Where am I in this?

​When you ask questions about change, how often is your question focused on changing someone, or something outside yourself?

For example, you don't enjoy working in your family business; you do it to keep the incoming money in the family. So maybe you ask questions, like "What will it take for more customers to spend their money in the business?" or "What will it take for the other family members to do their jobs even better?" Your point of view being that the more income to the business, the easier it will be to hire someone to do your job. Or the better other family members do their job, the less you'll have to work. 

You may create that outcome. Or you may create something completely different, including one which requires you to be even more involved. The opposite of what you're looking for.

To make sure you create the changes you'd actually like, be clear that your questions include you, by asking "Where am I in this?" 

In this situation, you could ask "What will it take for the business to thrive and no longer require my labour, or something greater than I can imagine?" ​