How easy is your life right now?
If it's harder than you'd prefer, ask "Am I willing to have an easy life?"
Have you decided that it's not 'right' to have an easy life? That you must struggle, and work hard with blood, sweat and tears?
Is that true? Or is that an interesting point of view?
What if your contribution to your family, friends, community and the world had nothing to do with how easy your life was?
What if you created elegantly: optimum contribution with minimum effort? Would that 'easy' be acceptable?
Are you a serious person, deeply concerned about family, community, and world affairs? Are you always focused, earnest, and diligent?
How much do you laugh with sheer delight and joy? Not much? Perhaps you decided somewhere consciously or unconsciously that to laugh is to be frivolous?
If so, and you'd like another possibility as yourself "What could my laughter contribute?"
What if instead of going about your life carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you laughed your way through with a lightness of being as you create your lived adventure? What could the vibration of your laughter heal?
For example, next time you find yourself in a heated 'debate' (fight), instead of getting all cranky pants and righteous, what if you burst out giggling with real joy and said "You know what, you're probably right. Goodness I make myself laugh sometimes!" Then smile and walk away.
What crinkles in the universe could your laughter make for new possibilities to squeeze through?
How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?"
What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.)
Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates.
Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else.
When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it.
What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then?
Are you aware of people actively working against you?
How do you respond? Do you feel you have no choice but to resist and react, to make choices based on what they've done or said? Do you try to prove you are/are not whatever they've said you are/are not? Are you distracted by the fight?
If you'd like another possibility, ask yourself "What if I outsmarted people who were trying to undo me?"
When you're aware of what's going on and willing to ask questions, you step into the possibility of out-creating those who seek to keep you trapped in their narrative. What if rather than resisting and reacting to other people, you take action based on what you know is true for you?
What if 'outsmarting' was as simple as seeing an obstacle and choosing to walk around it, rather than bash your head against it?
How many layers of protective personality do you find yourself wearing to suit every situation?
For example, the good son/daughter, the generous parent, the smart student, the diligent employee, the kind woman, the strong man, the understanding sibling, the polite stranger, the charismatic leader, the good-hearted volunteer? What else?
How do you feel under all those layers? Light and breezy? Or a bit heavy and stifled?
If you'd like to shed a few tonne, ask "What if I didn't need a facade?" What if you were, well just simply, you in ever situation? This is who you are and others can accept that, or not.
Would you feel lighter, like caked on makeup or mud has been washed away after how many decades? Would your real smile finally be seen? What amazing changes might that create?
And even if some people leave your life because they decide the real you is not for them, what other amazing people might show up?
Do you ever hear yourself saying "My life is terrible and I can't change it," or something similar?
Remember, your point of view creates your reality, so if that is your point of view, you are 100% correct.
If you'd like a different reality, ask "Would an infinite being truly choose this?" In asking this question, you invite the awareness of a different possibility.
If an infinite being wouldn't choose this, then why are you? The only reason you choose something an infinite being wouldn't choose, is to make yourself finite. You can certainly choose that if you wish. Or instead you could say "Would an infinite being choose a life that is terrible? What will it take to change it?"
What would you you like to create or change in your life right now? Whatever that is, are you looking to create or change it because you've decided it would be 'good' to, or 'bad' not to?
If so, and you prefer limitless rather than limited possibilities, ask "Have I decided this is good/bad?" If you notice you have, say "Interesting point of view I have that point of view. Now what else is possible?"
Good and bad are points of view. There is nothing wrong with having a point of view as long as you are aware that it is an "interesting point of view," that you change every ten seconds if you choose.
When you lock yourself into a judgement that a point of view is good/bad, right/wrong, you will only be able to see things that fit within the narrow polarised band of that judgement. Every other possibility will be excluded.
Be aware that a positive point of view can be as limiting as a negative point of view. Once you decide something is right, you may end up spending the rest of your life making it right...or being married to it.
On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away?
Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like.
Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?"
Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities?
How do you make choices? Do you choose something, see what shows up, then make another choice? Or do you weigh up the pros and cons, considering what you need or don't need, trying to work out what is right or wrong?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense when making choices? If you feel heavy, then you may be limiting your choices based on pros/cons, needs/don't need, and right/wrong.
A simple way to step out of the pro/con/need/right/wrong limitation is to ask yourself "What choices are available that I haven't considered?"
Are you willing to consider that there are no pros/cons, need/don't need, or right/wrong choices? What if a choice was just a choice, an act to create awareness?
When you make a choice, you'll have an awareness, and then you'll get to make another choice. Every ten seconds.
Choosing from pro/con/necessity/right/wrong is a no choice universe. What amazing adventures could you have if you created your life from an infinite choice universe instead?
