What are you afraid of right now? Think of that, and then ask yourself "Is this reality, or fear?"
Fear can be real, for example when you're confronted by a lion. Real fear will cause immediate action to resolve the situation, ie run away from the lion. Unreal fear is something different. Unreal fear is used by people for control, to make other people do what they say and take no independent action of their own. Inaction is a telltale sign of unreal fear. Whatever your fear is right now, you have choices. For example, you can choose to constrict your universe to avoid ever having to confront your fear. Or you can choose to do what you're told and cement the unreal fear into your reality. Or you can ask yourself "Am I willing to do whatever it takes to change the thing I am afraid of?" There is no right or wrong choice. They are simply choices. Choice create awareness and you can always make another choice, and another, and another ad infinitum. It's worth remembering that a bully is only a bully as long as you agree to live in fear of what the bully might do. When you choose to step out of fear, you can see everything else that is possible. Are you willing to see the bullies in your life, acknowledge them for what they are, and choose for you?
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Do you cry a lot? Do you enjoy crying?
Sometimes crying is a way for your body to release tension. Is that what you're doing? To find out, ask yourself "How am I using these tears?" If you become aware that you are using tears as a tool, a weapon, for protection or any other kind of manipulation, ask yourself "What am I doing here? Is it really working?" And if you become aware that your tears are not creating the changes you'd like, ask "What else is possible?" Of course you can also ask these questions of anyone — directly or silently to yourself to gain awareness — if you have someone in your life who cries a lot. Crying is not a wrongness and these questions are simply one way to expand your awareness of what is really going on in case you'd like to create a change. When you see someone crying or in distress, what do you do? Do you reach out and try to comfort them? Or you give them a tissue and allow them to cry?
When you reach out to comfort them, how does it work out? Do they try to stop because crying is not the 'polite' thing to do? Do you get caught up in their world of trauma and drama? Do you feel bad for not being able to help them no matter what you do? Are they able to clear what's going on with them? How much freedom and possibility do you sense in these responses? If you'd like to create space for people to move through their tears, ask "Am I willing to let them cry?" Crying is not wrong. Have you ever noticed that when you've locked tension into your body to avoid something, your body will sometimes release this tension through tears? Being in total allowance of someone as they cry, as they break apart so they can fall together, is one of the greatest gifts of caring you can be. You're not 'taking care' of them, you are caring about them enough to allow them to go through whatever they have to go through, and come out the other side. Are you willing to allow people to ask for assistance when they require it, not when you've decided you need to make them feel better? What do you do when something goes 'wrong' for you? For example, you've asked a question, made a choice, had an awareness, followed the energy...and then things didn't turn out how you thought they would.
What did you do? Did you go into the wrongness of you, blaming yourself for asking the 'wrong' question or making the 'wrong' choice? If so, and you'd prefer not to make yourself 'wrong', ask yourself "What gifts have I created?" There's always something, you simply need to look. At the very least you are now aware of something you weren't before. And at best you may discover something or someone wonderful that you would have never otherwise found. What points of view do you have about your body? Are you happy with it? Do you tolerate it at best? Or maybe you outright hate it?
How's your body doing? Does it serve you well? Are you fit and healthy? Maybe it has a few aches and pains? Or perhaps you have a chronic illness, or are even near death? Think of a pet or a plant. Scientific studies show that when you project happy positive actions and thoughts toward your pet or plant, they thrive. And if not, well...no prizes for guessing what happens. Whatever is going on with your body, if you'd like to create something even better, ask "What if I loved my body?" Do you find yourself often depressed?
Do you enjoy being depressed? Does it work for you? If it does, no problem. If not and you'd like not to be depressed ask yourself "Is this depression mine, or someone else's?" When it lightens, say "Return to sender with consciousness." Maybe you've grown up with a parent who was depressed and tried to take the depression away from them? Perhaps you're surrounded by a world of people overflowing with despair and you're body is soaking it up? Whatever the source, it doesn't matter. If it's not yours, just ask it to leave. On the other hand, if you're choosing depression ask yourself "What if instead of spending all my energy to create depression, I simply enjoyed my day?" And if none of that changes your depression, ask "What do I love about this?" and "What's the value of this?" How much evil, meanness and ugliness can you see in the world? Not much, a bit, or everywhere you look?
When you see evil, meanness and ugliness, what do you do? Do you resist and react to it, trying to fix it? How does that work out? If you'd like greater ease and possibility, ask yourself "What if evil, mean and ugly were just a choice?" Now breath. People choose to do evil, mean and ugly things all the time just because they can. When you are able to see all the evil, meanness and ugliness in the world and recognise that it is all simply an interesting point of view — it's not right or wrong, or good or bad, it's just a choice people make — then you will no longer be the effect of it. When you are the effect of something, how free are you to create the changes you'd really like? When you resist and react to something, do you dissipate, or solidify the thing you're reacting to? What if by being in total allowance of everything — including the evil, mean & ugly — you created more possibilities for the world you desire than you ever imagined? Have you ever noticed yourself striving to have someone else — your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your partner, your kids, or even random strangers — see you and acknowledge you and what you're doing?
