How many points of view do you have about what is good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Probably quite a few, if not all, give that is how we are currently entrained to operate.
Consider this: does the earth consider anything good/bad, right/wrong, significant/meaningless? Is nature in a constant state of anger, rage, fury and hate over 'important' issues?
No. The earth is in total allowance of everything. It has no point of view about its inhabitants. Certainly volcanos erupt, earthquakes happen, animals eat other animals, and all these things occur without judgement or significance.
If people did not exist, would the earth continue to be abundant and generative? Absolutely.
So if you would prefer an abundant and generative life like earth, ask "Am I making this significant?" Then whenever you notice you're making something significant, laugh lightly and repeat "interesting point of view" to move you from the limited denseness of significance into the infinite freedom of allowance.
How often do you hear someone say "good on you, you deserve that"? How often do you say it?
What does deserve mean to you? That you have to sacrifice or suffer to receive something? Some dictionary definitions are: to serve something zealously, to earn, to be worthy of, and to merit.
Consider this: does anything in nature 'deserve' what it receives? Do the birds need to be worthy of something to eat, drink and live a free life? No. So why should you have to?
If you'd prefer to live a joyous life, with ease and abundance, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to deserve?" What if instead of sacrifice and suffering, you choose to consciously create your life being the greatest contribution you can be?
And who exactly is reinforcing the idea that you should 'serve' them 'zealously'?
Do you ever feel tired, worried, drained, or simply at a loss as what to do?
If so, ask "What if I connected with nature?" Then go out in person and do it. Walk in the park. Hug a tree. Chat to the birds. Take your shoes and socks off and get your feet on the ground.
The worse that will happen is you'll get dirt on your feet. The best is your whole life may change. And at the very least, your body will thank you for the fresh air, sunlight and blood pumping around your body making you stronger and your mind clearer.
Have you ever considered the perfect, balanced, strong, simplicity of nature abundant with naturally replenishing resources? Ever noticed that every part of nature — with the exception of modern-day humans — can have everything it needs for an abundant life without needing to 'deserve' or pay for it?
What if you could have that too? What would that take? It all starts simply by connecting with nature and asking the question.
Are you a serious person, deeply concerned about family, community, and world affairs? Are you always focused, earnest, and diligent?
How much do you laugh with sheer delight and joy? Not much? Perhaps you decided somewhere consciously or unconsciously that to laugh is to be frivolous?
If so, and you'd like another possibility as yourself "What could my laughter contribute?"
What if instead of going about your life carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, you laughed your way through with a lightness of being as you create your lived adventure? What could the vibration of your laughter heal?
For example, next time you find yourself in a heated 'debate' (fight), instead of getting all cranky pants and righteous, what if you burst out giggling with real joy and said "You know what, you're probably right. Goodness I make myself laugh sometimes!" Then smile and walk away.
What crinkles in the universe could your laughter make for new possibilities to squeeze through?
How often do you get upset? Have you ever considered you never need to be upset? It might seem a strange idea at first, given most of the world, and all of the media, runs on trauma, drama, upset, intrigue and struggle. The truth is, you can if you choose.
Simply start by asking yourself "What if I never needed to be upset?"
What is upset? Upset, trauma, drama, anger, intrigue and struggle can show up for various reasons. For example, you enjoy it, it entertains you, and so you create it. Nothing wrong with that if it's fun for you. (The media, for example, LOVES it.)
Upset can also show up when you're missing information. In this case, simply ask for clarity, for example "I'm sorry, I'm not clear on what you mean exactly?" Then listen, and ask more questions until the upset dissipates.
Another source of upset is simply that you're being someone else.
When you're totally aware and in allowance, where everything is just an interesting point of view, you will never need to be controlled, limited, or distracted by upset. Unless you enjoy and choose it.
What if you were always so aware that you never cut off your awareness? What life would you create then?
What would you you like to create or change in your life right now? Whatever that is, are you looking to create or change it because you've decided it would be 'good' to, or 'bad' not to?
If so, and you prefer limitless rather than limited possibilities, ask "Have I decided this is good/bad?" If you notice you have, say "Interesting point of view I have that point of view. Now what else is possible?"
Good and bad are points of view. There is nothing wrong with having a point of view as long as you are aware that it is an "interesting point of view," that you change every ten seconds if you choose.
When you lock yourself into a judgement that a point of view is good/bad, right/wrong, you will only be able to see things that fit within the narrow polarised band of that judgement. Every other possibility will be excluded.
Be aware that a positive point of view can be as limiting as a negative point of view. Once you decide something is right, you may end up spending the rest of your life making it right...or being married to it.