What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort?
When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable?
If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?"
Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater?
What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action?
You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices.
What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing?
To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?"
And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?"
Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot.
Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change.
When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
How many people tell you what to do or think every day, directly or indirectly? No one, a few people or almost everyone?
Who are they? Parents, family, friends, neighbours, community leaders, governments, the media and other complete strangers?
When you do what they tell you to do, how do you feel? Breezy and light? Great!
Did you know that sometimes people tell you to do something for a reason that has nothing to do with what they're actually telling you to do? So if you have a sense of discomfort or heaviness, and you'd like clarity about the truth of what's going on, ask yourself "What are they really trying to get me to do?"
When you get clear on the true aim of what people are trying to get you to do, your heaviness should lighten. Then choose for you.
What do you do when something goes 'wrong' for you? For example, you've asked a question, made a choice, had an awareness, followed the energy...and then things didn't turn out how you thought they would.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice?
If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?"
There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found.
How do you define you? Are you just you: doing, thinking, creating, being as you prefer? Or are you something else?
If it's something else, ask yourself "What if relationship wasn't what I thought it was?"
How much of your life have you defined yourself by your relationship to everyone and everything around you? How much of what you have been choosing to do, think, create, have you defined by where you stand in relation to others? Have you been choosing based on what that choice will create for you, or for someone else?
Does choosing based on relationship feel light or heavy? Expansive or limited?
What amazing things could you create if you gave up all relationship to everyone and everything and just be you?
How easily can you see when people are lying? To themselves or other people?
What do you do? Do you work hard to expose the lie? Trying to save people or make the liars pay?
How does that work out? Do the liars say "Oops, you got me! Won't do that again!" Or do they work even harder to hide their lies and make you wrong?
If you'd like to create something different for yourself and others, when you see the liars ask yourself "What if I let the liars lie?"
When someone is lying to themselves, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to deceive themselves. When someone is lying to other people, is it your job to save them? No, it's their choice to be deceived.
By being in allowance of liars, you create the space for them to lie and lie and lie and lie until there is nothing left but lies.
And when only lies exist, what will people see? Only lies.
How hard to you work to support other people? Are you working working day and night, even voluntarily, in a business or on a project, and excited to give everything you can offer.
You're there to make difference but no one is listening. Perhaps you can see exactly how something could go wonderfully, if only they'd do A, B and C. Or maybe you can see exactly where it's going, like the Titanic, and it's not looking pretty.
Are you killing yourself to stop things going wrong, or to make things go right? If so, and you'd like to not die, ask yourself "Am I willing to have others crash and burn?"
You're not hoping they'll crash and burn; you're being in allowance of what they're creating. And who knows, by being the space of allowance, the other person may be able to see what you're offering to contribute and ask you a question.
And if they do crash and burn you can always ask yourself a question like "What can I contribute here?" Then you get to make another choice, even if that is to turn and walk away.
Are you doing something you sense you'd rather not, but you're doing it anyway?
What reasons do you give yourself for doing it? That someone will be happy/accepting/impressed by what you're doing? That if you do this, then later that will show up and make it all worthwhile? That people are depending on you to save them?
If you're not clear, ask yourself "What am I being seduced by?" It might be an actual honeypot, it may be dreams of fame and glory, or it may be the idea you're being a hero-saviour. It may be something else.
Whatever it is, it doesn't matter. Notice it, ask another question, and make a choice.
You may end up doing the exact same thing. The difference is you will be doing it from choice, not seduction and hopes of reward.
How much are you driven by having a 'true purpose'? A lot or a little?
Do you consider that you'll be happy or valued when you find it? Are all your questions always centred around it? Do you narrow your choices to fit within the purpose you've decided is right?
If so, ask yourself "What if having a 'true purpose' was a limitation?"
How free are your choices and possibilities when you decide you have a 'purpose'?
What if instead you had a priority? Does this feel lighter? Do you sense more choice and possibility?
An infinite being would choose limitation for what reason?
How many things are you worried about at the moment? Nothing, a few things, or almost everything?
Is someone telling you that you must do certain things, that you'd prefer not to do, and you're trying to figure out a way around it? Or perhaps you'd like to do something, and are being told you can't?
If so, and you'd like to change it ask "Am I playing in the storyline?"
People will always create a narrative and tell you a story to make you feel that you have no choice, and that you must do what they want you to do.
This question will prompt you to ask a question about the reality you'd like to create that suits you, rather than being focused on how to do/avoid doing what someone is telling you can can't/must do, ie playing in someone else's storyline.
The reality is you are an infinite being with infinite possibilities and you always have a choice. You just have to make it.
And who knows what will ripples your choice will create?
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