How are you feeling today? Light and breezy? Or heavy and clunky?
What bodily sensation do you prefer? Which bodily state allows you to create everything you'd like? Does one bog you down, or speed you up? When you are light, remember that whatever is going on in your life is right for you. The exact same situation might not be right for someone else, and they may feel clunky. So if feeling light gives you ease and enables you to create your life greater than you could imagine, ask "Am I light?" whenever you're choosing something or taking action. If you sense a heaviness, then simply ask a question about what else you could be choosing.
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How often are you grateful for things that are showing up in your life? Do you spend much time thinking about what's wrong in the world?
Remember how you get more of what you focus your attention on? So if you'd like an easier, more rewarding and joyful life, shift your focus from limitations to possibilities. Rather than focusing on what is wrong with the world or what you don't have, be grateful for what you do have that others might not, and ask what contribution you could be. For example, do you have food to eat, clothes to wear, clean water, a place to sleep, energy to warm and cool you, are you literate, do you have access to communications and information, do you have someone to talk to? What other talents and abilities do you have that other people might not have? So next time you're feeling down, ask yourself “What choices do I have right now that others don't?” Then smile and ask "How did I get so lucky?!" If you'd like to continue, ask "What choice could I make in these 10 seconds that would make the greatest contribution to me and my communities?" and choose that. Smile and repeat. Do you live an exuberant life? How many things are you afraid of losing? Are you worried that people won't approve?
What if the only thing you had to lose was your limitation? What could you create then? If you'd like to find out, ask "What if I lived like I had nothing to lose?" When you ask this and you choose for you, you may find family members, friends, jobs, habits, routines, or any number of things might disappear from your life. Rather than considering a loss, consider what you've gained. Space, time, energy and you. So now with your gained, space, time, energy and the real you, what will you create? What will you gain? Then again, you may not lose anything. People and things may adore the your newfound exuberance and multiple. Do you live life to the fullest? Adding more and more and more and MORE, just because it's fun and you can?
Does taking so much on sometimes stress you, but can't stop because you feel you''d let everybody down? Have you decided that you have to keep going, no matter what? If so, and you'd like to create a little more ease for yourself, ask "What if taking a break was OK?" What if by taking a break, you created the space you required for something even greater to show up, for everyone? Have you been shopping recently? Was it fun? Or did you get upset because you lost something, like a credit card, wallet or phone? Were you overcharged? Did you miss out on a car park or a bargain? Did your children have a meltdown? Did you leave feeling stressed and penniless?
If your experience was less than joyful, and you'd like to change your shopping (or any other) experience, ask "Is this mine, or someone else's?" Thoughts, feelings and emotions are transmitted invisibly and soundlessly like WiFi through everyone nearby. So if you're in the middle of a shopping centre filled with overworked, underpaid, stressed, unhappy people on a budget trying to buy a 'festive season,' be aware that you may pick up all their thoughts, feelings and emotions — even if financially you're comfortable and enjoy your work — and walk out feeling unhappy and overspent. Even if something does 'go wrong' and you lose something, ask "What's right about this I'm not getting?" and "How does it get any better than this?" smile and keep moving. Do you have any stiffness in your body? In your neck, shoulders, spine, knees, wrists, or hands? Anywhere else?
Have you put it down to the natural ageing process, repetitive strain injury, sitting or standing too long in one position, or lack of certain vitamins or minerals? Do you expect that as you grow older your body will stiffen and eventually seize up? If these are your points of view, then you are not wrong. What if there were a different possibility? What about those spritely seniors who roller blade like teenagers, ride horses like cowboys, or dance like Latin lovers? What makes them so different? Could it simply be their points of view? If you'd like to find out, ask "What fixed points of view am I unwilling to let go?" How many layers of fixed points of view have you locked into your body and made so real that your body has lost its flexibility? What physical changes could you create with your body, simply by being willing to be "interesting point of view"? How much stress do you normally experience when you spend time with your family, in-laws, or co-workers who are on a different wavelength to you? Have you got relatives who give you a hard time? Maybe you married the favourite cousin and you're 'not good enough'? Do some of them think it's 'fun' to laugh at your views on life? Or perhaps they're just plain mean ELFs who know you're an easy mark?
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Enjoy the Silly Season. Do you consider change hard?
