time, while awareness is instantaneous.
And you can always ask yourself "Is this a judgement, or an awareness?"
What's going on in your life right now? Do you have something you'd like to change?
Whatever that is, have you asked lots of questions, done the research, poked into every corner, talked to a million people, and taken action?
Where did you get? Are you inspired, energised and creating the change you're seeking?
Or are you confused, demotivated, and stuck feeling helpless and not knowing what to do next?
If you're stuck, ask yourself "What if this wasn't an answer? What if this was a possibility?"
When you ask a question, you'll get a response. If you make the response an "answer," you'll only create a finite limitation.
What if nothing was an "answer" and everything was a possibility? What change could you create then?
How much evil, meanness and ugliness can you see in the world? Not much, a bit, or everywhere you look?
When you see evil, meanness and ugliness, what do you do? Do you resist and react to it, trying to fix it? How does that work out?
If you'd like greater ease and possibility, ask yourself "What if evil, mean and ugly were just a choice?" Now breath.
People choose to do evil, mean and ugly things all the time just because they can. When you are able to see all the evil, meanness and ugliness in the world and recognise that it is all simply an interesting point of view — it's not right or wrong, or good or bad, it's just a choice people make — then you will no longer be the effect of it.
When you are the effect of something, how free are you to create the changes you'd really like? When you resist and react to something, do you dissipate, or solidify the thing you're reacting to?
What if by being in total allowance of everything — including the evil, mean & ugly — you created more possibilities for the world you desire than you ever imagined?
How much of your day do you spend judging things? Never, sometimes or constantly?
What's judgement? Any point of view you have about something being good/bad or right/wrong is a judgement. You know, when you think "Oh, that's no good" or "If only people would think/do this instead?" Or whenever someone else says something and you agree and align, or resist and reaction, you are in judgement.
There is nothing wrong with judging things, if that's fun for you. Be aware, however, that judging will only serve to distract you from being present in every moment and so limit your possibilities.
If you'd like to find out what is possible beyond the limitation of judgement, ask yourself "What if I judged nothing?" Nothing includes you and everyone else.
Then no matter what you or anyone else does, says, or thinks, smile and say to yourself "Interesting point of view" in total allowance.
After a while, you will become interesting point of view where you can see all possibilities, receive everything, and create the life you desire, free from the polarity of judgement.
How? Follow the energy, choose, notice what you create/shows up, then choose again. Repeat.
Have you ever noticed yourself striving to have someone else — your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your partner, your kids, or even random strangers — see you and acknowledge you and what you're doing?
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else?
Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation?
If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop.
Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time.
Are you trying to tell someone about something important? You've got clear evidence about something that you know your friends/family/partner/colleagues should really know about and you're desperate to tell them. It might even be a matter of life and death, or maybe you're excited and think they'd be really interested?
Has it been easy to tell them? Every time you open your mouth have they shouted you down/belittled you/gaslighted you/rolled their eyes/walked away/what else? And yet you keep trying, right?
If you'd like to create a different dynamic, then ask yourself "What if I just shut up?" Then stop talking.
Then next time when someone asks "How have you been?" or "What are you doing these days?" try describe in in one word. When they ask "What's that mean?" have one short sentence to describe what it is, and say it in a tone of voice like it's boring and that you don't really want to talk about it.
For example, I might say say "freedom." Often they reply "Freedom for what?" to which I reply "Freedom to change anything you'd like in life that isn't working the way you'd like." Another goodie is "Oh, your life is fine, you wouldn't be interested."
When people think you don't want to tell them something, they will often be inspired to ask questions. Questions create possibility and this is a small opening for you to invite them to consider something they might never have thought of before.
How? Ask them a question, For example "Well what don't you feel you're free to do in your life right now?" and then "Any ideas about how you could change that?" Shut up. Listen. Smile. Question. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
How many people do you meet who have such fixed points of view that they are never able to see beyond what they have decided is true, even when it smacks them in the face?
If you'd like someone to see beyond their self-imposed limitations, ask yourself "What wedgie could I ask?" A wedgie is a question that creates discomfort in someone's universe and is designed to get the other person to ask a question.
For example, when you notice someone has fixed points of view about something, instead of being triggered, trying to prove, or defending your own points of view by giving them too much information, make them uncomfortable by asking a wedgie.
For example, in total allowance say "Interesting. What if everything was the opposite of what it appears to be?" or "What if there was something about that situation that is a lie?"
Then stop talking. Sometimes you'll even need to let them sit with your question for weeks, until the discomfort becomes unbearable and they have to return and ask a question.
Questions create possibilities and now you have a tiny space to invite them to see different realities. Be gentle. Listen to them in total allowance and ask them lots more questions.
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