Is something always breaking down or going 'wrong' in your life? Perhaps you always have something that keeps popping up to bother you, that you'd rather not think about?
For me it was cars. I say cars because I have gone through a few. Three at least were written off from water leaks (radiator, sunroof and cooling system). Bottom line, they were all old car which sprung a leak one way or the other, and I should have paid them attention.
But I didn't and so ultimately they were written off. Only one was covered by insurance.
So if you have something that is always breaking down, or even slightly tugging on your attention, ask yourself "What haven't I handled in my life?" Then whatever comes to mind, pay it attention.
What if by gifting your attention for five minutes, you saved yourself hours of time, piles of cash, not to mention years of worry lines?
Do you feel anxious or stressed about finding an answer to something you've decided is a problem?
When the thing or person you've decided is the answer doesn't turn out like you'd hoped or dreamt, what do you do?
Do you ask a question, take action, make a choice?
Or do you react by spiralling into uncertainty, inaction, depression, rage, blame, shame, guilt, regret or any other distraction? If so, and you'd like to change this reaction ask "What have I misidentified as the answer?"
Then ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" There's always something. You just have to ask to see it.
Have you lost a job or a business? Do you have more time than normal on your own? Maybe your activity schedule has been disrupted or put on hold?
Or perhaps you've seen the world in a whole different light for the first time?
Whatever it might be, if you've experienced an uncomfortable change in your life and you'd like to move on with ease, ask "What can I learn?"
It might be a new skill to get a new job or business, or to fill in time on your own or a gap in your social calendar.
Or it simply might be to start asking questions, about everything, always.
Had a tough year? Have you had to rearrange your life? Lost a job? Struggled with money? Argued with friends and family? Been isolated or felt alone?
If so, and you'd like to change how you feel about it, ask "What's the gift of all this?"
Maybe you've been gifted time or space to do something you'd wanted to for a while? Perhaps the shake up gifted you a fresh perspective on what you truly desire as your life and living? Have new people who appeared in your life been the gift of friends who finally 'get' you? Did being alone gift you an awareness of your true strength and abilities? What else?
There is always a gift. You just have to turn over all the stones and be willing to see it.
What do you do when you're full of energy and ideas, seeking to create wonderful new things?
Do you stay focused on your target? Or are you distracted by the myriad of things you've decided could go 'wrong' and all the people who you know will try and bring you down?
Do you experience any physical sensations of dis-ease, in your stomach, head, neck, chest, or anywhere else?
If you sense you're being sucked into the vortex of distraction, ask "What will it take for me to be ease?"
When you're at ease, you function from elegance: creating the greatest amount with the least effort by following the energy of what's light for you and considering nothing 'wrong,' simply right things you don't yet get.
How often are you grateful for things that are showing up in your life? Do you spend much time thinking about what's wrong in the world?
Remember how you get more of what you focus your attention on? So if you'd like an easier, more rewarding and joyful life, shift your focus from limitations to possibilities.
Rather than focusing on what is wrong with the world or what you don't have, be grateful for what you do have that others might not, and ask what contribution you could be. For example, do you have food to eat, clothes to wear, clean water, a place to sleep, energy to warm and cool you, are you literate, do you have access to communications and information, do you have someone to talk to? What other talents and abilities do you have that other people might not have?
So next time you're feeling down, ask yourself “What choices do I have right now that others don't?” Then smile and ask "How did I get so lucky?!" If you'd like to continue, ask "What choice could I make in these 10 seconds that would make the greatest contribution to me and my communities?" and choose that. Smile and repeat.
Do you live an exuberant life? How many things are you afraid of losing? Are you worried that people won't approve?
What if the only thing you had to lose was your limitation? What could you create then? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I lived like I had nothing to lose?"
When you ask this and you choose for you, you may find family members, friends, jobs, habits, routines, or any number of things might disappear from your life.
