Do you find that your work, business, relationships or life in general never quite get to where you'd like them to be? You're talented, diligent, smart, cute, funny, intelligent, well-read, hard-working, kind, understanding and more, but somehow it just isn't happening?
Do you like to do it all yourself, rather than have others help? When others do help, is there a limit to what you will accept? Do you think involving others will weaken your control? Or that if you take too much, someone else will get less?
Consider nature. Do plants keep a ledger of how much oxygen and food they gift us? No. They just keep giving. The planet is an infinitely abundant place and keeps creating magically.
What if you functioned from abundance, rather than scarcity? Would lifting the limit on what you were willing to receive help expand your work, business, relationships and life possibilities?
Like to find out? If so, ask "What if limits weren't real?"
What have you made the answer to your life?
Relationship? "When I find The One I'll be happy"
Money? "When I have $XXX in the bank I'll be secure"
Work? "When I get that job my parents will see I'm successful"
Happiness? "When people admire my work I'll feel respected"
Will these things in themselves make you feel happy, secure, validated or successful? Or does your point of view create your reality?
If you didn't have the point of view you lacked something, would you feel dissatisfied and unhappy?
So when you're feeling less than, or dissatisfied with your life as it is, and you hear yourself repeating "When I have X, I'll be Y" or "If only I had X, I'd be Y" ask "What am I making having X about?"
Then notice what the real target of your desire (Y) is and ask "What will it take to be Y now?"
Are you feeling ill or exhausted? Do you have aches and pains that baffle the doctors? Baffle you?
Before you start on a carousel of drug-taking to see if you can alleviate the symptoms, ask “What am I sick and tired of?”
Maybe it's doom and gloom stories in the media? Not being able to visit or hug loved ones? Or being told what to do but your own questions and points of view are censored. Or something else like housework/home schooling/working from home/what else?
Whatever that is for you, when you think of it and groan and slump, worry and fear, or stress and sweat ask “What else is possible?” and “Can I change this? If so, how?”
Perhaps simply choose not to listen to/switch off/walk away from the stories? Or ask "What information do I need?" and "What action can I take?" - repeat - until you no longer feel sick and tired.
What if your body's discomfort was it screaming at you to change something and create a new life, greater than you could have imagined?
What would you like to have show up in your life?
A great new job, a successful business, smart staff, more customers, reliable suppliers, an investor, money, greater ease, less stress, better health, more fun? For life to become better than the normal you had before the fear and panic? Something else?
Whatever that is, invite it into your life by asking "What's it going to take for X to show up?"
Be aware of the specific details of your question. For example, if you ask for the 'perfect job,' you may create a job based on other people's expectations of perfect, including how long and hard you have to work, doing whatever your boss says even if it makes no sense, taking sides in office politics, and so on.
So instead, be clear on what you'd like by asking, for example “What's it going to take for [a rewarding job that I enjoy and allows me to extend my talents, with flexible, fun, creative people] to show up, that would contribute to my life more than I can imagine, or something greater?”
Make sure that when you ask, you let go of any conclusions you might have made about what it will look like, and how it will show up, and be willing to receive it when it does. You never know what might happen when you ask a question.
Is something going on in your life that has you stuck and unable to take action? For you to be unable to change something, you have to have decided or concluded something about it.
Ask yourself, what have you decided in your life right now that is perfect, or the answer? A relationship? A job? A business? A government strategy?
When you can see your decisions – and are willing to let them go – all change becomes possible.
So when you're stuck and unable to make the changes you'd really like, ask “What decisions, conclusions, and answers have I made about this?”
This does not mean you have to end the relationship, give up on the job/business quest, or become an anti-government activist. Once you are aware of limitations you have created through decisions and conclusions, you can choose to transform them into something else.
Perhaps into even something better than you could have ever imagined. How? Just ask another question, such as "What information do I need?"
What animal do you admire?
Big cats for their understated strength and power? Dogs for their loyalty and friendship? Ants for their diligent industry and collaboration? Birds for their grace as they swoop and swerve avoiding disasters? Beavers or spiders for their engineering prowess? Crocodiles or cockroaches for their stealth and ability to survive apparently anything? Domestic cats who ingratiate themselves while remaining aloof and independent. Bees for understanding the chaotic order of flowers and extracting nature's gold?
Do animals study hard and learn these skills? Or are they just being themselves?
Do animals deserve their abilities? Or do they simply enjoy and use them?