Like when you started a job or project and throw yourself into it enthusiastically 24/7. Do you do that purely because it's fun for you? Or are you doing some part (even all) of it to prove your worth to someone else? Does anyone ever acknowledge your value? When they don't, what do you do? Do you react, working even more frantically on it? Or maybe you do the opposite and completely lose motivation? If you'd prefer an alternative, when you notice people's lack of interest in what you're doing, ask yourself "What if I didn't need to prove how valuable I was?" Then if you sense the project is not really fun for you and you were only doing it to prove something to someone, you can choose to simply stop. Or if your sense of excitement about the project grows, with allowance say to yourself "Aah well, I wasn't doing it for them anyway. I'll keep doing it 'cause it's fun for me! Just for me, just for fun, never tell anyone"? All just choices valid for 10 seconds at a time. The reality is, you always have a choice.
When someone tells you to do something, and you do it, you are choosing to do what they tell you. Another choice would be to look at what they're telling you, see how light it feels for you, and say "Thanks for the suggestion. That doesn't work for me right now. I'm choosing something else." How many things are you choosing now based on what someone else is telling you? None, a few, a lot, or everything in your life? If you're completely happy with your life the way it is right now, great! If not, and you realise you've been choosing to be controlled by other people, ask yourself "Am I willing to create a completely new reality on planet earth?" Remember, you're an infinite being with infinite free choice. What amazing new reality could you create simply by choosing for you? What do you do when something goes 'wrong'? Do you think clearly and ask yourself calmly "What's right about this I'm not getting?" Or do you get upset?
What happens when you get upset? Does your awareness expand, or contract? Can you see and create more, or less? There is nothing wrong with being upset. Choose it if it's fun for you. If you'd prefer to be free of trauma and drama and have greater possibilities, ask "What choices would I have if I weren't upset?" What if by living from allowance — where everything is simply an interesting point of view — trauma and drama and upset and intrigue vanished, no one and nothing could control you, and everything in your life got easier? Would that be fun? Do you feel anxious or stressed about finding an answer to something you've decided is a problem?
When the thing or person you've decided is the answer doesn't turn out like you'd hoped or dreamt, what do you do? Do you ask a question, take action, make a choice? Or do you react by spiralling into uncertainty, inaction, depression, rage, blame, shame, guilt, regret or any other distraction? If so, and you'd like to change this reaction ask "What have I misidentified as the answer?" Then ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" There's always something. You just have to ask to see it. Are you amazed at the miracle you be? Or have you decided that you're nothing special or good-for-nothing?
Whatever your point of view about yourself is, you're not wrong. Remember, your point of view creates your reality. So if you're not ecstatically happy with your life and living, and would prefer an amazing, miraculous life, then ask "What miracle am I that could change this?" What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you simply needed to change your point of view? Had a tough year? Have you had to rearrange your life? Lost a job? Struggled with money? Argued with friends and family? Been isolated or felt alone?
If so, and you'd like to change how you feel about it, ask "What's the gift of all this?" Maybe you've been gifted time or space to do something you'd wanted to for a while? Perhaps the shake up gifted you a fresh perspective on what you truly desire as your life and living? Have new people who appeared in your life been the gift of friends who finally 'get' you? Did being alone gift you an awareness of your true strength and abilities? What else? There is always a gift. You just have to turn over all the stones and be willing to see it. What do you do when you're full of energy and ideas, seeking to create wonderful new things?
Do you stay focused on your target? Or are you distracted by the myriad of things you've decided could go 'wrong' and all the people who you know will try and bring you down? Do you experience any physical sensations of dis-ease, in your stomach, head, neck, chest, or anywhere else? If you sense you're being sucked into the vortex of distraction, ask "What will it take for me to be ease?" When you're at ease, you function from elegance: creating the greatest amount with the least effort by following the energy of what's light for you and considering nothing 'wrong,' simply right things you don't yet get. How are you feeling today? Light and breezy? Or heavy and clunky?
What bodily sensation do you prefer? Which bodily state allows you to create everything you'd like? Does one bog you down, or speed you up? When you are light, remember that whatever is going on in your life is right for you. The exact same situation might not be right for someone else, and they may feel clunky. So if feeling light gives you ease and enables you to create your life greater than you could imagine, ask "Am I light?" whenever you're choosing something or taking action. If you sense a heaviness, then simply ask a question about what else you could be choosing. How often are you grateful for things that are showing up in your life? Do you spend much time thinking about what's wrong in the world?
Remember how you get more of what you focus your attention on? So if you'd like an easier, more rewarding and joyful life, shift your focus from limitations to possibilities. Rather than focusing on what is wrong with the world or what you don't have, be grateful for what you do have that others might not, and ask what contribution you could be. For example, do you have food to eat, clothes to wear, clean water, a place to sleep, energy to warm and cool you, are you literate, do you have access to communications and information, do you have someone to talk to? What other talents and abilities do you have that other people might not have? So next time you're feeling down, ask yourself “What choices do I have right now that others don't?” Then smile and ask "How did I get so lucky?!" If you'd like to continue, ask "What choice could I make in these 10 seconds that would make the greatest contribution to me and my communities?" and choose that. Smile and repeat. Do you find yourself allowing other people to walk all over you? You're in allowance of all their points of view and judgements, smiling, listening, asking questions.
