Have you ever been in a workout, class, meeting, event or project where someone was trying to get you to do something? How did they do it? Were they aggressive and coercive? Did they browbeat you until you got it? Did the literally scream at you COME ON PUUUUUUSH!!!!
Even if you're in labour with child, how do you feel when someone screams at you to 'PUSH through the pain/deadline/brickwall'? Do you feel like doing it? If you're having a baby, nature will take its course. If you're not, are you like to PUSH, or are you likely to respond 'hmmm, maybe not today...'?
Do you do it yourself? Is breaking the pain barrier fun? Do you like banging your head up against the brickwall of obstacles? If not, and you'd like another way to generate results greater than you could imagine, trying pulling.
So if you'd like to create something new, ask "What if I pulled instead of pushed?" then pull energy from everywhere in the universe through you.
Play with it and see what happens. Maybe you'll spot that the wall is only a meter wide and you can walk around it. Maybe the unstable foundations of the roadblock will start to crumble. You can also pull energy through other people, then watch them wake up and get going. No screaming required.
What's going on in your life right now? Is it fun, or not so much? How often do you complain about things? Do you have something you'd like to change?
Great! The fact that you see things you'd like to change means you can see change is possible.
So what is it about change that is causing you to keep complaining, and not change? What keeps you from creating the changes you desire?
Have you decided the change you'd like must be hard, and that you don't deserve it, or that someone else knows better about what is good for you?
Would you like a different possibility? Then ask yourself "What if change were easy?" and destroy and uncreate everywhere you have consciously or unconsciously decided it must be difficult and/or up to someone else.
What if you thought of change as an exciting new adventure? Would you choose it, and choose it again? What else could be possible for you if you embraced change and took action for yourself?
Do you like change?
Do you get excited when a new gadget is announced? When your work/life is rearranged? Your holiday plans are suddenly upended? When someone you regard highly does something you didn't expect? When your favourite coffee shop closes?
Or do you become annoyed, worried, frustrated, even angry? Do you try to make someone right or wrong? Do you start thinking something is "wrong with the world" and lament "if only things didn't change?"
What if nothing were wrong?
What if change was needed to create something even greater? So next time you feel uncomfortable about a change, ask "What if change were required?"
Then smile and enjoy what shows up next.
Have you had a bad day...week/month/YEAR? Did you bump into someone's parked car when you were backing down the driveway? Did you get a bill 10 times what you were expecting? Did youfind out the times had changes on an event you'd been promoting, an hour before it was due to start? Did you create a fight when you thought you were being helpful? Did someone tell you how much rubbish you are? did you have ALL of these in one day?
Do you feel like crying? Having a stiff drink? Jumping off a cliff? Something else?
If you'd like something else, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Then ask "What would make me giggle right now?"
Remember when you were five, and everything made you giggle? Find ONE thing and pull that energy through you, and keep looking for MORE thinks, until you lighten, smile...and maybe even giggle. Even if it's to giggle at yourself for being Cute, Not Bright.
Do you have a lot going on? Shopping, cooking, cleaning, kids duties, family duties, work needs, saving the world, and then fall in bed in a heap only to start it all over again in six hours?
How often do you say "I'd love to do that...but I don't have time"?
How many books would you like to read, movies to see, friends to catch up with, hobbies to enjoy, causes to support, projects to start, worlds to save, that you don't do because you "don't have time"?
Have you decided time and space are finite, and you can't change them to suit you?
If you'd like to do more of the things you enjoy in life, rather than having the duties and responsibilities you've decided you have to do to fill up your days, ask "What will it take for me to fold time and space?"
Science questions the bounds of time and space all the time. What if you played with it too?
Today, for the whole day, listen to everything that comes out of your mouth. Or even just for ten minutes.
How much of what you say is a veiled, or even outright complaint about someone or something? Do you ever hear your voice taking on a repetitive whinging, defensive, or hostile tone?
Words have their own energy to create, or to destroy. If your words are dominated by criticism or emotion, then that is what you will create more of.
There is nothing wrong with being aware that something is not working, and that you'd like to make it better. The difference is simply the energy behind your words.
So if you'd like to change your pattern of defaulting to destructive criticism or emotion, ask "How are these words contributing to the life I'd like to create?" If you notice they're not, simply ask "How does it get any better than this?"
Right now, get the energy of your life as it is today. What does it smell like, taste like, feel like? What sounds do you hear, what sights do you see, how much do you smile, laugh, and do the things you really love?
Got it? Remember it. Put it in your pocket.
