What am I excluding here?

What have you decided you do not want in your life? People who lie, cheat and steal? Unreliable and flakey people? Bossy and know-it-all people? What else?

How much energy do you spend judging people in an effort to keep certain things out of your life? Does it ever work? Is it fun for you? Does it expand your life in ways you'd like?

If not, rather than judging and excluding, be in allowance and inclusive. 

When you exclude, you define the limits of what you are willing to receive and shut off your access to infinite possibilities. 

So when you notice you're trying to avoid someone, ask "What am I excluding here, that if I were to be in allowance of would contribute to my life in ways I can't yet imagine?"

Will this put you at the mercy of people? No. When you are aware and inclusive you will see what's going on and how to choose the bits that work for you. 

As a result, they may exclude you from their lives, because you're no longer fun for them.