Next time you find yourself in a situation where you're not sure what to do or say, ask "What animal could I be?"
This question is designed to help you pause your autopilot reaction, and to refocus you on how you could be, and what action you could take with ease and elegant result.
What are you waiting for to end? A relationship? A job? An illness? A national or global situation?
Have you been suffering for a long time, spending your days dreaming and planning in fear, stress and worry about how to end it? Or perhaps you've finally made a choice to speak out, stand up, and take action to end it?
Have you decided that when you do, the 'bad' thing will end and you can go back to a normal or even better life? Do you have significant hopes and dreams about it and how your life will change?
If so, ask yourself "What if the end was the beginning?"
This question is designed to remind you that your life is a constant creation: your constant creation. Are you choosing to live it? Or are you waiting for someone to do something, or something to finish first?
Even if you aren't waiting, and you're taking action yourself, rather than focusing on the end, what if you consider your completion as a contribution to the next thing you can create? Where accomplishments are simply the beginning of something greater.
How many points of view do you have about what is good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Probably quite a few, if not all, give that is how we are currently entrained to operate.
Consider this: does the earth consider anything good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Is nature in a constant state of anger, rage, fury and hate over 'important' issues?
No. The earth is in total allowance of everything. It has no point of view about its inhabitants. Certainly volcanos erupt, earthquakes happen, animals eat other animals, and all these things occur without judgement or significance.
If people did not exist, would the earth continue to be abundant and generative? Absolutely.
So if you would prefer an abundant and generative life like earth, ask "Am I making this significant?" Then whenever you notice you're making something significant, laugh lightly and repeat "interesting point of view" to move you from the limited denseness of significance into the infinite freedom of allowance.
Do you ever feel tired, worried, drained, or simply at a loss as what to do?
If so, ask "What if I connected with nature?" Then go out in person and do it. Walk in the park. Hug a tree. Chat to the birds. Take your shoes and socks off and get your feet on the ground.
The worse that will happen is you'll get dirt on your feet. The best is your whole life may change. And at the very least, your body will thank you for the fresh air, sunlight and blood pumping around your body making you stronger and your mind clearer.
Have you ever considered the perfect, balanced, strong, simplicity of nature abundant with naturally replenishing resources? Ever noticed that every part of nature — with the exception of modern-day humans — can have everything it needs for an abundant life without needing to 'deserve' or pay for it?
What if you could have that too? What would that take? It all starts simply by connecting with nature and asking the question.
Are you trying to tell someone about something important? You've got clear evidence about something that you know your friends/family/partner/colleagues should really know about and you're desperate to tell them. It might even be a matter of life and death, or maybe you're excited and think they'd be really interested?
Has it been easy to tell them? Every time you open your mouth have they shouted you down/belittled you/gaslighted you/rolled their eyes/walked away/what else? And yet you keep trying, right?
If you'd like to create a different dynamic, then ask yourself "What if I just shut up?" Then stop talking.
Then next time when someone asks "How have you been?" or "What are you doing these days?" try describe in in one word. When they ask "What's that mean?" have one short sentence to describe what it is, and say it in a tone of voice like it's boring and that you don't really want to talk about it.
For example, I might say say "freedom." Often they reply "Freedom for what?" to which I reply "Freedom to change anything you'd like in life that isn't working the way you'd like." Another goodie is "Oh, your life is fine, you wouldn't be interested."
When people think you don't want to tell them something, they will often be inspired to ask questions. Questions create possibility and this is a small opening for you to invite them to consider something they might never have thought of before.
How? Ask them a question, For example "Well what don't you feel you're free to do in your life right now?" and then "Any ideas about how you could change that?" Shut up. Listen. Smile. Question. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
The reality is, you always have a choice.
When someone tells you to do something, and you do it, you are choosing to do what they tell you. Another choice would be to look at what they're telling you, see how light it feels for you, and say "Thanks for the suggestion. That doesn't work for me right now. I'm choosing something else."
How many things are you choosing now based on what someone else is telling you? None, a few, a lot, or everything in your life?
If you're completely happy with your life the way it is right now, great! If not, and you realise you've been choosing to be controlled by other people, ask yourself "Am I willing to create a completely new reality on planet earth?"
Remember, you're an infinite being with infinite free choice. What amazing new reality could you create simply by choosing for you?
How many people do you see fighting everyday? In the world, your neighbourhood, your city, your country, and across the planet? People focused entirely on using logic, facts, science, persuasion, coercion, bribery, blackmail and trickery to have everyone agree that their point of view is right, and to condemn that all other points of view are wrong?
