Are you looking for elders to give you answers? People older, more experienced, better educated, 'professionals' to tell you what to do?
Is that working for you? If not, ask yourself "What can I be or do different today?"
'Different' is not the same as 'differently.' Differently is doing the same thing in different ways. Different is outside anything you or others have ever considered.
Do other people — even the most experienced, educated or professional — know you? And do they really care about your wellbeing and abundance? Or are they mainly concerned about their own?
What about you? Are you really seeking an answer from other people? Or are you seeking to create a difference?
How often do you find yourself in a no-win argument or heated discussion? You've got all the facts at your finger tips, but others are simply not listening.
Or perhaps you're finding that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating to you about things, as if you have no idea?
If you do and would like to change this, ask yourself "Am I dumber than dirt?"
Dirt knows what it is; do you? Dirt doesn't have to prove how smart it is.
What could you create if you weren't fixated on proving yourself to someone who simply doesn't care?
You can have both a judgement and an awareness about anything, positive, negative, and everything in between and beyond.
So what's the difference? A judgement will cement your point of view, limit possibilities, and solidify the existence of whatever you're judging.
Awareness is just that: awareness. You can see what is, and then when you ask a question about it, you create possibilities.
A judgement will have a positive or negative charge on it, while an awareness will have no charge at all. Another difference is that judgement requires time, while awareness is instantaneous.
And you can always ask yourself "Is this a judgement, or an awareness?"
Do you have something in your world right now that you consider right/wrong?
If it's wrong, are you trying to fix it and make it right? If it's right, are you trying hard to not let it go wrong?
How much freedom do you sense when you do this? Does your judgement of things being right/wrong expanding your possibilities or limiting them?
If you'd like greater possibility to create beyond what you can imagine, ask "What if right and wrong were just interesting point of view?"
Then next time to find yourself agreeing/aligning (right) or resisting/reaction (wrong) to something, instead say "Mmmm, this is interesting. What else is possible here?"
What could you create by stepping out of judgement and into the allowance of interesting point of view?.
What's going on in your life right now? Do you have something you'd like to change?
Whatever that is, have you asked lots of questions, done the research, poked into every corner, talked to a million people, and taken action?
Where did you get? Are you inspired, energised and creating the change you're seeking?
Or are you confused, demotivated, and stuck feeling helpless and not knowing what to do next?
If you're stuck, ask yourself "What if this wasn't an answer? What if this was a possibility?"
When you ask a question, you'll get a response. If you make the response an "answer," you'll only create a finite limitation.
What if nothing was an "answer" and everything was a possibility? What change could you create then?
What points of view do you have about your body? Are you happy with it? Do you tolerate it at best? Or maybe you outright hate it?
How's your body doing? Does it serve you well? Are you fit and healthy? Maybe it has a few aches and pains? Or perhaps you have a chronic illness, or are even near death?
Think of a pet or a plant. Scientific studies show that when you project happy positive actions and thoughts toward your pet or plant, they thrive.
And if not, well...no prizes for guessing what happens.
Whatever is going on with your body, if you'd like to create something even better, ask "What if I loved my body?"
Sometimes when you interact with people or are in certain situations, do you find yourself saying "interesting point of view" with clenched teeth and a little bit of heat?
If so, ask yourself "Am I doing tolerance and patience?"
Tolerance is what you do when you're frustrated, but you let whatever is going on go through its process, even thought you're not happy about it. When you're tolerant, you are agreeing to suffer in silence.
Patience is when you're waiting for someone or something to change, while you're sitting in judgement of it not changing. Have you ever put your life on hold until something changes? While you put you're life on hold, you have no choice. You are sitting in judgement, vested in the outcome.
So when you notice heat while saying or thinking "interesting point of view" be aware that you may have a judgement of something. Then, without making yourself wrong, say "Interesting point of view I have that point of view."
Total allowance is to acknowledge what's going on and being willing to choose for you and not wait for or put up with whatever else is going on.
Do you find yourself often depressed?
Do you enjoy being depressed? Does it work for you? If it does, no problem.
If not and you'd like not to be depressed ask yourself "Is this depression mine, or someone else's?" When it lightens, say "Return to sender with consciousness."
Maybe you've grown up with a parent who was depressed and tried to take the depression away from them? Perhaps you're surrounded by a world of people overflowing with despair and you're body is soaking it up?
Whatever the source, it doesn't matter. If it's not yours, just ask it to leave.
On the other hand, if you're choosing depression ask yourself "What if instead of spending all my energy to create depression, I simply enjoyed my day?"
And if none of that changes your depression, ask "What do I love about this?" and "What's the value of this?"
