How honest are you with you? A lot, a little, or not at all? Don't know? Think about your life right now. The people, things, activities, pleasures, excitements, adventures, its peace and ease.
Is it more than you could ever ask for, about right, or not nearly enought? If you could have even more of the good stuff, would you? How often do you settle for OK, good enough, or 'what you deserve'?
Think about the word 'deserve' for a moment. Is there really such a thing? Do birds or crocodiles 'deserve' anything? Or do they simply know what they require, and receive everything that nature has to offer?
Could 'deserve' simply be a construct that other people use to control you?
Are you willing to receive everything that nature has to offer? If you'd like to expand your life in ways you can't imagine, ask "What would I REALLY like to have, that I have not dared ask for, that if I asked it out loud would create it?"
Are you willing to acknowledge what you truly desire, then ask for it, and receive it? Don't know, Then take this question for a drive around the block and see what shows up.
Do you feel a bit tired or run down? Are you catching frequent colds, or just feeling out of sorts? Got skin irritations?
What's going on in your life right now? Are you busy creating all sorts of fun things for other people? Are you stuck under the thumb of someone who's demanding you do not so fun things? Are you somewhere in between?
Whatever you're doing, where are you in your life? If you notice you don't bounce out of bed in the morning at 110% and expand out to 1100% as the day progresses, ask "Where am I in the list of priorities in my life?"
What if you were willing to nurture and care for you? What would it take for you to realise how crucial you are to the possibilities of the world?
Do you find yourself doing things you'd rather not? Sometimes even doing things you know are not good for you?
Do you do them because you've been told that not to do them would be shameful, that you'd be guilty of causing harm to others, or that you'd regret not doing them?
Are shame, guilt, and regret real and true? Or are they simply interesting points of view based on someone's view of right and wrong? Words designed to control you and coerce you into doing what other people want, while distracting you from creating the life you'd really like?
Other people will always try to get you to do stuff their way, using words to trick you into believing it's good for you.
If you'd like to be free from the control of distractors like this, ask "Is the thought of shame, guilt or regret distracting me from creating the life I'd truly like?" Then see how light you feel.
You may end up choosing to do exactly the same thing, but not because someone tricked you into it. It will be your free and conscious choice.
What generative energy, space and consciousness could I be today that would create the life I desire with ease and joy?
How much effort do you use to create the study, work, business, relationships, and life you'd like? A lot or a little?
Do you think creating what you'd like must be hard work and controlled, take time, and come with trials and errors, ups and downs?
What if, instead, you could create like elegantly? Elegance is the greatest result with the least effort. Would you consider that cheating? Or being smart?
If you'd like to generate your life with greater ease, everyday ask "What generative energy, space and consciousness could I be today that would create the life I desire with ease and joy?"
This will remind you to BE the energy of your desire, and will unplug you from the push/pull entrainment of the world around you.
Then you simply need to be willing to perceive, know, be and receive what the universe shows you. Are you willing to be that aware?
What do people around you talk about? Do they gossip and talk endlessly about the next instalment of the trauma and drama in their, or other people's lives? Do they usually focus on who did what bad thing to someone else? Or maybe they talk about hair, makeup, furniture, renovations, drinking, sports, cars, or some other 'desirable' objects?
Or course there is nothing wrong with these things if they're fun for you. So do you enjoy it and join in? Does it make you feel uncomfortable or get you down? Or are you simply puzzled why people spend their time talking about things like this?
If you're not enjoying the conversations around you ask "What do I enjoy talking about?" and notice what comes to mind. If you realise what you enjoy doesn't match what people around you are talking about, simply acknowledge it with "How interesting I don't enjoy this." Then gently extract yourself.
If you can't immediately remove yourself from the conversation, a smile, a nod, and interesting point of view energy will take you out of resist and react. What if by not engaging in the talk, you changed the conversation?
And you can always ask "What will it take for more fun people to come and play?" and find people who are more in your zone.
What does having children mean to you? Have you ever said "I'm never going to have children" or "I don't think I'd be a good parent"?
What does parenting mean to you? What have you decided being a parent has to be? Have you based that decision on what your parents, friends, relatives, neighbours, 'experts', or the media have told you?
Do these expectations about having children and becoming a parent feel light or heavy to you? Are you stressed or conflicted about what to do? How is this impacting on your relationships with your insignificant other?
Wht if you could create a different reality for you as a parent? A reality that was light, exciting and joyful?
If you'd like to find out, ask "What if being a parent wasn't what I thought it was?" and destroy and uncreate everything you have made real about what other people have told you.