Rather than considering a loss, consider what you've gained. Space, time, energy and you. So now with your gained, space, time, energy and the real you, what will you create? What will you gain?
Then again, you may not lose anything. People and things may adore the your newfound exuberance and multiple.
Do you live life to the fullest? Adding more and more and more and MORE, just because it's fun and you can?
Does taking so much on sometimes stress you, but can't stop because you feel you''d let everybody down? Have you decided that you have to keep going, no matter what?
If so, and you'd like to create a little more ease for yourself, ask "What if taking a break was OK?"
What if by taking a break, you created the space you required for something even greater to show up, for everyone?
Do you consider change hard?
You know you're not entirely (or at all) satisfied with your work, business, relationships, health, body, or life in general, and you have an idea about what you'd prefer, and yet you can't seem to make it happen?
Do you hear yourself saying "I'd like to do this, but I can't because..."? How many reasons and justifications do you have as to why your current situation, although not ideal, is easier to have than making waves and changing anything?
What if change wasn't the hard part? If you'd like to find out what might open a door to greater possibilities, ask "Am I willing to acknowledge what I've chosen?"
What if the hard part was acknowledging that everything you have created as your life until now had been your choice? There is no need to make it significant. Simply notice it and acknowledge that you are a magnificent creator.
Now what do you choose to create? The same, or different?
Do you strive for completion? Do you value having goals and focus your energy on achieving those? How do you feel when either you reach, or don't reach your goal? Does procrastination distract you along the way? Is the process fun?
If striving for completion does not give you the sense of fulfilment and satisfaction you were hoping for, and procrastination distracts you, ask "Having done this, what can I create from here?"
What if nothing was ever a completion? What if you considered your work, business and your life in general an ongoing creation, of which you were fully present and created elegantly and joyfully?
Elegance is the greatest result with the least effort. You create elegance when you are fully present and choose consciously and continuously. And procrastination? This often occurs when you have concluded something is a necessity, ignoring your awareness and without asking a question.
What if it were all just choice?
Have you recently made a career change? Did you realise your job wasn't working for you and quit? Perhaps you had a more rewarding offer and moved on? Or did controversy or other external factors force you to change?
Are you at ease with the change, or conflicted? Are you enjoying your new life completely? Or do you miss elements of your former career and remain energetically connected?
Are you struggling to know who you are without your former identity?
Do you think that change means you need to leave everything about the former you behind? Even if you were forced to leave your career defamed and vilified, regardless of the amazing contribution you had made, what if you didn't need to cut it off and make it wrong?
If you'd like greater ease with your changes, ask "What can I use this as a springboard for, to create something even greater?"
What if you considered your career change a gift that created the space for even more of you to show up?
Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason?
Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice?
If you'd like a change, ask "What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?" Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change.
And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, other mainstream media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating "interesting point of view" for everything you see, hear or read.
How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of everyone around you and busing them as yours? Would you "return to sender with consciousness" please?
Are you distracted by competition? Focused on how to out-smart, out-do, out-strip someone else in your field?
Perhaps someone is selling an idea they stole from you as theirs and you're trying to figure out how to beat them? Or do you consider that someone else will always be greater than you and at least you should strive to be more like them?
How expansive does competition with someone else feel? When you enter into competition with someone, even if they are the 'leader' in your field, does this create the space for you to be as great as you are? Or does it keep you locked into the limitations of whatever they're willing to, or telling you their willing to create?
Can you truly compete with anyone else? No. How can an apple complete with a nightingale? So if you'd like to step into your life and out of the limited band of competition with others, ask "How can I out-create me, beyond what exists and anything anyone has considered before?"
Are you willing to expand and create your life beyond what others can imagine? It might be a whole lot more fun too.
Do you know what makes you happy? How many conclusions do you have about what brings you happiness? One or two? A few hundred?
