Do you actively choose to create every moment of your life every day?
What about when you're confronted with a challenging situation, when there are things you'd prefer to avoid, or even whole systems you'd like to change? Do you choose to stand up, to be seen and heard? Or do you choose to 'do nothing,' to sit quietly by, hoping it'll go away or change on its own?
When you choose to do nothing, are you really 'doing nothing'? No. Energy never disappears, it simply changes form. So when you choose not to do something (which you may call 'choosing to do nothing'), or you don't choose to take action, you are by default choosing the opposite.
In other words, when you think you're choosing 'nothing,' you are in fact handing over your life choices to anyone who chooses to make them for you.
Brain frozen? Probably. If you'd like to keep a firm grip on the reins of your life, whenever you find you're thinking of 'doing nothing' ask yourself "Am I choosing to live?"
Then ask yourself "What action could I take to create life I'd like?" No matter how small, choose it, just as long as it's not 'nothing.'
Thanks to Tom Barnett http://www.tombarnett.tv for this question.
How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?"
What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.)
Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates.
Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else.
When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it.
What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then?
How many layers of protective personality do you find yourself wearing to suit every situation?
For example, the good son/daughter, the generous parent, the smart student, the diligent employee, the kind woman, the strong man, the understanding sibling, the polite stranger, the charismatic leader, the good-hearted volunteer? What else?
How do you feel under all those layers? Light and breezy? Or a bit heavy and stifled?
If you'd like to shed a few tonne, ask "What if I didn't need a facade?" What if you were, well just simply, you in ever situation? This is who you are and others can accept that, or not.
Would you feel lighter, like caked on makeup or mud has been washed away after how many decades? Would your real smile finally be seen? What amazing changes might that create?
And even if some people leave your life because they decide the real you is not for them, what other amazing people might show up?
On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away?
Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like.
Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?"
Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities?
How do you make choices? Do you choose something, see what shows up, then make another choice? Or do you weigh up the pros and cons, considering what you need or don't need, trying to work out what is right or wrong?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense when making choices? If you feel heavy, then you may be limiting your choices based on pros/cons, needs/don't need, and right/wrong.
A simple way to step out of the pro/con/need/right/wrong limitation is to ask yourself "What choices are available that I haven't considered?"
Are you willing to consider that there are no pros/cons, need/don't need, or right/wrong choices? What if a choice was just a choice, an act to create awareness?
When you make a choice, you'll have an awareness, and then you'll get to make another choice. Every ten seconds.
Choosing from pro/con/necessity/right/wrong is a no choice universe. What amazing adventures could you have if you created your life from an infinite choice universe instead?
What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
How many people tell you what to do or think every day, directly or indirectly? No one, a few people or almost everyone?
Who are they? Parents, family, friends, neighbours, community leaders, governments, the media and other complete strangers?
When you do what they tell you to do, how do you feel? Breezy and light? Great!
Did you know that sometimes people tell you to do something for a reason that has nothing to do with what they're actually telling you to do? So if you have a sense of discomfort or heaviness, and you'd like clarity about the truth of what's going on, ask yourself "What are they really trying to get me to do?"
When you get clear on the true aim of what people are trying to get you to do, your heaviness should lighten. Then choose for you.
How do you define you? Are you just you: doing, thinking, creating, being as you prefer? Or are you something else?
If it's something else, ask yourself "What if relationship wasn't what I thought it was?"
How much of your life have you defined yourself by your relationship to everyone and everything around you? How much of what you have been choosing to do, think, create, have you defined by where you stand in relation to others? Have you been choosing based on what that choice will create for you, or for someone else?
Does choosing based on relationship feel light or heavy? Expansive or limited?
What amazing things could you create if you gave up all relationship to everyone and everything and just be you?
Are you looking for elders to give you answers? People older, more experienced, better educated, 'professionals' to tell you what to do?
Is that working for you? If not, ask yourself "What can I be or do different today?"
'Different' is not the same as 'differently.' Differently is doing the same thing in different ways. Different is outside anything you or others have ever considered.
Do other people — even the most experienced, educated or professional — know you? And do they really care about your wellbeing and abundance? Or are they mainly concerned about their own?
What about you? Are you really seeking an answer from other people? Or are you seeking to create a difference?
How often do you find yourself in a no-win argument or heated discussion? You've got all the facts at your finger tips, but others are simply not listening.
Or perhaps you're finding that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating to you about things, as if you have no idea?
If you do and would like to change this, ask yourself "Am I dumber than dirt?"
Dirt knows what it is; do you? Dirt doesn't have to prove how smart it is.
What could you create if you weren't fixated on proving yourself to someone who simply doesn't care?
Do you find yourself often depressed?
Do you enjoy being depressed? Does it work for you? If it does, no problem.
If not and you'd like not to be depressed ask yourself "Is this depression mine, or someone else's?" When it lightens, say "Return to sender with consciousness."
Maybe you've grown up with a parent who was depressed and tried to take the depression away from them? Perhaps you're surrounded by a world of people overflowing with despair and you're body is soaking it up?
