What could be possible if I changed my point of view?

What fixed points of view do you have about who and what you have to be/ do/ have/ think in life?

For example, I have to get married because my mother expects it. I can't take a year off school to travel because my father wouldn't like it. I have to get into that organisation because otherwise I'll be a failure. I have to cook dinner every night otherwise I'll be a bad parent. I can't be nice because the tough kids will make fun of me. I can't speak my mind because people will call me a 'Karen.' I have to believe everything other people tell me or I'll have no friends. 

Do you spend all your energy, time and money on this hamster wheel? Is it fun? Does it create the happiness you'd like? 

If not, ask "What could be possible if I changed my point of view?"

What if every 'I have to' and 'I can't' were just points of view that you could change? What point of view would you start with?