What are they? For example, are you working toward something? An exam or job interview you'd like to pass? A girl or boy you'd like to date, marry or have kids with? A computer, TV, car, or house you'd like to buy? A project or cause you're fighting for? Or some sort of mental, emotional, or physical relief you're seeking? Do you consider that when you achieve that target you'll be happy?
Not sure? If you'd like clarity, ask "Does this really create happiness for me?" Then notice how you feel. Light or heavy? What is true for you feels light. So if you sense heaviness, you may have bought the idea from someone else (your family?) their idea of happiness, which might not suit you.
There's nothing wrong with seeking more in life and being joyful with the results. What if you could be joyful every day of the process too? What might your results look like then?
Do you like routine? Is that what you strive to achieve? Something comfortable, known and secure? How often do you say "Once I get a system set up, a process in place, everything will be better?"
There's nothing wrong with comfortable, known and routine, when everything in your life is even better than you could imagine.
What about when something is not working the way you'd like? Will comfortable, known and routine create the changes you'd like? Or will they set in concrete what's not working?
So if you're looking for dynamic change, ask "What could I be or do different today that would help create the life, living and reality I'd really like?" Then notice what comes to mind, and be or do that.
'Different' is not the same as 'differently.' Differently is doing the same thing in different ways. Different is outside anything you have ever considered.
What have you not yet imagined that, if you chose it, would contribute to your life? Don't know? Just ask.
Do you have something in your life that you'd like to change, but haven't yet because you fear you might lose family, friends, work, money, status, reputation or everything you've 'worked so hard to achieve'?
Does this fear keep you frozen and trapped by inaction?
Would you like to thaw, expand outward and move into action? If so, ask "What if the only thing I had to lose was my limitation?"
What if by making the changes you know you'd really like, you created more than you could ever imagine? What if this also contributed to everyone and everything around you?
Certainly, some friends, family, professional and other acquaintances will not accept the changes you make and withdraw from your life. Would that be a loss, or a contribution? What's the difference? Only your point of view.
What do you have to do today, that you'd really rather not?
Clean the house? Do the shopping? Visit an unpleasant relative? Wash the car? Attend the weekly staff meeting? Write an essay? Sit an exam? Speak in public? Go to the dentist? Give your family news that you know they'll hate?
What makes you go '"Ugh, I'd rather not'" but you know you're going to do it anyway?
If you'd like to create more ease for yourself, ask "How can I enjoy the heck out of it?" Your point of view creates your reality, so if your point of view is "I don't enjoy this" then your are correct. You don't and you won't. There is no possibility it could turn out to be fun after all.
If your point of view is "What would it take for this to turn out to be more fun than I could ever imagine?" you create an invitation for that to occur.
To start, carry with you one thing that makes you laugh. A joke. A game. A book. An app. A photo. A wiggle in your walk. What else? Whatever that is, put it in your metaphorical back pocket and pull it out to entertain yourself when things are getting tough.
After a while you might fing you won't need it. Happiness is just a choice. What do you choose?
Are you a worrier? What do you worry about? Failing exams, business, relationships, children, money, saving the world? Something else?
When you're worrying do you spend most of the time focused on what you're creating, or are you trying to figure out what other people want from you, and how to deliver it?
What's the value of worry? Does it contribute to anything? Or does it keep you trapped in reaction and distract you from taking action? Is it an excuse for no-action? How relevant is it to what you're looking to create?
If you'd like to be free to take action and create the life you'd prefer, ask "What if worry wasn't relevant?"
How much of your worry stems from trying to fit in, or to meet other people's expectations? Do you think it's caring? How aware of, or interested in you are other people? A lot, a little or not at all? Would you like to have more fun? Then stop worrying about what other people want from you and start creating your life for you.
If your life was an adventure of constant creation, would worry exist?
Do you run a business? How are your sales going? Is your client list growing? Or do you find it a constant struggle?
What are your points of view about your products or services? Do you consider them to be a gift to the world and people's lives would be improved if they only recognised their value? Or that they are cheap rubbish that people would be better off not wasting their money on?