Then get clear on the energy on the life you'd really like and see where that leads you.
Right now, who in your life are you doing your best to help, support, love, care for, work hard for, or contribute to?
Do you get the results you know are possible? Or are you saddened, disheartened, disappointed, puzzled, upset, frustrated, annoyed, or even angered by how little impact you seem to be having? Are they treating you like rubbish?
Who do you make wrong? Them, or you? Do you re-double your efforts and go out of your way to do whatever you think is required, to no effect? Do you feel like rubbish?
If you'd like to create a different possibility, ask "Have I made this person greater than me?" Then acknowledge how great YOU are, regardless of what others would have you believe?
What if no one were greater? What if everyone were just different, including that some people simply won't choose change, no matter how great you can see it could be?
Would you be willing to be the greatest you are first? And then invite others to come play?
Before you call the police on this one, let me ask you: where is your comfort zone? Is it on the stage? Or on the couch?
How many of these are outside your zone: singing loudly, speaking in public, telling your best friend something you know they won't like, doing something you know is morally right but goes against an "authority," saying NO to anyone?
What else? What activity makes your heart pound, your hands go clammy and your head think "ooooooooh noooooo....not that!"? That. Whatever that is, that's outside your comfort zone.
How much does having a comfort zone help you create the life you'd really like? A lot, a little, or not at all? How much time do you spend thinking about the things you won't do, avoiding situations you think you think might lead you out of your safety zone? And how much fun are you missing out on? Whose life are you living? Yours or someone else's?
If you'd like a peak at the possibilities that lie beyond, ask "What if I played outside my comfort zone?" and dip a toe outside it. What's the worse that can happen? People might laugh. And laughing is good, right? So what if you joined in?
What's the best that can happen? Well maybe you just might change the world and start living your own life.
Do you know people who always try to make you wrong? Who put you down for not being clever enough, fast enough, hard working enough, or just make fun of you to get a laugh?
How do you react? Do you take it on, believe it's true and start to think you are wrong, and feel guilty for not being good enough?
Would you like to stop that now, please?
If so, next time someone tries to make you wrong for something, smile at them, and remind yourself whatever they're saying, or doing has nothing to do with you. Ask silently "Does making other people wrong make you right?"
No. Some people are just mean because it's fun for them.
What if you could see their mean brilliance, without being the effect of it? Would that make your life easier?
Indeed. This has far too many exclamation marks to be a question. So let's call it a demand.
And let's talk about fun. How much do you have? What about the people you hang out with? Work? Family life? Is it all fun, or at least have fun bits to it? Whatever the case, would you like to increase your life's fun factor?
I'm assuming you said yes. So start by asking
"What fun can I add to my life?"
"How much fun can I have today?" and
"What will it take for more fun people to come and play?"
Then make the demand "Fun! Fun! Bring it on!"
What makes you laugh? Doing something silly like skipping around your desk or wiggling your bottom? Being told a lame joke? Jamming on the ukulele and singing loudly? Baking a cake? Getting a massage? Buying shoes? Playing golf? Lifting heavy weights? Talking to your cat?
Whatever that is for you, are you willing to demand more? Go on. I dare you.
How much do you trust yourself? A lot, a little, or not at all?
Do you allow yourself to create your life as you follow its energy? Or do you think you have to have it all mapped out, approved, signed, sealed and delivered before you can take the next step? You've got to have a business plan, approved by the bank and authorities. Directions and principles ratified by your boss, parents, insignificant other, or even your children?
After all this, how light do you feel about creating your life?
If you feel like you're trapped in concrete shoes and can't move until you're clear about your next step, ask "What if I trusted myself more?"
Who knows most about you and your life? Everyone else? Or YOU. What if your hesitation or confusion about what to do next was simply missing information? And what if you already had that information, but just hadn't found it yet? Are you ready to ask yourself for it now?
Do you sometimes feel like you have no options? For example, you have NO CHOICE but to look after your elderly parents, make your kids do homework, stay late at the office, cancel your holiday, pay for dinner, host the family at Christmas, get married, get a job, buy a house, have kids, stay at home, take a medicine, follow the rules.
There is nothing intrinsically wrong with any of these things. It's simply your point of view if you don't like something.
If your point of view is that you don't like it, and you'd prefer something else, instead of defaulting to the No Choice version of life, ask "Who or what is limiting my choices?"
Once you become clear about whether it's you, or someone or something else limiting your choices, you can ask more questions to create what you'd really like. For example, "What else is possible?" "What will it take for X to show up?" or "What action can I take?"
