Do you feel like your life is a mess? Is nothing quite working out the way you thought it would? Do people you thought you could rely on keep leaving you stranded?

Have you asked lots of questions, but nothing is showing up how you expected it to? Do you feel like everything is falling apart? If so, ask "What if falling apart was falling together?"

What if all those things you've been working on 25/8, bleeding sweat and tears, were still works in progress? What if the universe was rearranging things is a way you can't yet imagine? What if the mess were simply mid-creation?

Before you decide something is not working, stop and ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" and "What will it take for this to turn out better than I could ever imagine?" Then smile an enjoy the creative process. 

Do you have a great new job that everyone is proud or envious of? Are you working on a project you believe has a higher purpose or great value? Have you me The One? Is your being, body, heart, mind and soul buzzing with orgasmic pleasure?

Or not? Do you have a sense of heaviness, constrictive breathlessness, or overwhelm? Are you stressed? Is your body suffering? Have you put this down to 'new job/ project/ relationship pains'?

Would you like to experience more ease and joy in life, including with any new additions like this? If so, ask "Am I creating my life for the joy of it, or something else?"

When you create your life from the joy, everything sings: your heart, mind, and every cell of your body and being. If you sense a part of you in not singing, destroy and uncreate anything you have made significant and ask "What could I be doing differently to create more joy?"

Then smile and play and find what brings you real joy. 

Do you ever think that only if you had more money, your life would be better? That money is the solution to your problems? That if only you had the money, you could do the thinks you'd really like?

Is money really the answer to your life? If you had all the money you desired, would all your problems go away? Or would you create new problems, even if you had a bottomless bank account?

If you know you'd probably be creating new problems, then was money really the problem? Or was the problem something else?

Does money create your life, or do you?

If you'd like clarity about why you're not choosing what you'd really like as your life, ask "What if money wasn't the problem?"

Have you decided money is a convenient, acceptable excuse for not showing up as you'd really like? What if by choosing to show up as you, money came and joined the party?

When you wake up in the morning, what goes through your head? Ugh, coffee, shower, kids, work, chores, exhausted, bored, sigh, ugh? Or something else?

How do your days usually turn out? Do you notice when you wake up with sighs and ughs your day often continues with a stream of the same? 

What about when you start the day with a question, like "Who am I today and what grand and glorious adventures can I have?" Does your day have the same, or different energy?

So what will you choose today? More sighs and ughs? Or something else? If you'd like something else, ask "What will I choose today to experience the joy of living?"

Whatever comes to mind, heart, or body that makes you smile, choose that, no matter how left of field it might seem. 

What if the magic of life were that you get to choose and create it just the way you like. You just have to ask. 

Do you have a business and are looking to create new clients? Have you decided you have to work out an aggressive action plan to secure new contracts? Are you feeling heavy, paralysed by inaction, even a little depressed?

What if you could invite clients into your business with greater ease? If you'd like to find out what else is possible, ask "What about my business gives me joy?"

Whatever that is, pull that energy of the JOY of your business from everywhere in the universe through you and fill your business with it. Then send trickles of it out into the world to everyone who is looking for your services or products. 

Carry that joy around with you in abundance. 

Everyday as you do this, ask "Who or what can I be or do today that will contribute to my business?" Notice what comes to mind, then be or do that. 

When you exude abundant joy, and are being or doing whatever your business requires, will you attract new clients? Play with it and see. 

Are you a parent, or thinking about growing some kids?

Do you feel like a beach ball on the ocean being battered by waves in the middle of a storm of advice? People telling you what you must/must not do to be a 'successful' parent? And if you don't, UH OH, your poor kids...

Does this help you smile and enjoy being a parent, or potential parent? Or not so much?

What if parenting wasn't what you thought it was? What if it could be whatever you chose it to be? What would that be?

Try this on for size. Ask yourself "What if my job as a parent was to be joyful?" What would create more joy for you as a parent? Acknowledging everyone else's points of view as interesting, then asking "Does this work for me?" and creating your life based on your own awareness? 

What if the greatest gift you could offer your children was to show them the joy of life and living is whatever they choose it to be. 

Think of the last time you were in a class, meeting, workout, or family gathering. How did you feel? Tired? Drained? Bored?

Were you dreaming of a good lie down, yearning for some chocolate (or something stronger), or wondering what on earth you were doing there?