On a scale of minus infinity to infinity, how powerful do you feel right now?
Who or what have you decided is more powerful than you? Is that true? Or is it an interesting point of view you've agreed and aligned with? Or perhaps you've decided it's better, or easier to give your power away?
Other people will always try to dis-empower you so they can control you and get you to do what they'd like.
Remember, a question empowers, so if you'd prefer to have the power to create your life the way you'd like, simply start with a question and ask yourself "What if I wasn't powerless?"
Truth, are you an infinite being with infinite choice and possibilities?
What's the difference between feeling comfortable and uncomfortable?
When you're comfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into maintaining your comfort?
When you're uncomfortable, what do you do? Do you strive with intensity to create your life greater than it is? Or do you do settle into complaining about not being comfortable?
If you'd like to harness the intense energy of discomfort to create your life greater than it is, ask yourself "What if being uncomfortable was my best friend?"
Are you willing to acknowledge being uncomfortable as an awareness that your life can be greater?
What if when you're feeling highly uncomfortable you said "ah, just a little further to go!" and smile knowing that you're almost to the point of becoming something greater than you've ever been, and continue to choose it, ask questions, and take action?
You'll know when you go beyond the uncomfortable place, as you'll suddenly be totally comfortable and everything will be bigger and better than it ever was before. You can settle into that. Or you can continue to create more. All just choices.
What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion.
Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear.
Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?"
There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum.
It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing?
To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?"
And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?"
Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot.
Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change.
When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them?
How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?"
Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears?
Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side.
Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better?
What do you do when something goes 'wrong' for you? For example, you've asked a question, made a choice, had an awareness, followed the energy...and then things didn't turn out how you thought they would.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice?
If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?"
There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found.
What points of view do you have about your body? Are you happy with it? Do you tolerate it at best? Or maybe you outright hate it?
How's your body doing? Does it serve you well? Are you fit and healthy? Maybe it has a few aches and pains? Or perhaps you have a chronic illness, or are even near death?
Think of a pet or a plant. Scientific studies show that when you project happy positive actions and thoughts toward your pet or plant, they thrive.
And if not, well...no prizes for guessing what happens.
Whatever is going on with your body, if you'd like to create something even better, ask "What if I loved my body?"
Do you find yourself often depressed?
Do you enjoy being depressed? Does it work for you? If it does, no problem.
If not and you'd like not to be depressed ask yourself "Is this depression mine, or someone else's?" When it lightens, say "Return to sender with consciousness."
Maybe you've grown up with a parent who was depressed and tried to take the depression away from them? Perhaps you're surrounded by a world of people overflowing with despair and you're body is soaking it up?
Whatever the source, it doesn't matter. If it's not yours, just ask it to leave.
On the other hand, if you're choosing depression ask yourself "What if instead of spending all my energy to create depression, I simply enjoyed my day?"
And if none of that changes your depression, ask "What do I love about this?" and "What's the value of this?"
How much evil, meanness and ugliness can you see in the world? Not much, a bit, or everywhere you look?
When you see evil, meanness and ugliness, what do you do? Do you resist and react to it, trying to fix it? How does that work out?
If you'd like greater ease and possibility, ask yourself "What if evil, mean and ugly were just a choice?" Now breath.
People choose to do evil, mean and ugly things all the time just because they can. When you are able to see all the evil, meanness and ugliness in the world and recognise that it is all simply an interesting point of view — it's not right or wrong, or good or bad, it's just a choice people make — then you will no longer be the effect of it.
When you are the effect of something, how free are you to create the changes you'd really like? When you resist and react to something, do you dissipate, or solidify the thing you're reacting to?
What if by being in total allowance of everything — including the evil, mean & ugly — you created more possibilities for the world you desire than you ever imagined?
Have you ever noticed yourself striving to have someone else — your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your partner, your kids, or even random strangers — see you and acknowledge you and what you're doing?
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else?
Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation?
If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop.
Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time.
The reality is, you always have a choice.
When someone tells you to do something, and you do it, you are choosing to do what they tell you. Another choice would be to look at what they're telling you, see how light it feels for you, and say "Thanks for the suggestion. That doesn't work for me right now. I'm choosing something else."
How many things are you choosing now based on what someone else is telling you? None, a few, a lot, or everything in your life?
If you're completely happy with your life the way it is right now, great! If not, and you realise you've been choosing to be controlled by other people, ask yourself "Am I willing to create a completely new reality on planet earth?"