You know you're not entirely (or at all) satisfied with your work, business, relationships, health, body, or life in general, and you have an idea about what you'd prefer, and yet you can't seem to make it happen? Do you hear yourself saying "I'd like to do this, but I can't because..."? How many reasons and justifications do you have as to why your current situation, although not ideal, is easier to have than making waves and changing anything? What if change wasn't the hard part? If you'd like to find out what might open a door to greater possibilities, ask "Am I willing to acknowledge what I've chosen?" What if the hard part was acknowledging that everything you have created as your life until now had been your choice? There is no need to make it significant. Simply notice it and acknowledge that you are a magnificent creator. Now what do you choose to create? The same, or different? Do you strive for completion? Do you value having goals and focus your energy on achieving those? How do you feel when either you reach, or don't reach your goal? Does procrastination distract you along the way? Is the process fun?
If striving for completion does not give you the sense of fulfilment and satisfaction you were hoping for, and procrastination distracts you, ask "Having done this, what can I create from here?" What if nothing was ever a completion? What if you considered your work, business and your life in general an ongoing creation, of which you were fully present and created elegantly and joyfully? Elegance is the greatest result with the least effort. You create elegance when you are fully present and choose consciously and continuously. And procrastination? This often occurs when you have concluded something is a necessity, ignoring your awareness and without asking a question. What if it were all just choice? Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason?
Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice? If you'd like a change, ask "What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?" Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change. And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, other mainstream media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating "interesting point of view" for everything you see, hear or read. How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of everyone around you and busing them as yours? Would you "return to sender with consciousness" please? How's your sex life? Existent? Non-existent? Is it easy and fun? Is it full of strife and trouble? Or somewhere in between on auto-pilot?
How do you choose who you'll have sex with? Do you base it on body type? Personality traits? Future financial potentials? Or your inner monologue of "Thank you, thank you, thank you for having sex with me, no matter what you are!"? Would you like to create something different? If so, next time you meet someone you or your body responds to with that panting energy, ask "Will it be easy? Will it be fun? And will I learn something?" You may not get a 'yes' on all three and yet still choose to go ahead. No worries. If it's easy and fun, how does it get any better? If you only get that you'll learn something, you may want to ask more questions, like "How does it get any better than this?" and "What else is possible?" If you get none, you may want to smile and walk away. How often do you get into upsets with friends, or are hurt by the things they say or do? Rarely, a lot, or all the time?
What is a friend? Someone who enjoys you in total allowance? Someone who acknowledges you just as you are and all the crazy choices you might make, without judgement? Someone who is fun to hang out with and adds to your life, and is grateful to you for adding to theirs. Do you have anyone in your life like that right now? Next time you experience upset, hurt, anger, or have some other uncomfortable sensation in relation to a 'friend', ask yourself "Is this person really my friend?" What's light is right for you, remember. If you notice your current friends spend most of their time telling you how you're wrong and should change because they 'care about you,' ask them "Would you like to be my friend? Then you need to stop judging me. If not, that's ok. I'll miss you and hope you have a great life." Then smile and walk away knowing you've just created a great space for new friends to walk into. And if you do find yourself without friends, start with one: you. Are you willing to be your best friend? What if your energy of space and allowance was the invitation for others like that to find you and ask to play? Do you like routine? Is that what you strive to achieve? Something comfortable, known and secure? How often do you say "Once I get a system set up, a process in place, everything will be better?"
There's nothing wrong with comfortable, known and routine, when everything in your life is even better than you could imagine. What about when something is not working the way you'd like? Will comfortable, known and routine create the changes you'd like? Or will they set in concrete what's not working? So if you're looking for dynamic change, ask "What could I be or do different today that would help create the life, living and reality I'd really like?" Then notice what comes to mind, and be or do that. 'Different' is not the same as 'differently.' Differently is doing the same thing in different ways. Different is outside anything you have ever considered. What have you not yet imagined that, if you chose it, would contribute to your life? Don't know? Just ask. Are you surrounded by people telling you what is true, what is fake, and what you should stake your life on?