What were your students, teacher, boss, co-workers, trainer, coach, family or friends doing? Were they smiling and joyful, offering expressions of encouragement, support and understanding? Or were their brows furrowed, their faces blank or glued to their phones?

Do you sense the energetic difference between someone who smiles at you and tells you "Yes, let's do this think! Great going!" and someone who looks serious or glum and tells you "No, not like that. Do it right like this!" or someone who never looks up from their phone? 

Next time you find you're in a situation like this, ask "What energy could my smile contribute?" If you sense it could create change, then smile. And if you sense that they won't choose to change, then you can always smile and walk away. 

What if a smile alone created more joyful energy in your life? Would you choose to smile even more?

What do people around you talk about? Do they gossip and talk endlessly about the next instalment of the trauma and drama in their, or other people's lives? Do they usually focus on who did what bad thing to someone else? Or maybe they talk about hair, makeup, furniture, renovations, drinking, sports, cars, or some other 'desirable' objects? 

Or course there is nothing wrong with these things if they're fun for you. So do you enjoy it and join in? Does it make you feel uncomfortable or get you down? Or are you simply puzzled why people spend their time talking about things like this? 

If you're not enjoying the conversations around you ask "What do I enjoy talking about?" and notice what comes to mind. If you realise what you enjoy doesn't match what people around you are talking about, simply acknowledge it with "How interesting I don't enjoy this." Then gently extract yourself. 

If you can't immediately remove yourself from the conversation, a smile, a nod, and interesting point of view energy will take you out of resist and react. What if by not engaging in the talk, you changed the conversation?

And you can always ask "What will it take for more fun people to come and play?" and find people who are more in your zone. 

Have you found someone special, who you absolutely adore? Do you wake up smiling about them, wondering when you're going to see them next, or being excited to tell them something?

Are you thinking about marriage, hoping they'll pop the question, or waiting for the right moment to ask?

What are your hopes, dreams and fantasies about getting married? Do you hope it will create something in your relationship that you don't yet have? Does it give you a sense of security and stability? Or do you consider it a great excuse for a party, and to say to everyone you care about "Hey, look at us! We like hanging out! Come and celebrate!"?

Perhaps you're uncertain about it? Do you have people in your life telling you how good/bad it is? If so, and you'd like more clarity, ask "What does marriage mean to me?" Notice what comes to mind. Have you made marriage the answer to something? If so, you might want to ask another question. 

What does having children mean to you? Have you ever said "I'm never going to have children" or "I don't think I'd be a good parent"?

What does parenting mean to you? What have you decided being a parent has to be? Have you based that decision on what your parents, friends, relatives, neighbours, 'experts', or the media have told you?

Do these expectations about having children and becoming a parent feel light or heavy to you? Are you stressed or conflicted about what to do? How is this impacting on your relationships with your insignificant other?

Wht if you could create a different reality for you as a parent? A reality that was light, exciting and joyful?

If you'd like to find out, ask "What if being a parent wasn't what I thought it was?" and destroy and uncreate everything you have made real about what other people have told you.

Then get clear on the energy on the life you'd really like and see where that leads you. 

Right now, who in your life are you doing your best to help, support, love, care for, work hard for, or contribute to?

Do you get the results you know are possible? Or are you saddened, disheartened, disappointed, puzzled, upset, frustrated, annoyed, or even angered by how little impact you seem to be having? Are they treating you like rubbish?

Who do you make wrong? Them, or you? Do you re-double your efforts and go out of your way to do whatever you think is required, to no effect? Do you feel like rubbish?

If you'd like to create a different possibility, ask "Have I made this person greater than me?" Then acknowledge how great YOU are, regardless of what others would have you believe?

What if no one were greater? What if everyone were just different, including that some people simply won't choose change, no matter how great you can see it could be?

Would you be willing to be the greatest you are first? And then invite others to come play?

Do you like change? 

Do you get excited when a new gadget is announced? When your work/life is rearranged? Your holiday plans are suddenly upended? When someone you regard highly does something you didn't expect? When your favourite coffee shop closes?

Or do you become annoyed, worried, frustrated, even angry? Do you try to make someone right or wrong? Do you start thinking something is "wrong with the world" and lament "if only things didn't change?"

What if nothing were wrong?

What if change was needed to create something even greater? So next time you feel uncomfortable about a change, ask "What if change were required?"