Remember, you're an infinite being with infinite free choice. What amazing new reality could you create simply by choosing for you?
What do you do when something goes 'wrong'? Do you think clearly and ask yourself calmly "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Or do you get upset?
What happens when you get upset? Does your awareness expand, or contract? Can you see and create more, or less?
There is nothing wrong with being upset. Choose it if it's fun for you.
If you'd prefer to be free of trauma and drama and have greater possibilities, ask "What choices would I have if I weren't upset?"
What if by living from allowance — where everything is simply an interesting point of view — trauma and drama and upset and intrigue vanished, no one and nothing could control you, and everything in your life got easier? Would that be fun?
Do you feel anxious or stressed about finding an answer to something you've decided is a problem?
When the thing or person you've decided is the answer doesn't turn out like you'd hoped or dreamt, what do you do?
Do you ask a question, take action, make a choice?
Or do you react by spiralling into uncertainty, inaction, depression, rage, blame, shame, guilt, regret or any other distraction? If so, and you'd like to change this reaction ask "What have I misidentified as the answer?"
Then ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" There's always something. You just have to ask to see it.
Are you amazed at the miracle you be? Or have you decided that you're nothing special or good-for-nothing?
Whatever your point of view about yourself is, you're not wrong. Remember, your point of view creates your reality.
So if you're not ecstatically happy with your life and living, and would prefer an amazing, miraculous life, then ask "What miracle am I that could change this?"
What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you simply needed to change your point of view?
Had a tough year? Have you had to rearrange your life? Lost a job? Struggled with money? Argued with friends and family? Been isolated or felt alone?
If so, and you'd like to change how you feel about it, ask "What's the gift of all this?"
Maybe you've been gifted time or space to do something you'd wanted to for a while? Perhaps the shake up gifted you a fresh perspective on what you truly desire as your life and living? Have new people who appeared in your life been the gift of friends who finally 'get' you? Did being alone gift you an awareness of your true strength and abilities? What else?
There is always a gift. You just have to turn over all the stones and be willing to see it.
What do you do when you're full of energy and ideas, seeking to create wonderful new things?
Do you stay focused on your target? Or are you distracted by the myriad of things you've decided could go 'wrong' and all the people who you know will try and bring you down?
Do you experience any physical sensations of dis-ease, in your stomach, head, neck, chest, or anywhere else?
If you sense you're being sucked into the vortex of distraction, ask "What will it take for me to be ease?"
When you're at ease, you function from elegance: creating the greatest amount with the least effort by following the energy of what's light for you and considering nothing 'wrong,' simply right things you don't yet get.
How are you feeling today? Light and breezy? Or heavy and clunky?
What bodily sensation do you prefer? Which bodily state allows you to create everything you'd like? Does one bog you down, or speed you up?
When you are light, remember that whatever is going on in your life is right for you. The exact same situation might not be right for someone else, and they may feel clunky.
So if feeling light gives you ease and enables you to create your life greater than you could imagine, ask "Am I light?" whenever you're choosing something or taking action.
If you sense a heaviness, then simply ask a question about what else you could be choosing.
How often are you grateful for things that are showing up in your life? Do you spend much time thinking about what's wrong in the world?
Remember how you get more of what you focus your attention on? So if you'd like an easier, more rewarding and joyful life, shift your focus from limitations to possibilities.
Rather than focusing on what is wrong with the world or what you don't have, be grateful for what you do have that others might not, and ask what contribution you could be. For example, do you have food to eat, clothes to wear, clean water, a place to sleep, energy to warm and cool you, are you literate, do you have access to communications and information, do you have someone to talk to? What other talents and abilities do you have that other people might not have?
So next time you're feeling down, ask yourself “What choices do I have right now that others don't?” Then smile and ask "How did I get so lucky?!" If you'd like to continue, ask "What choice could I make in these 10 seconds that would make the greatest contribution to me and my communities?" and choose that. Smile and repeat.
Do you find yourself allowing other people to walk all over you? You're in allowance of all their points of view and judgements, smiling, listening, asking questions.
Perhaps you're hoping that one day they might listen back to you, ask you a question or two, and see your point of view?
The 'oneness' of our infinite free will universe includes everything and judges nothing. This includes meanness, gaslighting, belittling, and a vast array of behaviours you may not find enjoyable, but others do. Oneness also includes infinite choice, including your ability to choose what you enjoy.
So next time you're not enjoying being walked over by meanness, gaslighting, belittling or any other unpleasant behaviour, ask yourself "Am I being a doormat?"
If you sense you are, then remember you can simply smile, walk away, and choose something else.
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