Do you have family, friends, experts and random strangers standing on 360 degrees of any particular issue, presenting you with a dizzying array of information and persuasive propositions? Does any of that help? Or do you feel more confused and hemmed into a reality that doesn't feel quite right? If you'd like to create space and ease when you're being bombarded by so many points of view, ask yourself about each one as it is presented to you "Is this light for me?" You know the breezy sense of space and weightlessness you have when everything is just right, and not the heavy, clunky feeling when something is not quite right and you sense a lie. In other words, if you feel light, it's right for you. If you feel heavy it's not right for you. What if none of these people were wrong? What if each of their points of view were 100% correct...for them? Just because something is right for someone else, doesn't mean it's right for you. Do you have a nagging ache, pain, sadness, or other uncomfortable physical sensation?
Have you tried all the usual things and yet it lingers? For example, have you asked "Who does this belong to?" and returning to sender when you become aware it's not yours? Or asking "Body, what are you telling me?" and following body's lead? If so, and you still have the ache, ask "Who or what am I unwilling to lose?" Notice if you recall any event or person from your life now, or in the past. Have you locked into your body something that you decided you can't let go, even though it's hurtful or toxic? Are you re-running an event in your body over and over, saying "If only I'd done this, it would have turned out better"? Or perhaps you're exhausting yourself with the dream that someone will change into the person you know they could be if they chose it, but instead you let them drive the knife in deeper? What if your willingness to let go of all the events and people you've locked into your body over your lifetime alleviated your niggling aches, pains, sadness, longings, or other chronic conditions? What space and ease would that create for you? Do you have something in your life that you'd like to change, but haven't yet because you fear you might lose family, friends, work, money, status, reputation or everything you've 'worked so hard to achieve'?
Does this fear keep you frozen and trapped by inaction? Would you like to thaw, expand outward and move into action? If so, ask "What if the only thing I had to lose was my limitation?" What if by making the changes you know you'd really like, you created more than you could ever imagine? What if this also contributed to everyone and everything around you? Certainly, some friends, family, professional and other acquaintances will not accept the changes you make and withdraw from your life. Would that be a loss, or a contribution? What's the difference? Only your point of view. Do you assume you have to eat when you feel hungry? Most people do. Do you feel compelled to preempt hunger pangs by filling up at regular intervals?
How's your relationship with your body? Comfortable, or not so much? Do you sense your body is telling you something? If you'd like to create greater ease with your body, rather than filling it up with food on auto-pilot 3-6 times a day, wait until you notice you're hungry, then ask "Body, what are you hungry for?" Certainly, your body may require food. In which case, then ask "Body, what would you like to eat?" and notice what comes to mind, or what menu item your eye is drawn to first. Or, your body might be hungry for something else, like movement, rest, warmth, cool, attention, relief, nurturing, sex, touch, change or a myriad of things you won't know until you ask. So ask it and see what comes to mind. What if hunger pains were your body enjoying and adjusting to the extra space, like a sigh of relief from the density of the food it didn't really desire? Are you a caring person? Can you always see exactly what someone could be doing differently to create an easier and happier life? And do you consider you're willing to do whatever it takes to help them get there?
How often do you see the results you know are possible? Usually, sometimes, or almost never? How easy and joyful is the process for you? If you are not seeing the results you'd hoped for, or the process is hard and you'd like to create change for you in the experience, ask "Am I caring? Or care-taking?" Care-taking is doing whatever the other person tells you to do, because it makes them feel better. This can include listening to stories, hand-holding, and crying in sympathy. Caring is empowering a person to create change, whatever that looks like, and can include doing nothing and saying 'no.' What empowers? Questions, choice, awareness, and contributing only when asked and when you know change is possible. What if caring was not the good deeds auto-pilot system you thought it was? What if it was simply the willingness to be aware of, an in allowance of other people's choices? When people ask you for something, how quickly do you respond?
Immediately? As soon as you can? Are you faster when they're clear on what they want and help you out? When you ask for something, what do you expect? Do you enjoy and contribute to the creation process? Or do you get impatient when you don't see results immediately and give up on the whole thing? One of the truths of the universe is "ask and you will receive." Does this say "ask and you will receive immediately, while you kick back and do nothing"? Does it say "ask for something vague and hope to receive what you secretly desire"? No. So if you'd like to take advantage of this universal truth, ask "Am I willing to ask, receive & enjoy contributing to the process?" What if by being clear about your desires, by being willing to do whatever it takes to create them, and by being patient knowing that it may take time for ducks to line up and for kittens to be herded, you received more than you could possibly imagine? Do you think you have to always put other people first? And if you don't, you're being selfish?
