Is this person really my friend?

How often do you get into upsets with friends, or are hurt by the things they say or do? Rarely, a lot, or all the time?

​What is a friend? Someone who enjoys you in total allowance? Someone who acknowledges you just as you are and all the crazy choices you might make, without judgement? Someone who is fun to hang out with and adds to your life, and is grateful to you for adding to theirs. Do you have anyone in your life like that right now? 

Next time you experience upset, hurt, anger, or have some other uncomfortable sensation in relation to a 'friend', ask yourself "Is this person really my friend?"  What's light is right for you, remember.

If you notice your current friends spend most of their time telling you how you're wrong and should change because they 'care about you,' ask them "Would you like to be my friend? Then you need to stop judging me. If not, that's ok. I'll miss you and hope you have a great life." Then smile and walk away knowing you've just created a great space for new friends to walk into. 

And if you do find yourself without friends, start with one: you. Are you willing to be your best friend? What if your energy of space and allowance was the invitation for others like that  to find you and ask to play?