How do you share your points of view? Do you find it easy to talk about your business? If you'd like to create greater ease in your business, and more reward for you and others, ask "What would it take for me to be a salesperson of magnitude?" then tell people what they want to hear.
What do they want to hear? Whatever will allow them to justify why they should give you money for what they have already decided they'd like to buy.
People who ask you about your business are already interested in what you offer, and are seeking a reason to buy. What if you made it easy for them?
When people ask you for something, how quickly do you respond?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out?
When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing?
One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"?
No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?"
What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine?
Do you think you have to always put other people first? And if you don't, you're being selfish?
How does that work for you? Are you always taking care of other people's needs, wants, complaints, and cares before yours?
Have you been able to create the life you'd really like? Or are you tired, frustrated, and losing money or your health from helping other people?
If you've been doing everything other people want, thinking that it will help you, and you'd now like a change, start here.
No matter who or what comes across your path, ask "How can I use this to my advantage?" and take notice. There may be something. There may be nothing.
The point is to consider — honour — you first. What if by you considering you above all else, you contributed more to others than you could ever imagine? Is that being selfish?
How is your money situation? Flowing nicely? Or do you find it hard to get customers and clients to pay you on time, or ever? Do you find people seem interested in your work, but always seem reluctant to spend money on it?
What are your own points of view about paying for things?
Are you happy to pay on time for the things you love? Or do you consider it a fun challenge to try and get everything for free, or as cheaply as possible? Maybe you even try to avoid paying at all costs, or at least pay as late and as little as possible?
What impact are your points of view about paying having on payments flowing into your own business?
What if by you paying with a generosity of spirit to bring the things you desire into your life, and honouring their creator, you are generating an invitation for more to flow your way?
If you'd like to find out, ask "What if paying for things I love were a joy?" And the pay on time with a smile.
Think of one thing you'd really like to be, do, have in life today. Got it?
Now think of all those reason and justifications why you don't be, do, have it today. Got them?
What were they? You can't take the day off work? You don't have the money? You don't have anyone to help you? You've got too much else to do? You're not ready? You're not good enough? You'd be letting other people down? What would people think?
Are these really what stand in your way? Or is it your point of view about these things? What would happen if you changed your point of view?
If you'd like to create more possibility in your life, and less of the "I can't because..." ask yourself "Who or what is limiting me today?" and "What else would be possible if I changed my point of view?"
Who is the one who limits you really?
Are you looking to make changes in your life? Getting a new job? Starting (or ending) a relationship? Maybe even moving interstate? Getting a new hair style or tattoo? Or taking a stand on a global issue?
How do you know what choice to make? Have you listed all the pros and cons? Asked your family and friends? Looked into the crystal ball or Googled 'best choice'? Still stuck?
Are you looking for the 'right' choice? What if there were no right choice? What if there were simply a choice?
Are you willing to give up 'getting it right'? If so, ask "Which choice will be the greatest contribution to my life and living in these 10 seconds?" Then notice what comes to mind.
It might not match your logical choice. Sense your choices and notice which feels heavy or light, which makes your heart pound (excitement misidentified as fear?), and which matches the energy of the life you'd like.
Then just choose. Choice creates awareness. And you can always choose again.
Are you feeling unsettled about something in your life? A relationship that's not working the way you'd hoped? A business that's not taking off like you expected? A job that's not as rewarding as you thought? Life disruptions that never seem to end?
Are you disappointed because you've been asking questions and inviting change, but it doesn't seem to be working?
Have you decided that you got it wrong?
What if there was nothing wrong with your questions, and nothing wrong with what's showing up? What if it was just different to what you expected?
If you'd like help to see this, ask "What's right about this discomfort?"
What if discomfort was you sensing change? Change might not be fast enough for you, and it might not show up like you expected at first...or ever. Be aware, that if you jump to a conclusion that your discomfort is bad and you try to stop it, you may just be stopping the change process midway.
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