How does that work for you? Are you always taking care of other people's needs, wants, complaints, and cares before yours? Have you been able to create the life you'd really like? Or are you tired, frustrated, and losing money or your health from helping other people? If you've been doing everything other people want, thinking that it will help you, and you'd now like a change, start here. No matter who or what comes across your path, ask "How can I use this to my advantage?" and take notice. There may be something. There may be nothing. The point is to consider — honour — you first. What if by you considering you above all else, you contributed more to others than you could ever imagine? Is that being selfish? Are you looking to make changes in your life? Getting a new job? Starting (or ending) a relationship? Maybe even moving interstate? Getting a new hair style or tattoo? Or taking a stand on a global issue?
How do you know what choice to make? Have you listed all the pros and cons? Asked your family and friends? Looked into the crystal ball or Googled 'best choice'? Still stuck? Are you looking for the 'right' choice? What if there were no right choice? What if there were simply a choice? Are you willing to give up 'getting it right'? If so, ask "Which choice will be the greatest contribution to my life and living in these 10 seconds?" Then notice what comes to mind. It might not match your logical choice. Sense your choices and notice which feels heavy or light, which makes your heart pound (excitement misidentified as fear?), and which matches the energy of the life you'd like. Then just choose. Choice creates awareness. And you can always choose again. Are you feeling unsettled about something in your life? A relationship that's not working the way you'd hoped? A business that's not taking off like you expected? A job that's not as rewarding as you thought? Life disruptions that never seem to end?
Are you disappointed because you've been asking questions and inviting change, but it doesn't seem to be working? Have you decided that you got it wrong? What if there was nothing wrong with your questions, and nothing wrong with what's showing up? What if it was just different to what you expected? If you'd like help to see this, ask "What's right about this discomfort?" What if discomfort was you sensing change? Change might not be fast enough for you, and it might not show up like you expected at first...or ever. Be aware, that if you jump to a conclusion that your discomfort is bad and you try to stop it, you may just be stopping the change process midway. Do you have something in your life that you'd like to create or change? Have you asked lots of questions about it and yet nothing has shown up?
So what's going on? If you'd like to find out, then ask "Am I asking questions about a conclusion?" For example, have you ever asked "What would it take for me to find the love of my life/ get the perfect job/ afford a top Porsche/ make a million dollars/ have people recognise and support what I'm doing?" Are these questions, or conclusions? Do real questions have a specific result attached? Have your questions simply been conclusions with a question mark attached? If you'd really like to create something different, ask "What decisions, conclusions, and answers have I made about this?" and then ask a real question. So many fun games to play in the Silly Season. Here's another one.
Do you find yourself overcrowded with people in your house or workplace during the festive season? Or is there always that ONE person sucking up all the oxygen or boxing you into a corner? Here's a game to play at these times. The rules are simple. Whenever you start to feel you're folding, stapling, mutilating, or contracting yourself to fit into someone else's reality box, or you're gasping in the vacuum because they've sucked all the oxygen out of the room, or you feel pinned beneath the weight of your family/boss' baggage and expectations expand outwards. How? Just consciously ask your edges to move out. How far? As far as you need in all directions until you become lighter and spacier. Can anyone hang their baggage on your hooks if you're pure space? Will you have any hooks left? Practice this game. When you master it, you might even find people fall straight through you, flat on their face. And who said slapstick wasn't funny? Here's another game for when you find yourself in a Silly Season.
How do you normally approach special seasonal events or holidays? Do you prepare yourself to grin and bear all the things you think you're supposed to do? Do you go to places you'd rather not, or stay longer than you enjoy, because someone in your family or workplace has decided it's required? If you'd like to enjoy your holidays more, next time play a game of Nurture You Monopoly. The rules are: whatever arrangements your family or workplace has made, pre-plan a time and place to do something you really enjoy. Would that be a massage, pedicure, coffee with friends, a walk up the mountains or along the beach, or a game of golf? Or something else? Then devise an exit. Ask a friend to call you with an excuse. Pre-arrange a taxi to come and pick you up. When the phone call or taxi arrives, say "Thank you so much for today! I just have to pop out now to help my friend/mother/neighbour. I'll be back a bit later!" Then smile, LEAVE and nurture you. |
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