What do you do when things don't fit into the form and structure you've decided your life must have? When things vary or change? Like now, for example. Old normal gone. Enter "new normal."
Do you say “Oh that's interesting. It's different! It's something I never thought about! I wonder how much fun we can have? I wonder what new better and beyond normal can I help create?”
Or do you react with upset and say “This is strange/crazy/stupid. If they only did it this way life would be better! OMG how can I put up with this?”
How much stress or unhappiness do you have because you've decided things have to be a particular way?
If you'd like less stress and more happiness in your life, ask "What if form and structure had no significance?" Then
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Are you stuck? Has something or someone gone funky (just saying...)? Or perhaps you'd just like to generate more great stuff in your life?
Whenever and whatever you'd like to create change, start by asking a question.
Why? A question will invite you to see something you might not have been able (or willing) to see before and empower you.
An answer, decision, conclusion, or judgement will serve only to limit your field of vision and disempower you.
That's the aim of this service. So you'll have a bunch of the simplest, most effective questions within easy reach.
So today's question is for when you have a brain freeze and can't think of a question.
Ask “What question could I be asking here?”
It's so simple it might even make you smile, which is always good too.
Do you use drugs of any kind? Hard drugs, pharmaceutical drugs, tobacco or alcohol to excessive amounts? Do you have any other compulsive behaviour, for example with food, exercise or helping/bullying people, or feeling bad, that you think you can't change? Are you a control freak working 24/7 to prove you're right?
What does this behaviour add to your life?
Do you use it to dull or heighten your awareness about something? Does it free you from pain, physical, emotional or intellectual? Does it create a space where you feel more you?
How real is that awareness, freedom and space? Completely, or not at all?
What if you could create real, total awareness, freedom and space which does not rely on anything but you?
If you'd like to find out, ask “What does this add to my life, and what information do I require that would empower me to create that in other ways?”
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What have you decided you must keep being/ doing/ having, no matter what? You made a decision, so you'll stick to it even if it kills you. After all, that's the right way to live, isn't it?
Maybe. Or would you prefer another option to killing yourself to prove you're right?
What if instead, you created your life by consciously choosing things that contributed to your life in ways you enjoy?
How? Ask “If I had 10 seconds to live the rest of my life, what would I choose?”
This is not about making random changes for change's sake. The question is designed to remind you what science says: this is a free-will universe and you have choice.
You may end up choosing the same thing continuously every 10 seconds, as long as it works.
And if one day it doesn't, you'll know and you can choose something else that does.
Ever heard a story or two million recently? Are they True? Are they Fake?
How much of story telling is someone trying to get you to do what they want? Or at least confuse you about what is really going on?
What if none of it were real or true? What if all stories were simply interesting points of view?
If you'd like to be free to create your own life as you'd like, ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?" Then check in with what feels light to you and choose that.
Repeat. I mean it. Every time you hear a story. ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?" And check in with what feels light to you and choose that.
Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat X infinity.
Sure you can enjoy a story for the heck of it. At the end, say “Wow, that was a terrific story! Thank you [for the entertainment]! What an interesting point of view!"
And then ask yourself "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?" Check in with what feels light to you and choose that. You get the picture.
Looking for something interesting to do while you're in lockdown? Give this a go.
Sit comfortably. Close your eyes. Find the outer edges of your body.
Got them? Then ask yourself, are you only your body, or something else? Think of it in terms of a phone/mp3 player/CD/record with music on it, versus a brand new device/disc with no music on it.
If you sense you are more than just your body (the device/disc), then find the outer edges of you, the being (the music).
Got them? Wherever you found them, push them out in all directions until they are out past the outer edges of the universe, or farther.
Now open your eyes. Do you feel the same or different? Do you have the sense of more space or less? Did you feel any edges or not?
There are no right answers to these questions. Only your awareness.
This exercise is designed to heighten your awareness of you and space and to remind you that you are a being in a free-will universe, with infinite, free choice.
When your life is not how you'd like it to be, or if you sense your freedom of movement, thought, choice or more is being limited or controlled by others, remind yourself you can choose to create it differently.
Start by asking yourself “If I had infinite, free choice what would I choose?" Then choose it and ask "What action can I take?"
At least, what if this exercise simply helped create a little more space for you in lockdown?
How often do you get stuck in a no-win fight? Do you enjoy it when other people won't listen to your opinion and only want you to see theirs?
How much stress, anxiety and worry do you suffer from trying to prove who's right and who's wrong about something?
Does this help your work or business? Do fights create, or use your time and money? What does stress, anxiety and worry do to your body and health?
Would you prefer to create greater ease in life for you and your body? Then practice these magic words “interesting point of view” every time you find yourself having a difference of opinion with someone.
You're not saying anyone is right or wrong. You're acknowledging everyone has a right to their own (perhaps insane) point of view, including you.
Say it lightly, smile and move on, for example “Yes, I see, thank you. That's a really interesting point of view. I wonder what would be the most rewarding outcome for our business/relationship/health/life right now? What else could we look at?”
This invites in new ideas and information that you might both find interesting.
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