How have I defined success?

What does success mean to you? Getting into that school? Getting that job? Or that person? Or that house? Having a cool sports car? Or a millions dollars in the bank? Or a beach view apartment? Or an impressive title?

Nothing wrong with having a clear idea about what would be fun for you. The question is, did you select these things because they would be fun for you?

Or did you select these things because you decided - or someone else told you - that they would show other people you were successful? And that until you had those things, you must work long and hard, and make sacrifices, including not doing the things you really enjoy?

If you're not enjoying life right now, ask "How have I defined success?" and get clear on what is driving you. 

What if you drove yourself and defined success in ways that worked for you? For example, "What will it take for me to bounce out of bed every morning, smiling and inspired by everything I do and everyone I meet?"

You can of course add "...with some fun, cool wheels to get me around, or something greater?"