Pretty much everyone, all the time, right?
What does this create for you, for the world? Peace, joy, happiness, and the life you'd truly like? Or does it create endless fighting and limitation? Could the ultimate toxic waste on the planet be the anger, rage, fury and hate that people deliver to each other daily?
What change could you create if you functioned from allowance, where everything is an "interesting point of view" with no agreement or alignment (positive polarity) or resistance and reaction (negative polarity)?
When everything is just an interesting point of view, you have the freedom to create choice in your life, in the world.
Freedom to create choice by being in allowance is the most valuable thing on the planet. Are you willing to be it? If you'd like to find out, ask "Am I willing to be the most valuable thing on the planet?"
Then every time anyone says anything or seeks to drag you into a fight through alignment and agreement or resistance and reaction, smile and say "interesting point of view."
Breath, then make a choice and ask a question.
How much are you focused on destroying something? You've seen something 'bad' or 'wrong' in the world, and so you're do everything in your power to destroy it.
Does it preoccupy you 24/7, tire or even exhausted you?
How much energy do you spend on creating what you'd like instead? A lot, a little or not much at all?
If you'd prefer to create what you'd actually like with greater ease, ask "What if I didn't have to destroy to create?"
What if instead of gifting your energy to what you DON'T desire, you gifted it entirely to what you DO desire? What amazing things would you create then?
Do you feel anxious or stressed about finding an answer to something you've decided is a problem?
When the thing or person you've decided is the answer doesn't turn out like you'd hoped or dreamt, what do you do?
Do you ask a question, take action, make a choice?
Or do you react by spiralling into uncertainty, inaction, depression, rage, blame, shame, guilt, regret or any other distraction? If so, and you'd like to change this reaction ask "What have I misidentified as the answer?"
Then ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" There's always something. You just have to ask to see it.
Do you consider change hard?
You know you're not entirely (or at all) satisfied with your work, business, relationships, health, body, or life in general, and you have an idea about what you'd prefer, and yet you can't seem to make it happen?
Do you hear yourself saying "I'd like to do this, but I can't because..."? How many reasons and justifications do you have as to why your current situation, although not ideal, is easier to have than making waves and changing anything?
What if change wasn't the hard part? If you'd like to find out what might open a door to greater possibilities, ask "Am I willing to acknowledge what I've chosen?"
What if the hard part was acknowledging that everything you have created as your life until now had been your choice? There is no need to make it significant. Simply notice it and acknowledge that you are a magnificent creator.
Now what do you choose to create? The same, or different?
Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason?
Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice?
If you'd like a change, ask "What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?" Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change.
And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, other mainstream media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating "interesting point of view" for everything you see, hear or read.
How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of everyone around you and busing them as yours? Would you "return to sender with consciousness" please?
When people ask you for something, how quickly do you respond?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out?
When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing?
One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"?
No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?"
What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine?
Are you looking to make changes in your life? Getting a new job? Starting (or ending) a relationship? Maybe even moving interstate? Getting a new hair style or tattoo? Or taking a stand on a global issue?
How do you know what choice to make? Have you listed all the pros and cons? Asked your family and friends? Looked into the crystal ball or Googled 'best choice'? Still stuck?
Are you looking for the 'right' choice? What if there were no right choice? What if there were simply a choice?
Are you willing to give up 'getting it right'? If so, ask "Which choice will be the greatest contribution to my life and living in these 10 seconds?" Then notice what comes to mind.
It might not match your logical choice. Sense your choices and notice which feels heavy or light, which makes your heart pound (excitement misidentified as fear?), and which matches the energy of the life you'd like.
Then just choose. Choice creates awareness. And you can always choose again.
Are you feeling unsettled about something in your life? A relationship that's not working the way you'd hoped? A business that's not taking off like you expected? A job that's not as rewarding as you thought? Life disruptions that never seem to end?
Are you disappointed because you've been asking questions and inviting change, but it doesn't seem to be working?
Have you decided that you got it wrong?
What if there was nothing wrong with your questions, and nothing wrong with what's showing up? What if it was just different to what you expected?
If you'd like help to see this, ask "What's right about this discomfort?"
What if discomfort was you sensing change? Change might not be fast enough for you, and it might not show up like you expected at first...or ever. Be aware, that if you jump to a conclusion that your discomfort is bad and you try to stop it, you may just be stopping the change process midway.