Now ask yourself "If time, money and everyone else's points of view were not real, what would I like the energy of my life to be like?" What would it smell like, taste like, feel like? What sounds would you hear, what sights would you see, how much would you be smiling, laughing, and doing the things you really love? Who would you be in it, where would you be, and what would you be doing?
Got it? Now check the energy of this life, the life you'd like. Is it the same, or different to the energy of the life you have now? If it's different, remember it. Hold it in your hands. Whenever you consider adding something or someone to your life, check its energy, by asking "Is this the energy of the life I'd really like?"
What's your story? You know, the one you tell every time you meet someone new. The one you replay in your head like an old film? How does it go for you? Is it a roll call of well-known schools, colleges, companies, achievements and who you know? Is a tale of woe, misery, and hardship? Are you the victor? Are you the victim? Do you laugh? Do you cry?
Is it real? You point of view creates your reality. So if your point of view is that your story is your life, then it is real.
You are welcome to keep your story if it is working for you. Be aware that if you would like to create change in your life, re-runs of your story will serve only to re-create that life, over and over.
If you'd like to create a different life, you must be willing to give up all your old stories. If so, ask "What if I changed the story of my life?" Then make up something outrageously fun and rewarding to tell. Who know how quickly it could become real?
Think of something you'd like to change. A relationship, a job, money, body, life situation, society, government? Got it?
How willing are you to do whatever it takes to create that change? A lot? A little?
For example, would you like a constantly fresh relationship with your partner or work, rather than the daily maintenance you currently have? Or a society and government that seems filled with hate, fear and corruption?
If so, every morning wake up and consciously destroy and uncreate the think you'd like to change.
In other words, are you willing to do whatever it takes, including getting divorced, quitting your job, protesting and being fined or arrested?
You may or may not need to follow through. It's the energy or willingness that will clean your slate so you can start the day afresh.
So if you're not seeing the changes you'd like, ask "Am I willing to destroy and uncreate it all?"
Do you have a target? Great! It's always good to have something to aim at and shoot over. Aim for the moon so you can hit the stars, as they say.
What about goals? Got any of these: when I make a million dollars I'll be set; when I meet The One I'll be happy; when I'm promoted my parents will see me; what else?
Do you ever seem to achieve your goal? Or do you often find you get within reach, but never quite there? Do you ask questions like "What will it take for me to achieve X?" and then it doesn't happen?
Are you asking real questions, or have you decided what you want, and then stick a question mark at the end?
If you find yourself almost creating what you think you'd like, ask "What have I made significant?" and let it go. Whatever that is — a person, a dollar sign, a job, an event — remove that specific and ask another question.
Are you finding it hard to giggle and hoot, wiggle and skip? What about a hint of a smile? Is even that hard?
Do you remember laughing all the time when you were a kid? When did you buy the idea that you had to give up your non-stop hysterical giggling and "get serious"?
Do you still believe that? Do you think it wouldn't suit you? That you're too old to be silly? That you've got to keep things organised and on track? That you're the responsible one and if you don't do it, no one will, and so there's no time for frivolity? And after all, you have to save the world?
What if you could run a well-oiled machine, help all the ducks and kittens do what ducks and kittens need to do, smile, giggle, hoot, wiggle and skip at the same time, AND save the world?
What if a bit of a giggle even made you look and feel younger and gave you more energy...(to save the world)? Like to find out? Then ask "What if I didn't take myself so seriously?" and start with a smile.
Do you sense the world is more complicated than you like? Do you feel compelled to make things more complex than you think necessary?
When you do a presentation at work, do you make it the simplest, cleanest, to-the-point version? Or do you feel obliged to add all the bells and whistles? When you write an essay for school, do you feel you have to include the most difficult sounding words and concepts? When you find people you like, do you try to impress them with how much you know?
Nothing wrong with complex if it's fun, easy, feels light, and works for you. And if it doesn't work, ask "What if simple were right for me?" Are you willing to be aware of what works for you — simple, complex, or in between — and choose that?
How much fun could you have by functioning elegantly: generating the greatest result with the least effort?
Have you ever seen an empty block of land, that's just been cleared for building? When there are no trees, no plants, no apparent life at all?
What happens after a few days? Do weeds start to appear? And after a few weeks, do you need another clearing? What about a few months, or even years? Has the whole place been completely covered again?
The nature of the planet is strong and, like this, tells you that no matter what you do, IT WILL SURVIVE. With, or without you.