Whatever the source, it doesn't matter. If it's not yours, just ask it to leave.
On the other hand, if you're choosing depression ask yourself "What if instead of spending all my energy to create depression, I simply enjoyed my day?"
And if none of that changes your depression, ask "What do I love about this?" and "What's the value of this?"
Do you have someone in your life who is choosing to do things to themselves that you know will hurt them?
Have you tried everything to make them listen to you and stop? Has it worked?
If not, ask yourself "What if I truly cared?" True caring is allowing someone to do exactly what they choose to do until they choose to change or die. None of that is your fault. And if they change their behaviour, it is their choice and not because you told, convinced, bribed, coerced or forced them to do it.
Be aware that when you totally care for someone, you can create the same issues for yourself. How? You'll notice their problems, duplicate them as a way to figure out how to fix them, then you'll forget that the problems weren't yours to begin with, and you'll be stuck with them. In this case, simply ask "Who does this belong to? Return to sender with consciousness."
Have you ever noticed yourself striving to have someone else — your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your partner, your kids, or even random strangers — see you and acknowledge you and what you're doing?
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else?
Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation?
If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop.
Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time.
Are you waiting for something to show up, or someone to do something for you, before moving forward with your life?
Maybe you've heard rumours that the government or your company will make changes to benefit you, and you're waiting for that before doing anything?
Or perhaps you're pinning your hopes and dreams on someone appearing in your life to make it better?
While you've waiting, how's your life going? Are you creating it the way you'd like? Or do you feel stuck, frozen or stagnated, waking up every day hoping you can move forward again?
If you'd like to get your life moving again, ask "What if I didn't need to wait to create my life?"
Remember, you're an infinite being with infinite free choice. What amazing new life could you create simply by choosing for you and taking action? *No waiting required.
The reality is, you always have a choice.
When someone tells you to do something, and you do it, you are choosing to do what they tell you. Another choice would be to look at what they're telling you, see how light it feels for you, and say "Thanks for the suggestion. That doesn't work for me right now. I'm choosing something else."
How many things are you choosing now based on what someone else is telling you? None, a few, a lot, or everything in your life?
If you're completely happy with your life the way it is right now, great! If not, and you realise you've been choosing to be controlled by other people, ask yourself "Am I willing to create a completely new reality on planet earth?"
Remember, you're an infinite being with infinite free choice. What amazing new reality could you create simply by choosing for you?
Do you ever feel obliged to act on, or speak out about something in life? You see something that needs to be done, or said, and you wade in with your abundant energy, experience and professionalism, sleeves rolled up ready to get things organised and put things right?
How does that work out for you? Do you find yourself overloaded with obligations? Dragged into no-win fights? Frustrated that you can see the most elegant of outcomes, if only the ducks would let you line them up?
If you'd prefer to have the ducks line up without being asked, ask yourself "What truth could I see if I observed?"
You have to be willing to observe to see what's true. When you can see what — and who — is true, you'll be able to side-step all the distractions, roadblocks, obstacles, bullies, gaslighters, trolls, demons and more to reach your destination 1000 times faster than the speed of light.
Ducks may even cooperate without being asked.
How many people do you see fighting everyday? In the world, your neighbourhood, your city, your country, and across the planet? People focused entirely on using logic, facts, science, persuasion, coercion, bribery, blackmail and trickery to have everyone agree that their point of view is right, and to condemn that all other points of view are wrong?
Pretty much everyone, all the time, right?
What does this create for you, for the world? Peace, joy, happiness, and the life you'd truly like? Or does it create endless fighting and limitation? Could the ultimate toxic waste on the planet be the anger, rage, fury and hate that people deliver to each other daily?
What change could you create if you functioned from allowance, where everything is an "interesting point of view" with no agreement or alignment (positive polarity) or resistance and reaction (negative polarity)?
When everything is just an interesting point of view, you have the freedom to create choice in your life, in the world.
Freedom to create choice by being in allowance is the most valuable thing on the planet. Are you willing to be it? If you'd like to find out, ask "Am I willing to be the most valuable thing on the planet?"
Then every time anyone says anything or seeks to drag you into a fight through alignment and agreement or resistance and reaction, smile and say "interesting point of view."
Breath, then make a choice and ask a question.
How often do you share your point of view about something — how to do something, where to go, who to work with, when to do something, what to write/say/do — but someone else comes in and tells you/everyone their different point of view and somehow you end up feeling wrong or useless?
Do you then go along with that different point of view, to please them/everyone? And how does that work out for you? Always, sometimes, not often, or never at all?
If you'd like to reduce/eradicate the number of times it never works out for you, ask yourself "Am I willing to know when I'm correct?"
Then whenever you have an awareness about something, regardless of what other people say, choose what you know to be correct for you.
Have you ever had someone judge you for doing something — that you knew was not true — and wondered if they were actually talking about what they were doing? For example, when a partner accuses you of cheating on them (and you know you're not), did it occur to you that they might be doing the cheating?