Then smile and enjoy what shows up next. 

Have you had a bad day...week/month/YEAR? Did you bump into someone's parked car when you were backing down the driveway? Did you get a bill 10 times what you were expecting? Did youfind out the times had changes on an event you'd been promoting, an hour before it was due to start? Did you create a fight when you thought you were being helpful? Did someone tell you how much rubbish you are? did you have ALL of these in one day?

Do you feel like crying? Having a stiff drink? Jumping off a cliff? Something else?

If you'd like something else, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Then ask "What would make me giggle right now?"

Remember when you were five, and everything made you giggle? Find ONE thing and pull that energy through you, and keep looking for MORE thinks, until you lighten, smile...and maybe even giggle. Even if it's to giggle at yourself for being Cute, Not Bright.

Is your priority in life to help people? What do you like about helping people? Would you like to change the world? Do you know that, with your support, some people could create the change you'd like to see? You're not wrong.

Has it always been easy for you to help people? Or do you find it a struggle, where time, money, and people always seem to thwart your efforts?

Would you like to create the greatest change with the greatest ease? Then start here. Whenever you see possibilities in someone, and feel the desire to help them, first ask "How can I help you?" 

Then listen. 

Be aware, some people do not desire change, no matter how great your effort. Others may like your help, but not to change, just to fill their need. 

This question will enable you to see exactly what people are looking for, so you can help them create the greatest change possible for them at that stage. Continue to ask along the way. You never know, their willingness to receive may change. 

Right now, get the energy of your life as it is today. What does it smell like, taste like, feel like? What sounds do you hear, what sights do you see, how much do you smile, laugh, and do the things you really love?

Got it? Remember it. Put it in your pocket. 

Now ask yourself "If time, money and everyone else's points of view were not real, what would I like the energy of my life to be like?" What would it smell like, taste like, feel like? What sounds would you hear, what sights would you see, how much would you be smiling, laughing, and doing the things you really love? Who would you be in it, where would you be, and what would you be doing?

Got it? Now check the energy of this life, the life you'd like. Is it the same, or different to the energy of the life you have now? If it's different, remember it. Hold it in your hands. Whenever you consider adding something or someone to your life, check its energy, by asking "Is this the energy of the life I'd really like?"

What's your story? You know, the one you tell every time you meet someone new. The one you replay in your head like an old film? How does it go for you? Is it a roll call of well-known schools, colleges, companies, achievements and who you know? Is a tale of woe, misery, and hardship? Are you the victor? Are you the victim? Do you laugh? Do you cry?

Is it real? You point of view creates your reality. So if your point of view is that your story is your life, then it is real. 

You are welcome to keep your story if it is working for you. Be aware that if you would like to create change in your life, re-runs of your story will serve only to re-create that life, over and over. 

If you'd like to create a different life, you must be willing to give up all your old stories. If so, ask "What if I changed the story of my life?" Then make up something outrageously fun and rewarding to tell. Who know how quickly it could become real?

How's your body? Light and lively? Molecularly intertwined with the sofa? Or somewhere in between?

You have a body, right? Have you ever considered what you created it for? Did you create it simply to carry your all-important brain around? Or perhaps it was just to procreate and give brith to more brains with transport?

What if you created a body so you could enjoy the smells, tastes, textures, sights, sounds, movements, and all the other orgasmic physical sensations of life?

How much of that physical joy do you experience now? A lot, or not much at all?

If you sense you're no longer experiencing the full range that your body is capable of — and is probably champing at the bit for — as "Body, would you like to wiggle?" Then jiggle it a bit and see what it tells you. It might just take the lead and waltz you around the floor. 

How seriously do you take your work, business, career, life in general? Do you spend long, worried house thinking about your future? Does life in general feel heavy? Do you sleep well?

Would you prefer to create your life with greater ease, joy and success in general? Then consider play. 

Think of kids. Are they insatiably curious, boisterously energetic, manipulators extraordinaire, unwilling to take 'no' for an answer, and always see the reasons why you should do something (rather than why you shouldn't)?

Kids can have nothing but a stick and a puddle of mud, and yet create an entire universe. And when that creation is complete, do they smash it to smithereens, giggle and create another one? They smile, laugh and love every moment of life. This is the energy of play. 