Do you have something in your life that you'd like to create or change? Have you asked lots of questions about it and yet nothing has shown up?
So what's going on? If you'd like to find out, then ask "Am I asking questions about a conclusion?" For example, have you ever asked "What would it take for me to find the love of my life/ get the perfect job/ afford a top Porsche/ make a million dollars/ have people recognise and support what I'm doing?"
Are these questions, or conclusions? Do real questions have a specific result attached? Have your questions simply been conclusions with a question mark attached?
If you'd really like to create something different, ask "What decisions, conclusions, and answers have I made about this?" and then ask a real question.
What is your point of view about money, for example? That there isn't enough to go around? That it doesn't grow on trees? That you have to work long and hard to get enough? And what about the government and media? That they're run by professional experts and so how dare average people question them? That they're run by a corrupted few and there's nothing you can do to change it?
Whatever your point of view are, is that more or less what shows up for you? So your points of view are not wrong. Your points of view are creating your reality.
If something is working for you, then there is no need to change your point of view. What about when something is NOT working for you? For example, if you'd prefer to have more money in your life, or if you'd prefer government and media organisations that consider your concerns? In this case, ask "What if I changed my point of view?"
Then everytime you start to say something about money, the government or media, STOP and say "Interesting I have that point of view. I wonder what else is possible, greater than I can imagine?"
What else would you like to change? The people in your life, your health, your daily activities like work, or global issues affecting your life? What else could you change your point of view about that could create a whole new reality you can't yet imagine.
Have you ever been in a workout, class, meeting, event or project where someone was trying to get you to do something? How did they do it? Were they aggressive and coercive? Did they browbeat you until you got it? Did the literally scream at you COME ON PUUUUUUSH!!!!
Even if you're in labour with child, how do you feel when someone screams at you to 'PUSH through the pain/deadline/brickwall'? Do you feel like doing it? If you're having a baby, nature will take its course. If you're not, are you like to PUSH, or are you likely to respond 'hmmm, maybe not today...'?
Do you do it yourself? Is breaking the pain barrier fun? Do you like banging your head up against the brickwall of obstacles? If not, and you'd like another way to generate results greater than you could imagine, trying pulling.
So if you'd like to create something new, ask "What if I pulled instead of pushed?" then pull energy from everywhere in the universe through you.
Play with it and see what happens. Maybe you'll spot that the wall is only a meter wide and you can walk around it. Maybe the unstable foundations of the roadblock will start to crumble. You can also pull energy through other people, then watch them wake up and get going. No screaming required.
What's going on in your life right now? Is it fun, or not so much? How often do you complain about things? Do you have something you'd like to change?
Great! The fact that you see things you'd like to change means you can see change is possible.
So what is it about change that is causing you to keep complaining, and not change? What keeps you from creating the changes you desire?
Have you decided the change you'd like must be hard, and that you don't deserve it, or that someone else knows better about what is good for you?
Would you like a different possibility? Then ask yourself "What if change were easy?" and destroy and uncreate everywhere you have consciously or unconsciously decided it must be difficult and/or up to someone else.
What if you thought of change as an exciting new adventure? Would you choose it, and choose it again? What else could be possible for you if you embraced change and took action for yourself?
Do you like change?
Do you get excited when a new gadget is announced? When your work/life is rearranged? Your holiday plans are suddenly upended? When someone you regard highly does something you didn't expect? When your favourite coffee shop closes?
Or do you become annoyed, worried, frustrated, even angry? Do you try to make someone right or wrong? Do you start thinking something is "wrong with the world" and lament "if only things didn't change?"
What if nothing were wrong?
What if change was needed to create something even greater? So next time you feel uncomfortable about a change, ask "What if change were required?"
Then smile and enjoy what shows up next.
Have you had a bad day...week/month/YEAR? Did you bump into someone's parked car when you were backing down the driveway? Did you get a bill 10 times what you were expecting? Did youfind out the times had changes on an event you'd been promoting, an hour before it was due to start? Did you create a fight when you thought you were being helpful? Did someone tell you how much rubbish you are? did you have ALL of these in one day?
Do you feel like crying? Having a stiff drink? Jumping off a cliff? Something else?
If you'd like something else, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Then ask "What would make me giggle right now?"
Remember when you were five, and everything made you giggle? Find ONE thing and pull that energy through you, and keep looking for MORE thinks, until you lighten, smile...and maybe even giggle. Even if it's to giggle at yourself for being Cute, Not Bright.
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