What is an earthquake? A tsunami? A bushfire? A mudslide? A flood? A drought? What is the planet telling you that you're not hearing?
Would you like to enjoy the planet a little longer? If so, ask "What does the planet require of me?" Take notice of what comes to mind and contribute that, no matter how tiny or seemingly insignificant.
If you find it hard to see what comes to mind, you can always simply start with a smile and happy thoughts.
Do you find that your work, business, relationships or life in general never quite get to where you'd like them to be? You're talented, diligent, smart, cute, funny, intelligent, well-read, hard-working, kind, understanding and more, but somehow it just isn't happening?
Do you like to do it all yourself, rather than have others help? When others do help, is there a limit to what you will accept? Do you think involving others will weaken your control? Or that if you take too much, someone else will get less?
Consider nature. Do plants keep a ledger of how much oxygen and food they gift us? No. They just keep giving. The planet is an infinitely abundant place and keeps creating magically.
What if you functioned from abundance, rather than scarcity? Would lifting the limit on what you were willing to receive help expand your work, business, relationships and life possibilities?
Like to find out? If so, ask "What if limits weren't real?"
How often do you ask for what you'd really like? All the time? Sometimes? Almost never?
And how much of what you'd really like do you have in your life right now? A lot? A little? Almost nothing?
Do you see the connection? Don't ask, don't get.
What stops you from asking for what you'd like? Do you think that you're being selfish? That there's not enough to go around and you should give up your bit (whatever that is) for someone else? That you don't deserve it? That you don't need to ask for anything from anyone? That people should know what you want? Something else?
Are these true? Or are they interesting points of view that you may have bought from someone, sometime?
Have you ever heard the axiom: ask and you will receive? Have you ever asked?
So if you don't have the life you'd truly like, ask "What if I asked for the life I'd truly like?"
Then ask. And receive.
Do you ever blame other people or circumstances for things that don't work out in your life?
Does it make you feel better and help you create the life you'd actually like? Or does it side-track you into an Alice-in-Wonderland like maze of distraction?
If you'd like to create the life you'd like, acknowledge your role as creator of everything that shows up in it.
How? For every good, bad, ugly, beautiful thing that shows up in it, ask "How did I create this?"
It'll be easy for the good, beautiful things. What about the bad, ugly things?
What if by taking ownership of everything in your life, you gained clarity over how you created it? Then, if it doesn't work for you (bad/ugly), you can see how to create it differently.
How? Ask questions.
Have you ever been stuck not knowing what to do? You've got two or more great (or not so great) options and you just don't know which one to go with?
Are you frozen by the idea that you might make the wrong choice? Have you made this choice the answer to your life? And if you get it wrong, people will say "there you go again, making no-good choices" and your life will be over?
Is that true? What if there were no wrong choices? What if no choice was the answer to your life? What if a choice was quite simply that: a choice. A choice that is good for 10 seconds, and then you get to choose again.
How does that feel? A bit lighter? Can you choose now?
So go on, remind yourself: a choice is just a choice and you can do it every 10 seconds. When you're stuck, ask "What if I just chose, dammit?"
Then choose. Repeat.
How often do you get stuck in life? A lot, a little or not at all? Do you ever get into a cranky pants rage or spiral into a frenzy of anxiety? Is that fun for you?
If not, and you'd prefer to have total freedom to see and walk around such roadblocks — to be able to change anything that's not working for you in life — start by asking one of these questions.
1. What if I had infinite, free choice?
2. What if everything were just an interesting point of view?
3. If I had 10 second to choose the rest of my life, what would I choose?
4. What question could I ask?
5. What if form and structure had no significance?
6. Am I in judgement?
7. What does this add to my life?
8. What's the value of competition?
9. What if I didn't buy the story?
10. What am I excluding here?
The reality is, you always have choice.
Is your life full of ease, joy and abundance?
Not so much? No surprise given how many people seem to enjoy telling you that life must be hard, no fun, and a knock-down-drag-out fight to the death for scarce and dwindling resources. Not to mention the Fear and Terror of The Plague.
What if that were not true? If you'd like to find out what else is possible, add this daily mantra to your wake-up routine.
"All of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory."
Saying this will remind you that how you function in life is your choice. And, if you choose, you can function from ease and joy and glory (exuberant expression and abundance) no matter what is going on.
Even when "things go wrong" you can experience them with ease and create any change you desire.
It's all of life, the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. Everything is included and nothing as to be a difficulty.
The reality is, you always have a choice.
Would you like to create the life you'd truly like? Then step out of judgement and into awareness.