Perhaps you're hoping that one day they might listen back to you, ask you a question or two, and see your point of view? The 'oneness' of our infinite free will universe includes everything and judges nothing. This includes meanness, gaslighting, belittling, and a vast array of behaviours you may not find enjoyable, but others do. Oneness also includes infinite choice, including your ability to choose what you enjoy. So next time you're not enjoying being walked over by meanness, gaslighting, belittling or any other unpleasant behaviour, ask yourself "Am I being a doormat?" If you sense you are, then remember you can simply smile, walk away, and choose something else. Have you lived most of your life feeling 'wrong'?
No matter what you do, think, or say, do you judge and censure yourself constantly, trying to figure out whether it's right or wrong? Are you stuck in a loop of defending against and fighting for things, constructing barriers with others to prove something is right or wrong? Do you tie yourself up in knots making yourself wrong for everything? If you'd like to step out of this loop, start here. First remind yourself that right and wrong are "interesting points of view" and ask yourself "who do these points of view come from?" about any views you seem stuck on. When others come to you seeking a fight, say "Yes, you are right..." and when you notice your barriers coming up, ask yourself "What if being wrong was right?" What change could you create by acknowledging the diversity of points of view? What if there were freedom in being wrong? Do you live an exuberant life? How many things are you afraid of losing? Are you worried that people won't approve?
What if the only thing you had to lose was your limitation? What could you create then? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I lived like I had nothing to lose?" When you ask this and you choose for you, you may find family members, friends, jobs, habits, routines, or any number of things might disappear from your life. Rather than considering a loss, consider what you've gained. Space, time, energy and you. So now with your gained, space, time, energy and the real you, what will you create? What will you gain? Then again, you may not lose anything. People and things may adore the your newfound exuberance and multiple. What's going on that you need to 'make' your day? What if you just 'made it' starting now?
What if you had already 'made it' and you could make some even MORE great stuff? Would you be willing to make more? So ask, "What if I made my day? What would be the most fun for me to start making now?" then see what shows up and make that. Then make some more of that. Repeat. Do you ever find yourself surrounded by meanness or superiority? Maybe you only have one such person in your life, who is constantly tearing you down.
Do you find it easy to stand up for yourself? How willing are you to speak out about what's true for you? Are you always being nice? If you'd like to change the meanness in your world, or find greater ease in speaking out about what you believe in, ask "What's the value of being nice?" When did you buy the idea that 'being nice' was desirable above all else, even if it meant suppressing you? What if silence was simply a choice you made when you weren't willing to stand up with courage for what you knew to be true for you? What if you made another choice? Where have you been unwilling to speak up for what you know, for who you are, and for what is valuable to you? Where do you allow a few or even one voice to dominate you? Are you willing to see that your voice has value, credence and potency to create change beyond anything you've ever imagined possible? Has someone ever called you crazy or suggested that you might be from another planet? How did you respond? Did you smile and think "ah ha...you have no idea...." Or did you automatically go into the wrongness of you, work extra hard to try and fit in, and lock down your 'craziness'?
Do some people define you as crazy for trying to go beyond the bounds of their reality, while others define you as crazy for trying to fit in? Are you trapped in resistance and reaction to what people think? What could be possible if you rethought your definitions and stopped assuming that normality was always good, and abnormality was always bad? History repeatedly shows us that people with abnormal minds can solve abnormal problems. What if your 'craziness' was the gift the world required? Would you call that 'good'? So next time someone's hinting you're a little bit nuts, ask yourself, "What if I was crazy good?" Have you been shopping recently? Was it fun? Or did you get upset because you lost something, like a credit card, wallet or phone? Were you overcharged? Did you miss out on a car park or a bargain? Did your children have a meltdown? Did you leave feeling stressed and penniless?
If your experience was less than joyful, and you'd like to change your shopping (or any other) experience, ask "Is this mine, or someone else's?" Thoughts, feelings and emotions are transmitted invisibly and soundlessly like WiFi through everyone nearby. So if you're in the middle of a shopping centre filled with overworked, underpaid, stressed, unhappy people on a budget trying to buy a 'festive season,' be aware that you may pick up all their thoughts, feelings and emotions — even if financially you're comfortable and enjoy your work — and walk out feeling unhappy and overspent. Even if something does 'go wrong' and you lose something, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" and "How does it get any better than this?" smile and keep moving. How much stress do you normally experience when you spend time with your family, in-laws, or co-workers who are on a different wavelength to you? Have you got relatives who give you a hard time? Maybe you married the favourite cousin and you're 'not good enough'? Do some of them think it's 'fun' to laugh at your views on life? Or perhaps they're just plain mean ELFs who know you're an easy mark?
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Enjoy the Silly Season. Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason?
Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice? If you'd like a change, ask "What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?" Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change. And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, other mainstream media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating "interesting point of view" for everything you see, hear or read. How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of everyone around you and busing them as yours? Would you "return to sender with consciousness" please? |
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