This is a free-will universe, remember? There is always choice. What if you stopped being your greatest limitation?
What does infinite mean to you? No limit? Endless? Abundant? More than you can imagine?
How many possibilities do you feel you have in your life right now? Lots, a few, not many, or the ones that will make my parents/ teachers/ boss/ partner/ children/ friends/ government happy?
Last time I checked with science, it said that we live in a free-will universe and we can choose freely. If that's true, then how can you not have infinite possibilities?
Who or what is limiting your choices? You, or someone else?
If you'd like to unleash the possibilities in your life, ask "What if I had unlimited possibilities?"
You may then need to ask more questions to generate specifics, like time, money, health and so on. This question is simply the first step to flush away your autopilot self-limitation, and to remind you that you always have a choice.
Do you have something you'd like to do, but are finding it tough to complete, or perhaps even start?
What's that for you? Pass an exam, get a job, run a business, buy a house, go on a holiday, meet a fun girl/boy to hang out with, have children, exercise, get up in the morning, relax at night, change the world?
And what about the not-so-much-fun stuff? For example, tell your parents something they don't know (uh-oh), quit/change schools, quit/change jobs, write something, host something, exercise, tell someone you're moving on, nurse someone in their decline, let go of a loved one, question the accepted narrative?
When did you decide life had to be hard and suffered? Would you like a life of fun and ease instead?
Ease does not mean laze. It means doing the most complex thing with the greatest joy and to the maximum effect. If so, ask "What if I could do this with ease?" and breeeeeeeathe.
Are you plagued by past events? Bugged by people who "did you wrong" somewhere, sometime, long ago? Do events and people from 1, 2, 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago seep into your dreams and shake you awake? Do you think "If only I'd done/said X it would have all been different?" Do you finally have the perfect retort?
If you'd like to be free of the past to enjoy your present, ask "What have I made significant about the past that isn't true?"
If you had not created your life exactly the way you have — including all the not-so-great episodes — would you be the same person you are now?
Would you prefer to be the now-you, or a different-you? If you are happy being the now-you, then remind yourself by asking "What if there was nothing wrong with my past?"
And if you'd prefer to be a different-you, you can be. Just choose it.
Who in your life have you made so perfect, so necessary that you let them walk all over you and sell you down the river?
Do you truly need anyone else in your life? Having people around can be a wonderful and fun experience. Do you need them? No, especially if you're their punching bag.
Why do you make some people indispensable, even though they're an ELF or a rattlesnake? To pay the rent? To be there for your kids? To manage your books? To have a coffee with? To save the free world?
Could you find other people to contribute those things in your life? Probably.
So if you find you are yet again being taken for a ride by someone you think is perfect, or necessary and you've told yourself you can't live without, ask "What am I refusing to see?"
You might just see that they are not as indispensable as you thought they were, and your life might get a whole lot easier. Allowance is not a doormat.
How old are you now? How old do you feel?
What do people tell you about age? About what will happen when you turn 13, 20, 30, 40, 50 60 and beyond?
Does every decade come with a set of rules that people tell you you'll follow: your body will change; you'll have mood swings; you'll be obsessed with sex; you'll want children; you'll be obsessed with sex; you'll get tired and fat; you'll lose interest in sex; you'll grow more and more wrinkly, weak, frail, confused and sick.
Have you ever see people that naturally look and act years, even decades younger than their physical age? And the reverse? So you know either option is possible. What makes the difference? And what if it were possible for you to choose your preferred option?
Like to find out? If so, ask "What if age did not mean what they say?" Then notice the stories other people like to tell you about what age means, and choose to listen to yourself — your body — about what you and it would prefer.
Do you still feel 5-18 years old? Then invite your body to feel that energy too and be it.
How comfortable are you in your skin?
Do you feel that you are the complete, natural expression of who you really are? Or do you sometimes feel confused or uncomfortable, not quite yourself?
Whenever you feel a little — or a lot — not like yourself, ask "Who am I trying to be?"
There is nothing wrong with acknowledging other people's greatness. But will unconsciously adopting other people's traits create that same greatness in you? Maybe. And you would adopt not-so-great traits for what reason?
This question will help you see more clearly the behaviour, thoughts, loves, fights, sacrifices, hopes, dreams, or other that are not naturally yours, that you are taking on as yours.
Once you can see them, you can let them go if they don't serve you and rediscover yourself. How? Ask "If I were me, who would I be?"
Do you sense the world is more complicated than you like? Do you feel compelled to make things more complex than you think necessary?