Did you know that people will accuse you of the things they're doing, or about to do, so you won't see what's actually going on? Instead of seeing the truth about what's going on (which is usually quite obvious), you'll be distracted by compulsion to fight and defend yourself, or you'll slink away feeling bad and wrong about yourself.
When this happens, do you get angry? Anger in these circumstances can indicate a lie: the lie the other person is telling.
So, if you'd like to stay aware of what is going on and extract yourself from someone's control, ask yourself "Does this anger indicate a lie?" If you sense it does, all you need to do is to notice your anger, recognise the accusation is a lie, don't buy it as real, and you won't be impacted by it.
Be in allowance of them and you. Don't defend or judge it because if you align and agree, or resist and react, you are buying it as true. Instead ask questions. "What is this? Would I like to change it? Can I change it? If so how? You may not have to do anything. You may simply have to acknowledge it to change it.
And, if you'd like to have some fun and get yourself off auto-pilot. play this game in your head. Whenever someone says "You are mean" tell yourself "Aaah, they're telling me they are mean" or when someone says "You judge me all the time" tell yourself "Aaah, they are telling me they judge themselves/me all the time" And so on. Play with it. At worst it might just keep you distracted from being distracted.
Do you ever find yourself trying to prove something? Spouting lists of facts to show how smart you are? Working 80 hours a week to prove you're successful? Spending all your money on the latest fashion so others will think you're attractive? Exhausting yourself on something to prove you're the best at it, whatever that is (best parent, best worker, best volunteer, best friend etc).
Do you ever really feel smart, successful, attractive or the best at what you're doing? If not, ask "What's the opposite of what I'm trying to prove?"
When you're trying to prove something, your real point of view about yourself is the opposite. And the more you hold that point of view, the more it solidifies.
What if you didn't need to prove anything? What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if being exactly who you are could change the world?
What if all you had to do was change your point of view?
If you ever sense strange, heavy, dense or contracted energy, or you're continually stuck in choosing bad relationships, no money, sickness or something else, ask yourself "Have I invited in demons?"
A demon is an entity that has the job of contributing energy to whatever you are choosing, particularly when you make someone or something greater than you, but you are actually seek to have power over it. Like when you put your partner on a pedestal, then make them wrong for leaving the pedestal.
That's a demon's job: to get power over. Be aware, a demon's job of getting power over includes you. So while they may serve you at first, you will ultimately be under their control and may find you're unable to create the things you'd really like.
You may have consciously or unconsciously invited one in to help you get power over your relationships, money, health or any other aspect of your life. Inviting one in opens a door for others to follow.
So if you sense you may have invited demons into your life, and you'd prefer they leave now, simply demand "Go back from whence you came, never to return to me or this reality ever again." Repeat this as many times as you need until the strange, heavy, dense or contracted energy disappears. This is not hard or fearful. You just have to choose it, demand it, and they will have to leave.
Are you amazed at the miracle you be? Or have you decided that you're nothing special or good-for-nothing?
Whatever your point of view about yourself is, you're not wrong. Remember, your point of view creates your reality.
So if you're not ecstatically happy with your life and living, and would prefer an amazing, miraculous life, then ask "What miracle am I that could change this?"
What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you simply needed to change your point of view?
How often do you stop yourself from doing something you'd prefer to do, or that you know is the light choice for you? Never, sometimes, or all the time?
When you stop yourself, are you limiting your choices based on what your parents, teachers, religious or other authority figures, friends, or even strangers have decided you should do what they tell you?
If you'd prefer to create your life from unlimited choices, ask "What if I gave myself permission?"
Then you can choose for you. You may still make the same choice your parents/teachers/authority figures/friends/strangers would have had you make. The difference is that you now have access to unlimited possibilities, free from the limitations other people try to impose on you to control you.
After all, who's living your life and who knows what's best for you: them or you?
How are you feeling today? Light and breezy? Or heavy and clunky?
What bodily sensation do you prefer? Which bodily state allows you to create everything you'd like? Does one bog you down, or speed you up?
When you are light, remember that whatever is going on in your life is right for you. The exact same situation might not be right for someone else, and they may feel clunky.
So if feeling light gives you ease and enables you to create your life greater than you could imagine, ask "Am I light?" whenever you're choosing something or taking action.
If you sense a heaviness, then simply ask a question about what else you could be choosing.
Do you find yourself allowing other people to walk all over you? You're in allowance of all their points of view and judgements, smiling, listening, asking questions.
Perhaps you're hoping that one day they might listen back to you, ask you a question or two, and see your point of view?
The 'oneness' of our infinite free will universe includes everything and judges nothing. This includes meanness, gaslighting, belittling, and a vast array of behaviours you may not find enjoyable, but others do. Oneness also includes infinite choice, including your ability to choose what you enjoy.
So next time you're not enjoying being walked over by meanness, gaslighting, belittling or any other unpleasant behaviour, ask yourself "Am I being a doormat?"
If you sense you are, then remember you can simply smile, walk away, and choose something else.
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