How often do you hear someone say "good on you, you deserve that"? How often do you say it?
What does deserve mean to you? That you have to sacrifice or suffer to receive something? Some dictionary definitions are: to serve something zealously, to earn, to be worthy of, and to merit.
Consider this: does anything in nature 'deserve' what it receives? Do the birds need to be worthy of something to eat, drink and live a free life? No. So why should you have to?
If you'd prefer to live a joyous life, with ease and abundance, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to deserve?" What if instead of sacrifice and suffering, you choose to consciously create your life being the greatest contribution you can be?
And who exactly is reinforcing the idea that you should 'serve' them 'zealously'?
How much are you driven by having a 'true purpose'? A lot or a little?
Do you consider that you'll be happy or valued when you find it? Are all your questions always centred around it? Do you narrow your choices to fit within the purpose you've decided is right?
If so, ask yourself "What if having a 'true purpose' was a limitation?"
How free are your choices and possibilities when you decide you have a 'purpose'?
What if instead you had a priority? Does this feel lighter? Do you sense more choice and possibility?
An infinite being would choose limitation for what reason?
How honest are you with you? A lot, a little, or not at all? Don't know? Think about your life right now. The people, things, activities, pleasures, excitements, adventures, its peace and ease.
Is it more than you could ever ask for, about right, or not nearly enought? If you could have even more of the good stuff, would you? How often do you settle for OK, good enough, or 'what you deserve'?
Think about the word 'deserve' for a moment. Is there really such a thing? Do birds or crocodiles 'deserve' anything? Or do they simply know what they require, and receive everything that nature has to offer?
Could 'deserve' simply be a construct that other people use to control you?
Are you willing to receive everything that nature has to offer? If you'd like to expand your life in ways you can't imagine, ask "What would I REALLY like to have, that I have not dared ask for, that if I asked it out loud would create it?"
Are you willing to acknowledge what you truly desire, then ask for it, and receive it? Don't know, Then take this question for a drive around the block and see what shows up.
Do you ever say "I've had a breakdown" when lamenting things that don't work out so well? What about when you celebrate successes, do you say "I've had a breakthrough!"?
What is your sense of the word 'break'? Does it have the energy of ease and joy of new possibilities? Or is the energy more of more force, struggle, control, and limitation?
If you'd like to side-step the limitation and create new possibilities, ask yourself "What if I didn't have to break anything to create my life?"
Then, if things don't turn out how you fantasised, acknowledge it with "What, that's some amazing @#$% I created. What's right about this that I'm not getting? How does it get any better than this?" And celebrate your successes with "How did I get so lucky? What else is possible?"
What changes could you create with the lightness of a feather, a tickle of an invitation, rather than a cracking of bones?
Today, for the whole day, listen to everything that comes out of your mouth. Or even just for ten minutes.
How much of what you say is a veiled, or even outright complaint about someone or something? Do you ever hear your voice taking on a repetitive whinging, defensive, or hostile tone?
Words have their own energy to create, or to destroy. If your words are dominated by criticism or emotion, then that is what you will create more of.
There is nothing wrong with being aware that something is not working, and that you'd like to make it better. The difference is simply the energy behind your words.
So if you'd like to change your pattern of defaulting to destructive criticism or emotion, ask "How are these words contributing to the life I'd like to create?" If you notice they're not, simply ask "How does it get any better than this?"
When things don't work out the way you'd like, what do you do? Do you ask "What's right about this that I'm not getting?" What else is possible?" "Cute, not bright!" and "How does it get any better than this?"
Or do you try to find someone or something to blame? Do others blame you when things don't go right for them?
Blame means to find fault with, to hold responsible for, or to condemn as wrong.
Is blame real and true? Or is it an interesting point of view based on someone's view of right and wrong?
When you buy into the idea that "someone must take the blame" how much trauma and drama comes your way? How much energy do you spend excusing, defending or deflecting the blame? Is that fun?
If not, and you'd like to be free from the control of distractors like this, ask "Is this blame distracting me from creating the life I'd truly like?"
How aware are you of the words you use everyday? Listen to yourself today and notice the number of times you use these words: why, try, need, but, never, because.
Where do why questions go? Around in circles? Nowhere? Listen to kids: "Why is it cold? It's winter. Why is it winter? That's the seasons? Why do we have seasons?...." and so on.
Need, try, but, and never are all lies.
Do you really need anything? No. The world is an abundant place; need is the lie that it isn't.
Can you really try to pick up a glass of water? No. You either do or you don't.
But negates everything you just said:"Your work is good, but..."
Never is the lie that you can't create time to suit you, when you could if you liked.
Because tells you all the spurious reasons and justifications you give yourself for not doing something, when you really could if you chose.
If you'd like to expand your possibilities ask yourself "What words can I leave behind?" then eliminate these words, and their energy, from your conversations and thoughts.
And then ask "What else is possible?"
What is missing from your life? Money? People? Health? Fun? Would you like to expand your possibilities?
Then leave this word behind: want.
Want originally means "lack" and as such it contains an energetic limitation. When you say "I want money" you are actually saying "I lack money." In other words you are reinforcing both your point of view, and your reality, of not having money.
If what you'd actually like is more money, then instead ask a question, for example "What will it take for more money to show up in my life?"
Questions will always help you see how you can create the change you're looking for.
So every time you catch yourself in the act of saying "I want XXXX," stop, smile and ask yourself "What if I didn't want for anything?" and then "What questions could I ask here instead, that would help me create what I'd really like?"
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