When you do a presentation at work, do you make it the simplest, cleanest, to-the-point version? Or do you feel obliged to add all the bells and whistles? When you write an essay for school, do you feel you have to include the most difficult sounding words and concepts? When you find people you like, do you try to impress them with how much you know?
Nothing wrong with complex if it's fun, easy, feels light, and works for you. And if it doesn't work, ask "What if simple were right for me?" Are you willing to be aware of what works for you — simple, complex, or in between — and choose that?
How much fun could you have by functioning elegantly: generating the greatest result with the least effort?
How often have you been told life is a rollercoaster? That you have to take the good with the bad? That without downs there would be no ups?
What if your life had no ups and downs? Do you think you'd flatlined? Have you decided that without the thrill of the up-down rollercoaster you'd be dead?
Do you enjoy being down? If not, then ask "What if my life just got better and better?
What makes your up times? What makes your down times? Is it what happens? Or is it your point of view about what happens and your willingness to change?
What if your point if view was that you could simply choose to be happe, without needing to be unhappy, to experience the difference?
What if you remembered to ask "What's rights about this that I'm not getting?"
What if happiness were just a choice?
You're smart, you work hard, you got good grades at school, you help your family nicely, you've got a great job, everyone says your partner is perfect, your kids are healthy and happy, you've got enough money, a nice place to live, a sexy car, some good investments, and enviable mini-breaks and maxi get-aways a few times a year.
Your life is perfect. And even if you can only claim one or two of these things, you're doing pretty well, right?
So what do you do if you have all these things, and yet somehow feel something is missing?
There is nothing wrong with these things. They can certainly be fun. So if you have all of these things — or more! — and you're not having fun, perhaps you've made them mean something they're not?
If so, ask "What have I misidentified as living?"
What if you could enjoy these things as well as create your life the way you'd like? How? Ask another question.
How much time do you spend second guessing whether you'll fail at something or not? Do you say "I'd like to do it, but I probably won't be any good" or "I'll give it a go, but I'm sure I won't do very well?" Some of this may be because you think you shouldn't big-note yourself.
How much of it do you end up believing?
There is nothing wrong with this point of view. Be aware, that your point of view creates your reality. So if you think you'll be no good, then you're absolutely correct.
If you'd like to create a different reality — an expansive, can-do reality full of possibility, then start with a different point of view. Start by asking "What if success were the only option?"
What is the definintion of success? That's up to you. How have you defined success? What if by being clear on what you'd truly like as your life and living, then success IS the only option?
What do you think you can't do? Speak publicly? Learn another language? Speak publicly in another language? Run a business? Lead a team? Understand the law? Change things that are not working for you? Trust what you know in the face of opposition?
Do you tell yourself you're afraid of something? Making a mistake? People laughing at you? Failure? Ruining your life forever and dying alone and poor?
Is any of that true? Or are they all just interesting points of view you bought from someone, somewhere, sometime?
It doesn't matter where your points of view came from, how well do they serve you? Do they help you create the life you'd really like? If not, ask "What's the value of saying I can't do it?"
If there's no value, you are hanging on to that point of view for what reason? What if instead you asked another questions, like "What will it take for me to do this with ease?"
How many relationships do you have? Friends, colleagues, family, a partner?
How are they going? Are you suffering things you'd rather not because you think you have to maintain your relationships?
Will that help? Maybe. Maybe not. Is it fun to suffer? Or would you rather enjoy life with other fun people?
Are you committed to making your relationships work NO MATTER WHAT, because YOU CAN DO IT and to do otherwise would be to fail? Perhaps you have decided that he/she is The One and your rose-coloured glasses don't allow you to see things as they really are?
If you'd like to see you, the other person, and your relationship more clearly ask "What am I pretending not to know?"
You already know what will be the greatest contribution to your life; you're just pretending you don't.
What fixed points of view do you have about who and what you have to be/ do/ have/ think in life?
For example, I have to get married because my mother expects it. I can't take a year off school to travel because my father wouldn't like it. I have to get into that organisation because otherwise I'll be a failure. I have to cook dinner every night otherwise I'll be a bad parent. I can't be nice because the tough kids will make fun of me. I can't speak my mind because people will call me a "Karen." I have to believe everything other people tell me or I'll have no friends.
Do you spend all your energy, time and money on this hamster wheel? Is it fun? Does it create the happiness you'd like?
If not, ask "What could be possible if I changed my point of view?"
What if every "I have to" and "I can't" were just points of view that you could change? What point of view would you start with?
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