How often do you get stuck in life? A lot, a little or not at all? Do you ever get into a cranky pants rage or spiral into a frenzy of anxiety? Is that fun for you?

If not, and you'd prefer to have total freedom to see and walk around such roadblocks — to be able to change anything that's not working for you in life — start by asking one of these questions. 

​1. What if I had infinite, free choice? 

2. What if everything were just an interesting point of view?

3. If I had 10 second to choose the rest of my life, what would I choose?

4. What question could I ask?

5. What if form and structure had no significance?

6. Am I in judgement? 

7. What does this add to my life?

8. What's the value of competition?

9. What if I didn't buy the story?

10. What am I excluding here? 

The reality is, you always have choice. ​

Are you compelled to always try your hardest to win, be right, better than, or different to anyone else? Or at least not to appear to lose or to be wrong?

How's that working for you? Is it fun?

Or do you feel trapped in a race for which you don't seem equipped and are never enough? Are you frozen by the fear of failure? Do you become depressed when you don't meet other people's standards or expectations?

Are you the same as anyone else? No. So how can an apple and a nightingale compete? Only by both becoming something else that they're not. 

So if you feel limited, frustrated, frozen or depressed by the rules of a race that doesn't exist ask "What's the value of competition?"

Then ask "What is the greatest contribution I can be to my life, family, business and communities?" That's the generative kind of competition, which is all about being more of you. ​

What do you do when things don't fit into the form and structure you've decided your life must have? When things vary or change? Like now, for example. Old normal gone. Enter 'new normal.'

Do you say “Oh that's interesting. It's different! It's something I never thought about! I wonder how much fun we can have? I wonder what new better and beyond normal can I help create?”  

Or do you react with upset and say “This is strange/crazy/stupid. If they only did it this way life would be better! OMG how can I put up with this?”

How much stress or unhappiness do you have because you've decided things have to be a particular way? 

If you'd like less stress and more happiness in your life, ask "What if form and structure had no significance?" Then

• notice the form & structure in your life
• let go of any significance you've attached to it
• choose the form & structure that works for you, or you'd like to create and
• change whatever doesn't.

How? Ask more questions. There's a bunch here www.thedailyq.co you can start with. ​

How often do you feel trapped in a no-choice universe? Feeling that right now?

When did your parents, teachers, bosses, co-workers, friends, children, community leaders, governments and everyone sell you the idea that you have no choice but to do what they tell you?

What is that for you? To study a subject you hate, take a job you're not interested in, break off a great relationship, marry a person you don't really like, be available to everyone for everything 24/7, subject yourself to something you'd prefers to avoid, consider everyone but you an expert? What else?

Guess what? You always have a choice. Infinite choices in fact. This is a free will universe. 

So remind yourself. Next time you feel trapped ask "What choices do I have?"

Then notice whatever possibility feels lightest and ask more questions about what it would take for you to create that as your life. 

Of course, it may end up being exactly what the other people were telling you to choose in the first place. 

But you'll feel differently about it because it was your choice. ​​

Ever heard a story or two million? What about the stories you hear on social media, or the nightly news? Are they true? Are they fake? 

How much of story telling is someone trying to get you to do what they want? Or at least confuse you about what is really going on?

What if none of it were real or true? What if all stories were simply interesting points of view?

If you'd like to be free to create your own life as you'd like, ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell, or buy the story?"  Then check in with what feels light to you and choose that. 

Repeat. Every time you hear a story - in person, from social media, mainstream media, the government or any other 'authority' or source - ask "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell, or buy the story?"  

Then check in with what feels light to you and choose that. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat X infinity.

Sure you can enjoy a story for the heck of it. At the end, say “Wow, that was a terrific story! Thank you [for the entertainment]! What an interesting point of view!"  

And then ask yourself "What would I choose if I didn't listen to, tell or buy the story?"  Check in with what feels light to you and choose that. You get the picture. ​

What do you do when you get stuck on something? When creating your life is not the ease and joy you know it can be?

Do you 
- ask a question
- notice the possibilities
- make a choice
- have an awareness
- repeat?