If you'd like more of this energy, ask "What if I created my life with play?" Including with these questions. Rather than taking them seriously, what if you played with them?

Indeed. This has far too many exclamation marks to be a question. So let's call it a demand. 

And let's talk about fun. How much do you have? What about the people you hang out with? Work? Family life? Is it all fun, or at least have fun bits to it? Whatever the case, would you like to increase your life's fun factor?

I'm assuming you said yes. So start by asking
"What fun can I add to my life?"
"How much fun can I have today?" and
"What will it take for more fun people to come and play?"

Then make the demand "Fun! Fun! Bring it on!"

What makes you laugh? Doing something silly like skipping around your desk or wiggling your bottom? Being told a lame joke? Jamming on the ukulele and singing loudly? Baking a cake? Getting a massage? Buying shoes? Playing golf? Lifting heavy weights? Talking to your cat?

Whatever that is for you, are you willing to demand more? Go on. I dare you. 

How much do you trust yourself? A lot, a little, or not at all?

Do you allow yourself to create your life as you follow its energy? Or do you think you have to have it all mapped out, approved, signed, sealed and delivered before you can take the next step? You've got to have a business plan, approved by the bank and authorities. Directions and principles ratified by your boss, parents, insignificant other, or even your children?

After all this, how light do you feel about creating your life?

If you feel like you're trapped in concrete shoes and can't move until you're clear about your next step, ask "What if I trusted myself more?"

Who knows most about you and your life? Everyone else? Or YOU. What if your hesitation or confusion about what to do next was simply missing information? And what if you already had that information, but just hadn't found it yet? Are you ready to ask yourself for it now?

Do you have a target? Great! It's always good to have something to aim at and shoot over. Aim for the moon so you can hit the stars, as they say. 

What about goals? Got any of these: when I make a million dollars I'll be set; when I meet The One I'll be happy; when I'm promoted my parents will see me; what else?

Do you ever seem to achieve your goal? Or do you often find you get within reach, but never quite there? Do you ask questions like "What will it take for me to achieve X?" and then it doesn't happen? 

Are you asking real questions, or have you decided what you want, and then stick a question mark at the end?

If you find yourself almost creating what you think you'd like, ask "What have I made significant?" and let it go. Whatever that is — a person, a dollar sign, a job, an event — remove that specific and ask another question. 

Are you fabulous? Yes, of course you are! Faster than a speeding flapjack, more powerful than a grizzly toddler, and able to leap high obstacles at work and lego in the lounge room. 

You can do it ALL. The question is, how much fun is it for you to do it all? Do you ever get a pain in your neck, or upper or lower back? Who's that pain and what's the burden weighing you down?

Did you know that kids — even the grown-up married-to-you kind — can do amazing things if you ask them? Do you ask them? Or do you smoulder under the "Can't they see how busy I am and why am I the only one who knows how to do this?" heap of mulch until you ignite?

If you have a hint of any burden on your back, or would simply like to increase the fun factor in your life, ask "What if I didn't have to do it all myself?"

And then invite others around you to contribute to their and your lives. 

Are you plagued by past events? Bugged by people who "did you wrong" somewhere, sometime, long ago? Do events and people from 1, 2, 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago seep into your dreams and shake you awake? Do you think "If only I'd done/said X it would have all been different?" Do you finally have the perfect retort?

If you'd like to be free of the past to enjoy your present, ask "What have I made significant about the past that isn't true?"

If you had not created your life exactly the way you have — including all the not-so-great episodes — would you be the same person you are now?

Would you prefer to be the now-you, or a different-you? If you are happy being the now-you, then remind yourself by asking "What if there was nothing wrong with my past?"

And if you'd prefer to be a different-you, you can be. Just choose it. 

What does money mean to you? Are any of these points of view yours? 

• Money is a necessary evil so I can eat and have a roof over my head.
• Nothing in life is free, so I need to work hard to earn money to survive. 
• The more I have, the more people will respect and value me. 
• I might not be able to buy happiness, but money will make the ride a whole lot easier. 
• What else?

How do your points of view about money make you feel? Light or heavy? How often does money make you smile, laugh and light up with joy? Every day, or just on pay day?

If you'd like more lightness and joy about money, ask "What if everything about money was doing it for the fun of it?"

How you make money, and how you view making money is a choice. You can choose fun, or no-fun. And there is no right choice. Only a choice that works for you.