How much evil, meanness and ugliness can you see in the world? Not much, a bit, or everywhere you look?
When you see evil, meanness and ugliness, what do you do? Do you resist and react to it, trying to fix it? How does that work out?
If you'd like greater ease and possibility, ask yourself "What if evil, mean and ugly were just a choice?" Now breath.
People choose to do evil, mean and ugly things all the time just because they can. When you are able to see all the evil, meanness and ugliness in the world and recognise that it is all simply an interesting point of view — it's not right or wrong, or good or bad, it's just a choice people make — then you will no longer be the effect of it.
When you are the effect of something, how free are you to create the changes you'd really like? When you resist and react to something, do you dissipate, or solidify the thing you're reacting to?
What if by being in total allowance of everything — including the evil, mean & ugly — you created more possibilities for the world you desire than you ever imagined?
Do you have someone in your life who is choosing to do things to themselves that you know will hurt them?
Have you tried everything to make them listen to you and stop? Has it worked?
If not, ask yourself "What if I truly cared?" True caring is allowing someone to do exactly what they choose to do until they choose to change or die. None of that is your fault. And if they change their behaviour, it is their choice and not because you told, convinced, bribed, coerced or forced them to do it.
Be aware that when you totally care for someone, you can create the same issues for yourself. How? You'll notice their problems, duplicate them as a way to figure out how to fix them, then you'll forget that the problems weren't yours to begin with, and you'll be stuck with them. In this case, simply ask "Who does this belong to? Return to sender with consciousness."
Do you always find you don't have the money you'd like? Not even the money you need?
If so, ask yourself "What do I love about having no money?" Whatever that is, will you give it up?
When you ask yourself this question, you may have an awareness. For example, it may be points of view you have bought from your family or friends. You love fitting in and so have decided to agree to their points of view about what money means. Are they your preferred points of view? No? Then give them up.
Or maybe you have your own points of view. For example, you love having no money so you can get up every day and work like a maniac to prove to the world you're a 'good provider'? Or perhaps you love people taking pity on you and giving you everything so you don't have to work at all?
And any and all point of view in between and beyond.
You don't need to know what it is to give it up. Just give be willing to give it up. Then you'll be free to choose for you.
How much of your day do you spend judging things? Never, sometimes or constantly?
What's judgement? Any point of view you have about something being good/bad or right/wrong is a judgement. You know, when you think "Oh, that's no good" or "If only people would think/do this instead?" Or whenever someone else says something and you agree and align, or resist and reaction, you are in judgement.
There is nothing wrong with judging things, if that's fun for you. Be aware, however, that judging will only serve to distract you from being present in every moment and so limit your possibilities.
If you'd like to find out what is possible beyond the limitation of judgement, ask yourself "What if I judged nothing?" Nothing includes you and everyone else.
Then no matter what you or anyone else does, says, or thinks, smile and say to yourself "Interesting point of view" in total allowance.
After a while, you will become interesting point of view where you can see all possibilities, receive everything, and create the life you desire, free from the polarity of judgement.
How? Follow the energy, choose, notice what you create/shows up, then choose again. Repeat.
Have you grown up thinking that honesty is the best policy? Do you always seek to tell people what you know to be true?
How has that working for you? If it's not easy sailing, ask yourself "What if honesty wasn't what I thought it was?"
When you tell people what you think they ought to hear, because you know it to be true, are you considering their point of view, their truth or their reality? Or are you telling them your point of view, your truth and your reality?
When you dump your points of view on top of someone, how much space do they have for themselves? Do they enjoy being hemmed in under your pile of truth and ask you for more? Or do they kick it off and run away?
What if instead of being bluntly honest with other people, you be bluntly honest with yourself, and only tell people what they are capable of hearing?
Or even ask them a question instead?
How easily are you able to share your ideas with people with out them laughing at you/walking away/rolling their eyes/calling you crazy? Do you often get into heated discussions where the other person point-blank refuses to listen to you?
Would you prefer greater ease with talking to people about things that you're interested in? If so, ask yourself "Am I willing to tell people only what they can hear?"
Then next time you start a conversation with someone, instead of blowing their head off with the godzillion amazing things you know, ask them a question like "So what's new and interesting for you?" Then listen and wait until they ask you a question.
When they do — with kindness, allowance and awareness — ask them another question about something you're interested in, such as "Right now I'm working on X. Have you had anything to do with that?" Then listen and wait until they ask you another question.
Telling people what they can hear from kindness, allowance and awareness is different from not wanting to be judged for what you say. It's a gentle way of being that honours what they can receive and allows their head to stay in one piece. And they may even just hear something you have to say.
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