What's the difference? Judgement, discrimination and discernment are fixed points of view, that you will die to prove right. You will often feel emotional heat, a useful way to sense the difference.
Awareness is an interesting point of view you can change with ease.
Judgements — regardless of whether they're good or bad — will serve only to control and limit you. Awareness gives you access to infinite possibilities.
If you'd like to be free of limitation, ask whenever you find yourself coming to a conclusion about what someone (including you) has said or done: "Am I in judgement?"
When you find you are in judgement, repeat as many times as required "Everything, even my/their strongest option, is just an interesting point of view."
If you dare, follow up with "What am I aware of that, if I chose it, would be the greatest contribution to me and my communities?"
How aware are you of the words you use everyday? Listen to yourself today and notice the number of times you use these words: why, try, need, but, never, because.
Where do why questions go? Around in circles? Nowhere? Listen to kids: "Why is it cold? It's winter. Why is it winter? That's the seasons? Why do we have seasons?...." and so on.
Need, try, but, and never are all lies.
Do you really need anything? No. The world is an abundant place; need is the lie that it isn't.
Can you really try to pick up a glass of water? No. You either do or you don't.
But negates everything you just said:"Your work is good, but..."
Never is the lie that you can't create time to suit you, when you could if you liked.
Because tells you all the spurious reasons and justifications you give yourself for not doing something, when you really could if you chose.
If you'd like to expand your possibilities ask yourself "What words can I leave behind?" then eliminate these words, and their energy, from your conversations and thoughts.
And then ask "What else is possible?"
What is missing from your life? Money? People? Health? Fun? Would you like to expand your possibilities?
Then leave this word behind: want.
Want originally means "lack" and as such it contains an energetic limitation. When you say "I want money" you are actually saying "I lack money." In other words you are reinforcing both your point of view, and your reality, of not having money.
If what you'd actually like is more money, then instead ask a question, for example "What will it take for more money to show up in my life?"
Questions will always help you see how you can create the change you're looking for.
So every time you catch yourself in the act of saying "I want XXXX," stop, smile and ask yourself "What if I didn't want for anything?" and then "What questions could I ask here instead, that would help me create what I'd really like?"
What does success mean to you? Getting into that school? Getting that job/ that person/ that house? Having a cool sports car/ million dollars in the bank/ beach view apartment/ impressive title?
Nothing wrong with having a clear idea about what would be fun for you. The question is, did you select these things because they would be fun for you?
Or because you decided (or someone else told you) that these things would show other people you were successful? And until you have these things, you must work long and hard, and make sacrifices, including not doing things you really enjoy?
If you're not enjoying life right now, ask "How have I defined success?" and get clear on what is driving you.
What if instead you drove yourself and defined success in ways that work for you? For example, "What will it take for me to bounce out of bed every morning, smiling and inspired by everything I do and everyone I meet?"
You can of course add "With some fun, cool wheels to get me around, or something greater?"
And now I'm off to buy...I mean conserve myself a piece of Scotland. You may call me Lady Mary-Jane.
Have you been trying for some time to create the job, business, relationship, government policy, organisational culture, or the life you'd like, but can't ever seem to make it happen?
If you've been stuck on something for a while and not achieved the result you'd like, you may have some deeply held, unconscious decisions that are limiting you.
For example, is there anything you believe can't be changed? Where you have to live, study or work, or what you have to do or be for someone else? That you are just one person, alone, too small, insignificant and powerless to effect any change on the world?
What if you could change anything? What would be possible for you then, and what would you choose?
If you'd like to move beyond the places that have been keeping you stuck, ask "What have I decided I can't change?" and notice what comes to mind.
When you start seeing where and how you've been keeping yourself stuck with unspoken decisions, then ask "What else is possible?" "Can I change this? If so how?" and "What action can I take?"
How well do people understand you? Are you frustrated that no one gets you? Not even (or especially) your friends, family or insignificant other?
How much attention do people pay to your point of view? Or do people usually focus on their points of view about what you should be or do (for your own good of course, which means, it suits them)?
And how willing are you to tell others what you require or desire? A lot, a little, or not at all?
When did you decide that you couldn't ask for things for you? How many people have told you that choosing for you is selfish (so just do what they tell you, for them)?
Truth, can you contribute to anyone else if you don't first wholly contribute to you?
So ask “What am I unwilling to ask for, that if I did ask for and receive it would be a greater contribution to me and my communities than I could possibly imagine?”
What if you could change the world by choosing for you?
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