If not, next time you get stuck, ask yourself "What step is this?"  

When you're stuck, you might simply have forgotten to take a step. It doesn't matter which it is. Every journey begins with just one. 

Questions create possibilities. Choice creates awareness. Repeat.

And don't forget you can always side-step obstacles that are in the way. How? Ask "What if I had total freedom?" and then start by using any one of the questions listed there. ​

So many fun games to play in the Silly Season. Here's another one. 

Do you find yourself overcrowded with people in your house or workplace during the festive season? Or is there always that ONE person sucking up all the oxygen or boxing you into a corner?

Here's a game to play at these times. The rules are simple. Whenever you start to feel you're folding, stapling, mutilating, or contracting yourself to fit into someone else's reality box, or you're gasping in the vacuum because they've sucked all the oxygen out of the room, or you feel pinned beneath the weight of your family/boss' baggage and expectations expand outwards.

How? Just consciously ask your edges to move out. How far? As far as you need in all directions until you become lighter and spacier. Can anyone hang their baggage on your hooks if you're pure space? Will you have any hooks left?

Practice this game. When you master it, you might even find people fall straight through you, flat on their face. And who said slapstick wasn't funny?

How often do you get stuck in life? A lot, a little or not at all? Do you ever get into a cranky pants rage or spiral into a frenzy of anxiety? Is that fun for you?

If not, and you'd prefer to have total freedom to see and walk around such roadblocks — to be able to change anything that's not working for you in life — start by asking one of these questions. 

​1. What if I had infinite, free choice? 

2. What if everything were just an interesting point of view?

3. If I had 10 second to choose the rest of my life, what would I choose?

4. What question could I ask?

5. What if form and structure had no significance?

6. Am I in judgement? 

7. What does this add to my life?

8. What's the value of competition?

9. What if I didn't buy the story?

10. What am I excluding here? 

The reality is, you always have choice. 

What have you decided you do not want in your life? People who lie, cheat and steal? Unreliable and flakey people? Bossy and know-it-all people? What else?

How much energy do you spend judging people in an effort to keep certain things out of your life? Does it ever work? Is it fun for you? Does it expand your life in ways you'd like?

If not, rather than judging and excluding, be in allowance and inclusive. 

When you exclude, you define the limits of what you are willing to receive and shut off your access to infinite possibilities. 

So when you notice you're trying to avoid someone, ask "What am I excluding here, that if I were to be in allowance of would contribute to my life in ways I can't yet imagine?"

Will this put you at the mercy of people? No. When you are aware and inclusive you will see what's going on and how to choose the bits that work for you. 

As a result, they may exclude you from their lives, because you're no longer fun for them. 

Are you compelled to always try your hardest to win, be right, better than, or different to anyone else? Or at least not to appear to lose or to be wrong?

How's that working for you? Is it fun?

Or do you feel trapped in a race for which you don't seem equipped and are never enough? Are you frozen by the fear of failure? Do you become depressed when you don't meet other people's standards or expectations?

Are you the same as anyone else? No. So how can an apple and a nightingale compete? Only by both becoming something else that they're not. 

So if you feel limited, frustrated, frozen or depressed by the rules of a race that doesn't exist ask "What's the value of buying into competition as real?"

Then ask "What is the greatest contribution I can be to my life, family, business and communities?" That's the generative kind of competition, which is all about being more of you. 

Would you like to create the life you'd truly like? Then step out of judgement and into awareness. 

What's the difference? Judgement, discrimination and discernment are fixed points of view, that you will die to prove right. You will often feel emotional heat, a useful way to sense the difference. 

Awareness is an interesting point of view you can change with ease. 

Judgements — regardless of whether they're good or bad — will serve only to control and limit you. Awareness gives you access to infinite possibilities. 

If you'd like to be free of limitation, ask whenever you find yourself coming to a conclusion about what someone (including you) has said or done: "Am I in judgement?" 

When you find you are in judgement, repeat as many times as required "Everything, even my/their strongest option, is just an interesting point of view."

If you dare, follow up with "What am I aware of that, if I chose it, would be the greatest contribution to me and my communities?"